Do you believe in soul mates? ?

Question

I'm married and have been for 3 years and I do love him very much. However we do fight a lot nothing physical or such but we've just not been getting along very well lately. We argue over everything.

I feel like i'm a horrible person but I think someone else is out there to be my soul mate...

I don't know what type of advise i'm asking for but please help with an opinion.

Thanks.

Answer 1

I agree with John. I don't believe in it either. That's just a way for people to cop-out so they can divorce and find someone else, without guilt.

Answer 2

everybody has a soulmate it just takes time to find them .I have already found my soulmate and I am truely & deeply in love with my soulmate

Answer 3

i am religious , but i do not believe in soul mates , my reasoning for this is , if there were meant to be soul mates , i feel this person would always be in your life , there would never be a search , never be heart aches , i tend to believe in spiritual mates . God allows us to meet someone and what we do with it from there is all up to us , we can open our selfs up and allow our spirits to mingle and play togather , grow with one another , form the bond between the two spirits that would be unbreakable ,  

Answer 4

If you are feeling that there is someone else for you, then you are probably not with the one you should be with.  I do believe in soul mates and I am married to mine.  I had to go through some rocks before I found that perfect diamond, but I have him and I can't imagine myself with anyone else.  I no longer feel there is someone else out there for me.  I have him.

Answer 5

I dont believe in all that soul mate c**p.

Answer 6

I believe in them, but I can't tell you the definitions or details because I simply don't know.  I believe fate can put two people together.  My husband and I were meant to be together, in my opinion, because there were so many oppurtunities in our seperate pasts where we should have met and eventually we did.  Like we both played the french horn in school and if I hadn't opted to go to AP school I would have sat right next to him in band.  Also, my best friend in kindergarten was one of his best friends in junior high and high school. Little things like that made me feel we were meant to meet and get married.  Is it perfect? No.  We fight, there was a couple month period there where we bickered about everything.  But at the end of the day I still missed him when he was gone and still wanted him around even though we couldn't say two words to each other without fighting.  

My advice to you, think about how you're getting into fights and try to fix it.  I noticed I was starting a lot of the fights because he didn't do something exactly the way I wanted it done or right then and there.  I checked that in myself and hold it in now and we get along better.  If something like that doesn't work or if he's the one that's starting it most of the time, go to marriage counseling.  Don't be embarassed, lots of people go and it really can help you see if you really want to be with him.

You might find out that you're only feeling like there's someone else out there for you because you're going through a rough patch.  Good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Answer 7

Yes, I Do...I was lucky enough to meet mine

Answer 8

I was taught in pre-marital counseling that the one you make that forever commitment to is now your soulmate. You promised to love, cherish, and honor through better and worse till death do you part. Fighting is normal in a marriage, and there are spurts of more or less fighting. Some better and some worse. This is what you signed up for. It takes work to be someone's soulmate. The grass isn't greener on the other side and it has to be mowed too.

Check out the book, "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage." In it, he says two really true things. First he says that in the Bible there is one verse, which if you follow the instructions in that verse, you will never have trouble in your marriage. The verse he quoted said something like, "Do not marry, for if you do, you will have trouble in this life." In other words, this isn't Hollywood. No one is going to be 100% perfect all the time. The other verse he quotes was something like, "Where there are no oxen, the manger is clean. But much comes from the strength of the ox." In other words, you want the benefits of the ox, you will have to be willing to clean up the ox poo. There are no poo free marriages. (Sorry I have no idea the actual verse references, just get the book)

Answer 9

I don't have one!  

Answer 10

Soul mates??? I don't know about it but I do feel there is someone for everyone.  If you are unsure about your marriage, then you may need to go to marriage counseling to find out whether or not it is for you.