Do you and your partner share responsibility or do you have set 'roles'?

Question

We do everything together.... We cook dinner together, do the shopping together, share household tasks etc. and there's no expectations on what the other should 'do'.

As a result we are blissfully happay and don't have disputes over 'stuff' one or the other is 'expected' to do.

Is this the norm?

Or do you, aim to please by doing more, or expect more?

Answer 1

I believe that's important not tobe dependent from the other. So, the both of you should be able to do everything. However, normally, everyone will have favorite tasks.

Answer 2

It sounds as if you are dinks  - double income no kids.  Things change once children arrive on the scene where the woman's responsibility at home and with the children greatly increases.

Answer 3

Oh man! you people are sooooo--------oo boring. If you cannot expect some thing unexpected from your partner, You both are like two working computers placed next to each other. Bring some colour to your life. you take the initiative. Give a surprise gift, or a treat, or a movie some thing like that. Have a little individuality in thinking. I know its very hard to find a couple like you. You seam to be living without any issues. But, If you dont have a difference of opinion at least now and then, You wont discover the true love, and the strength of the bond between you. correct me if I am wrong.

Answer 4

I think whichever makes the couple more comfortable. My husband and I share certain things like "kid duties" but other things like taking out trash is his duty and grocery shopping is mine. It wouldnt work for everyone but it works for us.

Answer 5

My husband and I do have very different and defined roles in our  relationship. It didn't start out that way when we first started living together, but each of us has strengths and weaknesses that are opposite to each others. It works out perfectly. He is the very  intelligent one and he makes all of the long term decisions. He manages our money very well and takes care of all of the car and house problems. I don't have to worry about any of it. My role on the other hand is the money maker and house keeper. Those are my strengths. I just listen to what he tells me to do and i don't have to worry about a thing. If we tried to share our roles equally there would be a lot of fighting and tears.. heheh.. I think a lot of couples do it that way though and it works out for many.

That doesn't mean that we don't do a lot of things together though. When I'm doing the dishes he'll keep me company. We spend as much time together as possible.

When I aim to please my husband I'll do extra work around the house or dress s**y or cook him something good. If he aims to please me he'll do something out of the ordinary for me.