Do women (speaking generally of US women) really want the way women are veiwed to be changed?

Question

It seems to me that women are judged first and foremost by how they look in the US. While some noise is made that this is wrong, it also seems like women enjoy dressing up, make up, heels, hair salons, and the whole thing.

While carreers are much more important to women than ever (with this economy who has a choice), it still seems like being pretty is the number one thing for women, and it doesn't seem very forced.

In general are women happy to be validated mainly by how they look or is there something else?

Answer 1

I would like to be taken as someone who is capable. Too many people 'look out for me' or 'offer me advise' and tell me that "I should feel privileged that others look out for me". that is not a privilege. I would like to be treated as believed in, taken seriously, capable, and equal. Not someone that 'makes efforts'. So many little comments and actions reduce my capabilities as a women, to that of lower than a males. So many men willing 'to help out' implies that I need help.  I would like to be taken seriously as a person and human being that is able and capable. Not in need of such 'privileges' as others trying to help me live and offering advise on how to do so sucessfully.

Answer 2

How many generalizations can you fit into one question?

Not all US women are clones-quite a few of us have different views of "dressing up"; using make-up; using beauty salons; etc. Some of us have to "dress up" for our jobs; others of us have to wear a uniform or protective clothing at our jobs (we're not all lawyers hon); and still others work in their homes and can wear whatever they like.

Personally I'm allergic to makeup; heels kill my back; and hair salons make me cough and sneeze from all the chemicals in the air. I "dress up" for work but don't wear uncomfortable shoes or clothes since I'm not trying to impress anyone.

When we're young men and women dress to impress-either each other or our boss or our co-workers or our families. As you get older you do what  you want if you can-otherwise you do what you have to to remain employed.

As long as my boyfriend loves how I look-that's all I care about.

Answer 3

Unless the world radically changes around me and becomes less shallow, I am not willing to stop caring about how I look. I find that looking good gives me power.. Like people listen to me more and take me more seriously. It's wrong and bad but how can the world change? A few women suddenly stopping caring about their appearance won't change anything.. Just make them less heard.

Answer 4

I think women should be viewed as more professional.  They should be seen as a rising power that should be taken seriously.  But I think women should also have the right to make themselves look beautiful.

Answer 5

We tell them constantly that we're visual, that we like p**n, et al. I think they put a lot of emphasis on it because they want validation for being considered professional, because a woman not wearing make up or getting their hair done would be deemed unkempt.

Examples:

http://www.themastertailors.com/images/A...

http://i18.tinypic.com/4y6axpl.jpg

Answer 6

What wrong with wanting to be the hottest mom on the block?? A good cook, h**l on wheels in the sack, and good mother, AND super hot seems like the right thing to me!!

Answer 7

Not us women I think feminist women would like people to think as women as men with boobies.