Do you beat yourself up a lot when you don't have the guts to do something?

Question

My story:

I was at the park the other day with my dad. I was sitting on a chair and I had my head leaning upside down, over the armrest. I saw this girl about 50 feet away. I swear, I never snapped my neck up so fast in my life; then the tree was in the way so I was leaning left and right to see her until she got about 15 feet away. I had sunglasses on but it didn't take a rocket scientist to see that I was staring at her. She looked at me, then smiled and looked down. I wanted to go talk to her and just tell my dad that I know her from school, but my legs wouldn't move. By the time I wanted to get up she was gone.

It stunk, I felt so bad..because I really never looked at a girl that way, I felt like I really had interest in her.

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Anyone have the same thing going on?

Answer 1

Hi Samantha, I know how you feel,I had interest in this girl in my class, she was a year older (she's 18), I used to catch her staring at me, and once I stared right into her eyes, and she looked into mines.

I became really nervous because it turned into prolonged eye contact, just a fixed gaze between both of us, and it felt like something was there (this sounds weird, but i thought it was soulful), but I never told her of how I felt, she's left for University now, and I haven't kept in contact with her because I wasn't close friends with her, we were just classmates. I'd always waited for her to talk to me about that day, or for her to confirm her interest through her displaying it, like body language, but i'd noticed that she behaved differently towards me.

A part of me wished that I had plucked the courage to just go and Confront her about the way i felt, but I was waiting for her.

But, during this holiday, I found her profile page and it said she was interested in men (this broke my heart and made me feel really depressed, and hurt because she gave all these signs,and I just felt lost, unable to trust myself on how I see things...i felt like a fool)

Now I really miss her, I'm just slowly starting/ trying to let go, because I really felt strongly for her, I thought i connected with her; maybe it was just that my perception deceived me, but I can't explain why she meant so much to me :s

But from this I've come to learn that I shouldn't have taken it so deeply, and that I should be more happier, and have more fun to forget about the things that make me down. Sometimes my thoughts take a really low- swing and hit me in the back. Maybe I'll see her again if it's meant to happen, but I just hope to maintain this positivity.

Sorry for writing too much, I just know how it feels, but please don't worry because you might even see her again, life always has surprises around the corner, I'm sure you'll see her again...and if not her, then you will find someone better.

I hope i helped! =)

Emzy

Answer 2

oh man i know what u are going through, its happened to me way too many time ,.. doesn't feel good at all, cause u know that that was a chance to make a move..

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Answer 3

The story of my life

Answer 4

It sucks when that happens.  Life is full of coulda, woulda, shoulda's!  All we can do is just go on.  

Possibly the next time it happens you'll be brave enough not to let the chance slip away!

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Answer 5

Take it as a lesson.

The next time something like that happens, grab life by the balls and go for it.

Life's great when you stop worrying.

Answer 6

Yes the same thing happens to me all the time!

There is this guy I go to school with who is a total SWEETHEART.

I can never get my nerve up to speak to him! I always chicken out and hate myself for it.

Answer 7

awww. that must suck. maybe youll see her around...who knows.

and no i dont. i tend to beat myself when i mess up something.im a bit of a perfectionist.

Answer 8

Here is one of the best pieces of advice that I like to give.  Everybody pay attention...

The next time you have a situation where you want to take a chance, but something inside of you makes you afraid to act, remember this:

It is easier on your conscious to regret what you did than regret what you didn't do.