Do you believe being evil is something that can be justified?

Question

I was often subjected to bullying in junior high and high school (physical, mental, and emotionally) because I was seen as quiet and very studious by my peers. In my last year and a half I did not want to attend high school because someone spread a rumor about me that I was jacking off in the bathroom and I as called sexually degrading names by some of my peers. As I went to college I had started to hit the gym and made my division 1-aa football team at my university. Everytime I come home to visit I just ignore the people who made fun of me especially the girls like they dont exist and walk past them without out disregard. Do you think im right or wrong.

Answer 1

I don't think there is ever a time when being evil could and should be justified. People are stupid, and I think most of us can agree than we were either bullied or the bully (I was also the bullied one in high school so I know how you feel). The problem with many bullies is that they continue their wrath for years, and even if they aren't there physically, they find ways to hurt you (this is what happened to me anyway).If you don't wanna talk to them, that's fine. You have the right to not want it, but the thing is, you really need to get over what they did. I know it's hard, I've been there and the people are around me still to this day. No matter where I go, someone follows me and this is annoying but I can't do a thing about it. Just be thankful you don't have it as bad as many others do and live your life as best you can. No one should have any time to be a bully, but most do. Forgive them for being so ignorant and just move on. You can say hi to them but that doesn't mean you wanna be friends or anything. It's just a nice gesture and not for them but for yourself. I think you have a good reason to be ignoring them, but if they aren't doing anything to you now, you aren't proving to anyone that you're a better person and that you are over high school drama. You have a life now, and it does not involve any of them.

I think it's better to ignore them and not have to face another attack than it is to speak to them and be forced to relive your high school days. Every time I have spoken to any of my bullies, I sort of got hit back with more bullying, so I've gotten to the point of not wanting anything to do with my past, not even teachers (sadly many of these people are going out with family members of mine now and have them all against me...) I began to hate them all since I remember no one cared about me and didn't wanna help me.

Ultimately, I think you are right because you don't wanna risk being hurt again but it shouldn't be a big deal to just say hello. They're not good people and probably never were, but at least you have something that makes you happy and that is what really matters. Just don't stoop to their level and be mean to them. Never ever do that! If they talk to you, talk to them, but unless you just wanna say hi, don't waste your time.

Answer 2

no you aren't wrong, you showing them that life goes on, and you moved on.

Answer 3

I think that you are completely justified.  

Answer 4

Right and wrong is really quite relative.  Essentially what makes life as peaceful as possible for oneself is right, and what causes one pain is wrong.

Young people are cruel, but also consider this underlying truth... all of ones life is determined by ones "Fate Karma", and when events occur that are painful to oneself, these have two purposes they are fulfilling. One is that each event that causes one pain is a process of "reaping" Karma that one caused someone else in some previous life by "sowing" the same Karma oneself.  Aside from simply reaping what is due one, one is also [hopefully] developing some toughness of character as a result of experiencing the painful events of life.

A certain humiliation in life "grows" ones awareness of how it feels to be humiliated and this is an increase in ones empathetic awareness... which is an aspect of ones Spiritual evolution.

You see yourself as ignoring people... but they may be unknowingly grateful to be ignored.... since seeing you no doubt relights a repressed memory within them of how cruel and thoughtless they were... and this is both painful and embarrassing.  So rethink your "ignoring" them as an act of kindness on your part... and rather view them as you would trash cans, sign posts, and bushes that dogs use.....

Let the past pass, and live in the present reality.

Peace