Do women only get turned on by men that don’t want s*x?

Question

Why is it that women get turned off when a man expresses sexual interest in them? I don’t even mean when it is some random guy hitting on her. I mean when a man and a woman are acquainted and they seem to like each other and she seems to be attracted to him. The woman might even be sexually attracted to him. But the second the guy says or does anything that shows his sexual interest, she gets turned off and loses all sexual attraction to him. Do women only get turned on by men that don’t want s*x?

Answer 1

OMG!!! I am the OPPOSITE! If the man is healthy and good looking and he wants it - I do too all the time. On the other hand, if the man doesn't want s*x I start to dislike him and I avoid him if it was someone I had hoped to have that kind of relationship with. But if he is old, bald, fat or otherwise ugly...then OMG I don't want him to desire me.

Answer 2

The problem is you're insensitive, a little more finesse would help

  

Answer 3

No. I believe you think this because you have misinterpreted a woman's interest in your friendship as sexual attraction. They turned you down because they only wanted to be friends in the first place, & they were never attracted to you. Females normally talk a lot, laugh, & share intimate details of their lives among themselves. Guys don't do this with one another. So when a female treats a guy the same way she would one of her gal-pals, the man (who usually is not used to this behavior amongst his guy friends) thinks it's flirting. It's no game. It's just that women are from Venus & men are from Mars.

Answer 4

I would, Yes. As a matter of fact, I'd find it quite refreshing. There is more to two people than just s*x.  

Answer 5

This makes no sense.

I guess my answer is...no(?).

Answer 6

when me and my husband first got a hotel together when we had got together he was so shy he was making me a cup of tea in the room and i was already naked in the bed lol! girls are often more forward than men in my experience.

(i couldnt helped myself i had been going out with him a week and a half and i had been dying to get him alone but we were in air force training!)

Answer 7

Whoa. Back up. Women DO get turned on when a man expresses sexual interest in them, it depends on the guy that shows them interest. And it depends on how open the girl is about her sexuality.

What you discribe is the majority of women, but most women are ready for action if the guy just screams s*x appeal to them in the guys appearance and behavior.

It's just that most guys aren't Brad Pitt or Antonio Banderas.

Now let the thumbs downs roll!

Answer 8

Uhhh we do get turned on by a man's sexual interest.  It's just that we're not turned on by every man that is interested in us. If a guy shows sexual interest in a woman he THINKS is sexually attracted in return but rebuffs him when he lays it on the table, then the guy completely misread the signs and the woman wasn't interested in him at all.  

Answer 9

My friend, you must understand, you MUST understand that you cannot spend your valuable time trying to analyze the behaviour of women.  This is counterproductive.  You are a man; when you want s*x you make it known.  If the partner fails to reciprocate, the date is over.  Don't preoccupy yourself with trying to understand the irrational mind; it's of no use.  You're a man; be a man (don't have non-consensual s*x) but if the partner is not willing to give you s*x if and when you ask for it, find another partner who will do so.

Answer 10

Not at all. Women love s*x just as much  as men. Find a new way to come at it, it might be a issue with  the woman , or it might be how your bringing it up.

Answer 11

No way! That's a huge turn off! I think that is one of the most sexiest things about guys. Most of them, believe it or not, Like s*x!

Answer 12

Women make no sense to me, either.

Your experience has led you to the conclusion that they are only attracted to guys who don't want them.

My experience has led me to the conclusion that women are only attracted to guys who don't know how to treat them well.  Good looks or not, good personality or not, even something as trivial as money, all matter relatively little when compared to only one thing.  

That one thing?  All that doesn't matter, only that her current boyfriend treats her worse than her previous boyfriend did.

It's beyond me.

Answer 13

Women aren't always turned off by sexual advances. It depends on the person. If she is attracted to someone but thinks s*x could ruin the relationship then she'll back off and not follow through. Or maybe one of her good friends likes the guy. Or maybe she knows his s*x history and doesn't want to get involved with him. There are a myriad of reasons a woman does not openly accept every sexual advance she encounters

Answer 14

Ever see a cat playing with yarn?  So long as you dangle the yarn in front of it, the cat is fascinated.  If you let the cat have the yarn, it quickly loses interest.  When you admit that you want a sexual relationship, she feels like she won.  Her prize?  A momentary ego boost.  She will move on and see if she can get another one from the next guy.  The solution?  Never let a woman think she has won completely.  So long as you seem within reach, she will chase you until she feels she has won.  This could be a long time if you are good at stringing her along.

Answer 15

Uh, I don't know of anyone who reacts this way, and I certainly don't.  Either change the type of women you go for, or change your approach to sexuality.  Women are sexual.  Maybe they just don't like the way you proposition them.

Answer 16

they do; but they dont want to feel they are just being used for s*x

Answer 17

No!

I think you might be fooled by a different phenomenon here. Up to a point, when conversing people tend to mirror each other in case of facial expression, body language, amount of information disclosed, etc. Men might mistake this mirroring behavior for sexual interest. When they make their desire more explicit, the mirroring stops and the woman wonders, "where did that come from?" And meanwhile the man's wondering, "Where did that go?"

Of course sometimes the desire is reciprocated in which case things go smoothly and you might not even notice the transition.