Do you believe in marriage? Why, why not?

Question

Do you believe in marriage? Why, why not?

Answer 1

when you get there,, you have to realize people change.....my wife and i got along fantastic...then 2 years ago this week i got fired.....that was th start of all the bullshit....by november she was gone....it turns into a whirlwind...

Answer 2

Yes and No. Yes for the tax benefits and equal parental rights. No for alimony, split assets-women taking the kids and half of everything we own.

Answer 3

Yes, but this isn't my choice.  Marriage was instituted by God with His laws governing it, for His purposes.  I like the way He did it though, and think it should only be allowed His way.

Answer 4

Im a guy.

And I used to think marriage was great. Until the drive towards marriage ruined a beautiful relationship.

To all the women out there - you dont need us men. Like d**n, It bothers me how many strong women are out there but fall into a "Cinderella Complex" (look up the term its real!)

Ladies - you are our mothers, sisters, our homegirls and our best friends. Marriage is an institution that (unless you want marriage) just binds.

Be Free.

Answer 5

I believe it can be the right step at the right time, but not something for your life's checklist so you can get an 'A' on your report card at the end or your life.  I think the latter is the reason for many bad marriages.

Answer 6

Yes I do.

There is a stability in the exchange of vows that cannot be replaced with a simple standard of "living together" as in common law arrangements.

Now my idea of marriage goes as far as a man and a woman. Not a same s*x union. Nor a union of beast and man(yes, I've seen it in East India. Some man married a dog!)

A marriage is more that a piece of paper as too many see it. The piece of paper is a legality for the government and the census board but it is not the binding force in a marriage. The binding force is the love that is strong enough to give and take inseparable vows before God and everybody who is there to witness it. It is a spiritual communion that the license of a government just doesn't come close to.

Marriage is a stability in society that is invaluable.

Answer 7

as someone said, it's an institution. it's completely fake. a set of formalities. it is no different than a peasant bowing to royalty. there's no reason why they should do that, and there is no why a person should be expected to permanently bond to another person, socially. as another person said, i believe in love, but this imposed idea disguised as love i do not believe in.

however, this is not to say that i think it is impossible for one person to find another tolerable enough to want to stay with them almost permanently, but that the idea that it is forced when a child is born or when two people are sexually attracted to one another and think that with marriage comes love, i think is a grave misunderstand of love.

Answer 8

Yes, I believe in marriage. For me, marriage is not a simple contract, as renting a house, marriage is a Sacrament and it`s forever. It`s forever because it`s founded on Love, and true love never dies, never ends. That`s why JesusChrist says : Marriage is forever! It`s absolutely clear in (Mt.19, 1 - 12).

Answer 9

Not sure what "believing" has to do with marriage.  Marriage is a legal contract that exists to traditionally protect the wife but more importantly protect the children of the marriage.  That is the real reason for marriage.  All the romantic stuff is fluff.

Answer 10

yup

Answer 11

Yep. All marriage is, philosophically, is 1.) two people who are in love and in love only with each other and 2.) a public annunciation of that love and commitment. Philosophically, if these two criterion are met, then the people are married. People get married everyday and don't even know it.

Answer 12

yes...but in only that marriage where base is love.

Answer 13

I don't believe in marriage because I believe if freedom.

Answer 14

absolutely. it is a sacred vow..........alot of people don't know that.

Answer 15

Nope

Answer 16

No, it is unrealistic to vow to spend the rest of one's life with anyone else. You may tire of each other next week or next year. My sisters were married thrice apiece, and my brother was married twice. That is taking vows much too lightly. I refuse to allow some preacher to tell me that he must perform some silly ritual for a fee before Miyuki and I can sleep together. That is just a con game, and I am not a sucker for it.

Answer 17

It's a fine institution.

The question is 'Are you ready for an institution?'

I was ready and have been enjoying life for the past 30 years in this 'institution' of marriage with a guy who says he never knew the meaning of true happiness until he was married..............and then it was too late.

; - )

Answer 18

sorry; not a phil. Q

Answer 19

I value the institution, if that's what you mean. I can only give you my experience, which should be seen with a bit of irony, because I am now divorced.

