Do you HAVE to get along with your in-laws?

Question

Right now I'm having the hardest time dealing with my in-laws there never happy with what I do for them. They complain about not having enough money to get their dog spaded so I gave them money and when I did they rolled their eyes at me and wouldn't tell me why. Well my husband told me I 'supposedly' said I'd get it spaded and take care of it while it was healing which is a load of BS! Like we use to be close, but once we got married they started treating me different and whatever problem they had they would be fake towards me and tell him behind MY back. I am so frustrated with them! Tell me what to do? My parents stay out of our business while his are ALWAYS in ours like his parents will even open up his d**n bank statements that are still being sent to his house!! Plz help.....

Answer 1

if you are not compatible or don't have the same interest as someone else, keep your distance if possible and allow them their space and each do their own thing.

Answer 2

Perhaps you could call Jerry Springer.

Answer 3

i hear ya! we just stay away from them. it helps that he's on my side

Answer 4

Play the game. Act nice don't tell anyone. I still don't like mine. 20 years later.

Answer 5

tell um to kiss your gritts.

Answer 6

h**l noooooooo you dont need to like them your being a good person and they just cant appreciate you for that so just ignore them and be happy with your husband  

Answer 7

i maen theres no LAW dats says u HAVE to get along wit em

Answer 8

why is his mail being sent to his mothers???????  very strange.

try to be civil, but KEEP YOUR MONEY IN YOUR OWN POCKET!!!

Answer 9

It should be your husband resolving this w in-laws. Present this to him as his choice - he does it or you do it.

Answer 10

i say U show them respect...nd show them ur the bigger person by actin that way.

and if they still treat u like ****, then who gives a ****..

u ALRDY got wut u want..and its ur husband so f**k everyone else =]]

[[but thats onli If u show them respect and they still dnt give a ****]]

Answer 11

it helps to try to get along...as long as your with him  ask them politely

to respect your privacy--or ask your husband to

Answer 12

Talk to your husband about this and decide where to draw the line.  

Also change the address on those bank statements!!

Answer 13

some parents have a hard time letting go...i would not say anything unless your ready for a fight that could take a huge toll on your marriage

Answer 14

You should discuss this situation with your husband. I assume you used to live with your in-laws. Just be nice to them now and don't

go out of your way to do extra things for them.

Answer 15

NO YOU DONT!!!!!!! Tell them you dont like how they treat you and are fake  

Answer 16

absolutely not

Answer 17

Welcome to the family.  There is a reason there are so many in-law jokes.  It's because they can be so damned annoying.  Just try to stay out of their business for a while, talk to your husband about it.  Don't offend him.

Answer 18

dont have to do anything you dont want to, bu it would help tryin to be a little nice as your partner may fall out with you for hatin their parents nomatter what

Answer 19

Your husband is the problem- he needs to break away.

Seen it with my boyfriend's son and his ex-wife's parents- they wouldn't stop meddling and she couldn't stnad up to them- so their two kids live with her...

Ugh.

Answer 20

It makes life easier for everyone if you do.  BUT that doesn't mean you have to be over at their house all the time, or you let them in your business, either.

I wouldn't be with them without your husband and I wouldn't offer to do anything for them.  Let your husband do that.  You just be polite but distant.  

Answer 21

you need to get him to cover and be with you and nope you do not have to be too good to them but you have toshow him that they are mean to you and treat you differently. then when he sees this he will step away also i wouldn't do ntohing for them and i would be very quiet around then andignore them much as you can i had inlaws like that and it was't good.

Answer 22

You should not have that kind of pressure!

Ideal situation   yes you need to have all the family happy.

I would keep away...and be nice, and do not do toooo much for them, but as I say be nice.

Tell your husband to support you, with them

Answer 23

No offends to you, but your in laws are such unfaithful people, just dont help them anymore, make distance so they cant make you look bad, and talk to your husband if hes not willing to step up and face your inlaw, tell them just as you are telling us, so they will actually know how they have been acting like. or just ignore them and show that you are the bigger person

Answer 24

Oh man! You married a family, not just a man. Maybe the wrong man. He needs to grow up and STAND up for you and his own self esteem. He's not being an adult.

Answer 25

is obviously that they treating their son like a child and they don't realize that hes a married man is obious that ur inlaws are jealous about u something special that u have or u do maybe cause ur parents has more money than they do thats y they treating u like that dont worry theyll get over it...

Answer 26

try having inlaws who are jehovahs witnesses!  and i had to pretend to be one to marry their daughter!  you have it easy.  just be youself and dont let them pis you off, also try and seperate your spouse mentally (in your own head) from his parents or otherwise it will seem like you are married to them as well.  

but my paretns live thousands of miles away whilst hers live about a 10 minute ride but she still insits on seeing them every day!

Answer 27

He needs to tell them to back off.  They obviously do not want to let go of their son, and they are trying to get him to side with them.  Everything you do won't make them happy because they felt you took their son away.  I know how this goes, I have seen it plenty of times, and my parents are just like your husbands are.  

Unfortunately it won't stop until he steps up and says something.  

Answer 28

smile, be nice, and do it for your husband

it's not like you have to live with them, just put up with it and keep your husband happy :)

Answer 29

You need to talk to your husband...if he can't see how they are treating you and step in for you once in a while and support you then that is a problem.

Explain to him how they make you feel. That you feel shot down everytime you make an effort. Tell him if that is how it's going to be then you are just not going to make such a great effort anymore.

But you need to talk to him.