Do women ever grow up and stop whispering and giggling over people?

Question

I graduate college and get a job and I thought everyone was going to be professional. But I guess not. Friday all the new employees had to get their pictures taken and we have 2 offices one in different cities. Well I get a phone call and its a girl. She was like HIIIIIIIIIIIIII Mr. Martini how are you? Then she asked of another female worker at my office. And I just here here whispering I know he is really cute. And I can hear them both giggling on the phone. Then after she hung up she walked over by me and winked. That same girl has called like 3 times and talked to the other ladies at my office and they all just stare at me and giggle. Come some of these women are like 40! This is like the one time in my life that I wish I wasnt out numbered by women 2 to 1 at this office. Then our boss saw them giggleing today. And she was like yes I know ladies that we have some young new cute employees here but lets try to get back to work. And the whole office just turned to look at me and started laughing.

I hate being called cute.....Prolly because I think it etches away at my manhood since I'm short I feel insecure about it or something but all I know is it bothers me. So is this just my office or do men just catch and surpass women at maturity?

Answer 1

its just human nature, just ignore it.  

Answer 2

They are flirting with you.

If you don't like it, ignore it, or quit.

Sorry, but it's just that simple.

Answer 3

I've worked in many offices and have never had anything ongoing and as obvious as this, but it sounds like you're bringing some excitment to an otherwise, dull existence at a humdrum office setting.  Just have fun with it and enjoy it as long as you have it because you won't have it forever.

Answer 4

Dear Mr. Martini,

You are a victim of sexual harassment. If this behavior bothers you (and it does) then you need to confront your coworkers/peers/boss. You have rights and you should use them. Do not listen to the sheep who tell you that because you are male, you should perceive every female advance as an open invitation which you have a manly duty to act on.

You are a person, an educated person, who has a job to do and if your ability to do that job without unnecessary distress is being hindered by the advances and innuendos of these women, then you have an obligation to act on your rights and take steps to address the rampant sexual harassment you are suffering.

Just as women do themselves a disservice by not negotiating more aggressively for salaries, men do themselves a disservice by pretending it's not sexual harassment when it is.

I wish you luck on this. Don't be afraid. The law is on your side. You have a right to go to work and do your job without being humiliated, intimidated, ogled or harassed.

Incidentaly, you must be a very good looking man. Congratulations on that. May your looks serve you well.

In solidarity,

Lotus

Answer 5

Do women ever grow up and stop whispering and giggling over people?

No. They never do. Get used to it.

Answer 6

I'm obviously not a man... but here's my 2 cents... They just think that they're flirting with you. It sounds like they're a little bit immature for their age, but I haven't been in the workforce long enough to know if this is the norm behavior-wise. Oh, and don't feel bad about being called cute. I've heard women use the word "cute" to describe men who were over six feet tall. They think you look manly, it's just a less sexually charged (read more appropriate) way of saying you're hot. Sorry that they make you uncomfortable. It's kind of weird that they're acting this way.

Answer 7

They're being immature and unprofessional. Don't worry, they will soon learn that the office isn't a place for that kind of behavior. They'll either have to shape up or be fired.

Answer 8

I don't whisper and giggle over people.  In a professional setting I act, well...professional.

Answer 9

There's nothing wrong with being childish, being grown up all the time is no fun! Yes I'll still giggle and laugh at someone with a funny wig or hairstyle.

EDIT: If Mr Martini is serisouly your name doesn't everyone ask you whether you want to be shaken or stired???

Answer 10

You are 18 years old yourself - MAX (without a degree). Mygawd you can't even spell "giggling" correctly.

Your post is just an excuse to rant.

Answer 11

Your post made me giggle.



Just stand your ground: be polite, easy-going, firm, and professional.



Don't become the henpecked office boy.

My little story:

One day when we were all sitting together opening the post, the female office supervisor asked a quiet male if he had a tatoo. He looked up, and we all collapsed into giggles.  



But in normal practice I am reserved, professional, and avoid personal topics.  

Your story is very common, as long as offices are around so too will be the giggles. ~

Answer 12

Did I just read this? You have women apparently gravitating towards you and this is the question you ask!? DUDE - unless you're marries or currently seeking a long term relationship, or involved. Why aren't you laying pipes all around that flippin' office!

Answer 13

Hmm do you know how many women have been harrassed at work? Yet you think this immaturity and bothering you is a trait only women have.  How very naive of you.

Women often have to experience this kind of behaviour (and many times worse) from men in male dominated environments. They may suffer sexual and inappropriate comments and molestation. Its very common for women to feel objectified and something we have to deal with, you're only just finding out how unpleasant it can be.

Talk to your boss if it really bothers you this much, but they will probably settle down after you've been there a while.

Btw altho ur boss said "cute", these women probably actually think of you as the new office stud and mean it harmlessly.  I think if you let it wash all over you and take it on the chin, it shouldn't get to you or bug you.  They don't mean any harm, you've just brightened up their dull jobs.