Do women not like guys that haven't had a girlfriend in a long time.?

Question

I'm 27 now and I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 16. My last girlfriend dumped me on the day that my mother died and I wasn't ready to date again until not too long ago.

Now that I'm ready to find someone since I live in a small town most everyone knows everyone. I find it hard to find a girl that wants anything to do with me. They ask me things like why have I been single so long or what's wrong with me. I tell them there is nothing wrong with me. I just wasn't ready to date. They seem to not understand that not everyone need someone all the time. I don't understand why women are so critical of this. It's not like I'm going for a job here. There can be gaps in my relationship past.

What's wrong with most women?

Answer 1

Nothing is wrong with most women. Just like nothing is wrong with you.  I'd suggest you stop sharing your dating history too soon in a relationship.   If they ask at some point, be honest, don't say it's because you weren't ready to date, instead talk about what you've been doing with your time - like going to school focusing on  your education, working, traveling, etc.

Sorry to hear about your mom.  Some women might be afraid that you aren't healed yet and wonder why it took so long for you to heal.

Answer 2

Well a couple year gap is one thing, but 11 years??

That seems really extreme.

I think most women are going to be hesitant about that.

Sorry.

Answer 3

I can really sympathize with you on this one. I am in a situation that is similar - that is it has been almost 10 years since I had a relationship with a woman. And I get those responses too. It's like they think it's not normal. Men and women do think differently on many levels but you will find some that will see your side and not be so hung up on that. I think that women are looking for men that will commit to them. But why would the time spent out of the dating world be a factor? I mean if you had been dating many women (one after another) wouldn't that be something to avoid for a lady seeking a mate? But not to worry, you are still young and you will find someone that simply isn't bothered by that. I would suggest that you find someone to befriend first. Get to know them and how they are for real. The reason why so many relationships sour comes down to not knowing who they are dating. When people date they often put on a mask, so get to know that girl first. After some time, then start dating. I'm done with my counsel. That will be $150 please. : )