Do you assume that IA parents don't teach their children their native language?

Question

Or don't want to?

Answer 1

Well you know what they say about assuming...

No, I don't assume that at all.

However I have seen quite a few who don't feel it's necessary, or think that is doing "too much", and that is pretty sad.

Answer 2

I can agree with the Iowans comment!  HA!

People in the Midwest call them....

I - idiots

o - out

w - wandering

a - around!

Answer 3

What does IA stand for?  I can't answer your question because you're speaking in code.

Answer 4

I didn't realize so many Iowa parents have children from other countries.

Answer 5

We're not IA parents, but we do have a son who was placed with Hispanics for 7 of his first 8 months.

We are trying to get a Spanish Immersion day care subsidized for him before he finalizes. We also show him Spanish videos and try reading simple books in Spanish to him.  I'd like to send him to either a Spanish Immersion school or this wonderful school I used to substitute teach at that teaches Spanish Native Language Literacy.  Because we've both been teachers, reading and writing in English isn't a concern for us.

Answer 6

No, I would never assume that you don't. All of the adoptive parents of international adoption that I know (and I know several) go to great lengths to teach and celebrate the individual cultures of their children.

Answer 7

Is that supposed to make up from ripping them out of their mothers life so you can feel the unconditional love of a baby.

I don't think young adults will look at it as a loving thing but more so a manipulative ploy. Adolescents are not as unconditional.  

Good luck trying to teach a child K'iche'  because most of the children that are adopted from Guatemala are from Mayans that barely speak Spanish.  I'll give you D for effort. Its sad that you mentioned in another post that you know basic words in Spanish when you child doesn't even know it.  Good grief could you confuse them anyone more.

Edit: Thats what your a-child will be saying to you in a few years. Get used to it and don't judge him.

Its Gringa,  i'm female.

Answer 8

Dear Whatever,

I do my best not to ASSUME anything. As I have said a million times, there is no blanket to cover all of adoption. EVERY situation is different.

I know IAPs who are learning their child's native language, go to culture camps, cook their child's native foods and even visit the child's homeland. I also know IAPs who have never mentioned to their children what country they came from.

Many shades of grey...