I'll use the simple to understand phenomena of sexuality to illustrate. I experience a distinct difference between mere s*x and s*x with love. The exchange between the two people is different, because intimacy makes the trust deeper. The same is the difference between s*x with love and the same sexuality after a public show of commitment (marriage ceremony). I experienced that subtle doubts that kept the full connection from occurring were removed, and we became one. Of course, that left me completely unprepared and  unprotected when she left, but I would not trade those moments just to spare myself the pain that came later.

This is why i think marriage was created - to allow psychological bonding that does not occur otherwise. I could be wrong, but that is my experience.

Answer 20

Not in state marriage .

Answer 21

It exists whether i believe in it or not. I think it can be a noble commitment that gives deeper meaning to a relationship or it can deftly dispatch fanciful expectations.

Answer 22

No, not today's concept of marriage.  I can really picture in my head a time when people thought it was something more spiritually bonding and emotional, but today it seems like (just as we do with everything else....sigh) we've turned it into something that frankly nauseates me.  

I think it's rooted in that word "legal".  Legal seems to define a sense of exclusiveness more than any law abiding derivitive of the term.  

"Can we legally get married?"  "Is it illegal to not claim my spouse?" "In what state can I legally marry my cousin?"

It's all paperwork and money now...licenses and dresses, ceremonies and altered tax filings, dependents and caterers.  

Why do we mutate stuff like that?   I think, as a biology major, if I were to look at this in an evolutionary sense, I'd say that the environment that is necessitating this change is our monetary system and we've evolved (or it's naturally selected the course of our growth) around that.  

Are our concepts and processes truly real?  Are the things we do and the issues we fight about completely guided by something that was initially supposed to help us?

It's like money has become an actual organism that needs to reproduce so it uses us, much like flowers do with bees.

Answer 23

...yes, i do...

...a documented agreement between to lovers that is officially sanctioned by the law...

...and we can receive benefits plus or minus as a married couple...

...thanks for asking...

Answer 24

If it's a commitment that I agree to, I must believe in it. Only then will I enjoy it.

Answer 25

Yes, I believe in marriage.

It is more than just a commitment. It's like, an invisible bond that exists through living together, having a family together, and really wanting to give your all to your significant other. Love is one soul looking to inhibit two bodies, and marriage is that bond that holds the two together in one soul, you know?

However it is such a shame that so little people take marriage seriously anymore.

Answer 26

I believe in whatever makes the two happy.  

I don't think a simple "written contract" decides for that happiness and it can be attained without the element of marriage.

Therefore I believe in just staying together as long as both are happy.  Any of the two are capable of changing and desiring a different path than in the beginning so it should always be open for either person to leave freely if they like.

Additionally, everyone has freewill.  No person has the right to say "that's my wife" or "that's my husband" with the intent of denying him or her choice to chose the path that he/she wishes.

If the person truly loves the other, he/she should support and be happy whomever the other chooses to be with.  No person can own another person in as much as your boss can say they own you (unless you let them)

Therefore, I don't believe in marriage in the traditional sense.  Maybe in a temporary one, but not one that forces two people to stay together for the rest of their lives even while they're miserable.  Its just pure nonsense and like committing yourself to a prison for no reason.

But if they're happy and you've really found the one, and that's what both truly want, then by all means...but either should be able to have their freedom back whenever they wish.

"Till Death do us part" If you think you know the future...then by all means.

I prefer "Till either wishes do we part"

Answer 27

No. My parents ruined the idea for me.

Answer 28

I believe in marriage as an option which should be available for those who genuinely feel it's the right lifestyle for them. But while I don't doubt it's an ideal situation for a few individuals, by and large I don't believe it's compatible with human nature.

Answer 29

Yes.

I believe that marriage is a way of saying "We're in this for the long haul and I'm not going to skip town and just leave you".

Answer 30

I believe in love, marriage is just a formality.

Answer 31

I believe in it and I believe it CAN work so long as the two partners are willing to compromise, truly love one another, and have matured enough to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage.