Do you always say yes to your children?

Question

I do not have children but when I do I will say yes to as much as I can.

Answer 1

No.  I'm a bit of a hard a$$ with my kids, but I love them.  I say yes when it's appropriate and no when it's needed.

Answer 2

I say yes if there's not a reason to say no.

If there's a reason to say no, I say no.  It's part of the job description.

Answer 3

well if you plan on being a parent who says yes to your kids all the time i can expect that your kid is going to be the kid at school that probably bullies my kid because you never gave yours any rules or boundaries or taught them how to behave and act reasonably..  

Answer 4

When my husband and I were getting ready to have our child I said the exact same thing. And three years later I love the word NO!!!!! you will understand real fast when they start talking.

Answer 5

I do when the request is reasonable.  

Answer 6

Hmmmmmmmmmmm I see brats in your future. No is a word they need to learn early.

Answer 7

I would take questions as they come and decide

Answer 8

When it is a reasonable request, but sometimes you have to say no - even if you don't want to!

Answer 9

No, you can't. You don't want them to be brats and they have to understand that they can't always have what they want. Teach them respect, saving, and love and they won't feel bad when they hear the word no.

Answer 10

If you do that, you'll be one of the parents who conveniently gets promoted to grandparent when your daughter is 14, and the parent who has to get up at 4 in the morning and shell out your son's bail money

Say no to your children.  You are their parent--not their friend.  I'm a teenager and I realize this

Answer 11

No way do I Always say Yes to them. How would that prepare them for the Real world

Answer 12

"No" is in my daily vocabulary. "Mom can I have 2 pieces of cake and some chips before dinner?" Uhm, no. What would you say? "Yeah sure go ahead and gorge yourself!

How about: "Mom can I take a walk down our busy street by myself, even though I'm only 7" Yes.. go right ahead! Try not to get splattered!" would be your answer?

I'll tell you what, your kids will end up obese, spoiled and dead if you parent that way, darling.

Answer 13

Of course not!  Setting boundries and limits and holding fast to them is critically important for raising a child who is well behaved and successfully socialized.  Within those boundries, of course, you want to encourage them as much as possible.  However, saying yes to anything a child wants is silly and harmful to the child, as well.  "Mom, can I ride in the bed of the pickup truck standing up?"  "Mom, can I go for a five mile hike along the river bank all alone?"  "Mom, can I drink that alcohol?"  No answers and the setting of firm boundries is critical to raising a child and keeping them safe.  

Answer 14

That's like saying your kids will never be bad... it just dont happen that way!!  

Answer 15

NO...sometimes what they want is not good for them or for me.  Sometimes they have not earned it.  Some things have to be earned.  If they have not done what they are supposed to do, chores, homework, whatever.  They can lose things too.

It is not good to say yes all the time.  I am not their friend, I am their mom...they have enough friends but only one mom

Answer 16

Just saying that confirms that you don't have children.

You can say yes to everything, because instead of helping your child, you could be putting him in danger.

Also your gonna make a bubble for him, that when it burst, it's gonna be hard, because the world won't say "yes" all the time.

Examples:

- Mom, I don't wanna eat veggies or beans or meat. (Anemia in 2 months)

- Mom, I want to drink coke (9pm at night) - The kid will stay up veeeery late, and will be tired for school next day.

- Mom, I want to cu my sister's hair (Poor sister, everybody will make fun of her awful haircut)

etc.

Got the point?

You don't have to be a dictator, just pick your battles and talk a looot to you kids.  Better yet, listen to them. But you need to know when to draw the line between friend and mom

Answer 17

And you will end up with brats that rule your house, run in stores, and don't do well in school.

Children need boundaries and clear guidelines, which means saying NO a lot of the time.  

Being too lenient a parent doesn't do your child or society any good.

Answer 18

No way! You absolutely cannot get into that habit. Otherwise, they will grow up to be spoiled brats and won't learn respect or responsibility.

Answer 19

You will change your tune once you have kids LOL We all make statements like this until you have one with you 24/7.

Answer 20

sounds like a lovely thing to do, but in reality children really do need boundries. i have children 2 yrs old and 6 months old. i tell my oldest "no" i just make sure to explain why also. the word "no" doesnt have to be a mean hurtful word. if you say it nicely and explain why kids responed well....umm not all kids but mine do. my best advise is "you have to give respect to get it" i live by it as much as possible.

Answer 21

No, I do not always say yes to my child. At almost 4 years old a lot of the things he asks for simply are not safe for him or out of my price range. He knows that he gets treats when mommy can aford them or if he's been extra good, but it is essential to his development that he learn that he can not always get what he wants.

Answer 22

Always saying yes to your children is completely inapropriate and wrong.  Sure you might think you'll be doing a favor by always saying yes, but there are times when it's best to say no.

for example, would you say Yes to the following?

"Can I go play in the street?"

"Can I eat pure sugar and nothing else?"

"Can I quit school?"

Obviously you need to be reasonable, but the more you agree, or allow the more power you eventually give your child.  My Daughter is 3 years old, and the more we say Yes, the less she listens.  

Answer 23

only if they're asking for more chores.    

Answer 24

No way..... I dont want to end up with spoilt little brats. My children often hear yes, but many of times, they hear no also