Do you agree that parents should teach their kids about s*x, bc, pregnancy, and stds early?

Question

I feel that some parents are trying to act their children won't do any wrong and so they don't talk to them about these important things! Don't they know that their kids are the same ones coming up here asking us about it? Kids are becoming very curious at an early age now. I see so many 10,11,12, & 13 year old's up here talking about wanting and having s*x and more! I think that it is our responsibility as parents to guide our children in the right direction early! My mom put me on bc when I was 15 yrs old and talked with me about s*x! She made me very comfortable to come to her about anything! Why can't more parents be this way instead of trying to scare their kids out of things and telling them no!

I want to know how you feel about the subject. Thanks for answering!

Answer 1

They already are being taught that enough already. What they should be taught more often is the topic of abortion.

Abortion is critical to our society in this day and age and I believe the youth should have a better understanding of it for the time where they must choose to rid themselves of a fetus and move on with their lives. This would society in a more progressive path in general.

STDs are kind of overkill in classes these days. I think telling kids to use protection (or abstinence) is good, but describing what color pus each STD will bring is laying it on too thick.

Edit: Wow, a thumbs down for voicing my opinion. Sorry if I didn't have the same view as someone else.

Answer 2

They should i think its better as long as they chat with them. Talking about s*x dosent mean it having s*x.

Answer 3

I plan on doing EXACTLY what your mom did with my little girl.  

Answer 4

my boys are identical twins and so they share the same DNA...  s*x talk a definite!!!  *and it starts with "don't ever crush on the same girl"

Answer 5

i no what you mean dont they teach s*x ed in school these days my mum went to have the talk with us but we already new as we learnt it in school i did have my first young i must say but i read a question the other day can you get pregnant from fingering for goodness sake  

Answer 6

Here in Australia, we had a story just last night about a school nurse taking a 14 year old girl to a doctor to get the "pill".

When the parents of the girl found out after finding the "pills" in the girls schoolbag & asking the school what was the idea of doing this without their permission they were told "it is a patient doctor confidentiality situation & you didn't need to be told".

I as parent feel that our rights are being slowly taken from us & when we complain we are told "your child has rights & you can't do anything"

The next step will be that g**s & lesbians will be running the world & straight people will be the minority.

  

Answer 7

Yep sure do, well they should at least give their kids a basic outline of s*x and the reasons of why people do it and when people shouldnt do it. I think the STD thing is ok to be gotten into in early highschool, when I learned about it, but then again kids are becoming sexually active much earlier these days. Maybe they should scare the c**p out of their kids and tell them all about AIDS.

Answer 8

I just love that commercial where the girl says "If you dont talk to your son about s*x.....I will"  I think that says it all!

Your right though some parents are blind to the fact that their child can make a bad choice.  These parents like to look around and say...your child did that because you as a parent did such and such....but our child is good because we are good parents.

I would love to get my hands on the videos that they show in the military...you know that show the results of diseases in graphic fashion so nothing is left to the imagination?!

Knowledge is power.  Education is freedom.  s*x is powerful and i would hate for my child to go out unarmed in this day and age of stds that can kill.

Answer 9

Yes I do agree. I am a 13 year old girl. For one, I never officially got 'the talk' or much for that matter. I am very smart for my age(my mom says I'm 13 going on 30) and figured it all out on my own. I learned what it was, and that I shouldn't do it. Also, we are not being taught s*x ed. Some people say we are but that varies from school to school. My school has it on and off, and I happen to be in the off time of it. Anyways, I don't feel comfortable asking my mom anything about it. I don't intend on it eather. Only occasionally when and STD's commercial or we flip through the channels and pass two people being intimet with each other does she mention something. She has the same attitued toward s*x as she does with drugs or smoking. Like when they say "just say no" on the drugs commercial, she would look at me and say "don't do it". Geez that helped me right?

My point is you are right. Us kids need help. It is sad when some(not me) kids learn about s*x from there friends and such. I have read a statistics thing were is says kids whose parents talked to them about s*x were less likely to do it then kids whose parents didn't talk to them about it. A book at age eleven is not going to do you much help(my moms first attempt, and so far her last).

In ways though, we learn from this. Like me, I learned from my mom to talk about everything with my kids because my mom did not do it with me. I hope you, I and a few selected others are not the only one's who have this opinion. Thanks for your question, I was happy to get my opinion out there!

Answer 10

I think that, even if a 7 year old asks a question about s*x, it can be answered.  As parents we don't have to go into great detail... sometimes a short answer works out quite well.

I believe kids need to be told about s*x when they are at least 11-13, depending upon whether their body is changing.  Just the basic facts, are helpful to them... and i do know that a lot of times, kids whose parents don't let them know about s*x, wonder and get inaccurate information.

Answer 11

Yes, but it should be age appropriate. When my kid is 8 years old, no, i will not be talking to them about STD's and teen pregnancy. But I will be talking about boundaries, and answering and talking about age appropraite s*x questions they might have. Once they get older, hopefully I will be able to keep the lines of communication open and discuss in more depth all of those topics.  

Answer 12

i believe parents should talk with their kids about s*x, diseases and the outcome of having s*x meaning pregnancy. it is very hard to "cross that bridge" when the time comes but it must be done in order our children will not learn things in the streets. communication with our kids is very important and i find starting it earlier is better.

Answer 13

I've always tried to answer any questions my kids had about our bodies and s*x from the time they were tiny. They got the facts in small doses as they were old enough to ask the questions. It made it very easy for me to talk to my daughter about my values as well as explaining the details.

Someone is going to teach them and their friends come up with some very strange ideas and tell them all these "facts". I would much rather be able to teach my kids myself so I know they have all the real facts and the information they need.

I also think its important that they learn from me so they learn about my values and my ideas of morality. Some of the things they think the kids should know is stuff that I never even heard of. I don't want someone else telling my kids how to have a sexual relationship. If they know the basics they can learn the rest with the person they love and trust enough to share their life with.

Answer 14

I agree 100%

It is OUR duty since the s*x ed system is so bad right now, WE need to take the responsibility and stop thinking that they will learn everything they need to know in s*x ed which is horribly wrong.

Everything I knew about s*x, was from my mom. Not ONCE growing up did I get a s*x ed class and I lived in NYC!

Answer 15

Yes I totally agree. They should just come straight out with the truth about s*x. I have a 5 year old boy and when he comes up to me asking me about s*x I am just gonna come straight out with the truth.

Answer 16

I have actually heard parents say that if you don't tell kids about s*x they won't know what it is so they won't do it. WTH ?  Kids are going to learn...so it is best from a parent than another child or what they see on TV.

when i was 17 my mom found out I was on the pill and she freaked, even threatened my life if she found out I was having s*x! she was a teen mom and i know she did not want that for me but she went around it totally wrong. I was a good kid, had good grades and a job but I also had a boyfriend who I was with for 2 years. The reality is even the best kids are going to have s*x and burring your head in the sand is not going to stop it.

schools only teach the basics, they do not teach about the emotions and all of that .... they are too busy telling kids not to do it. well be real...they are so parents need to get in there!!  Just look at some of the questions you see on here! some teens really have no clue! and it is sad when they have to come to some place like here to try to get some answers.

Answer 17

Yes. It seems that kids are growing up early nowadays.