Do you believe it conspiricies of incompetence?

Question

Whatever it is called; I'm not sure I'm using the right term. If you know the proper definition of this, please correct me. What I'm describing is industries (auto) and institutions (gov't) that are in such a position of power and complacency that when they get ideas for improvement, they shoot them down, for various reasons. "We know it's broken and/or unnecessarily complex, but we benefit from that..." And yes, couldn't the typical woman make things simpler for men, and wouldn't she be happier if she did?

Answer 1

I am concerned about someone using incompetence to justify his/her decisions. And people just accept it and call the person incompetence and do not look into any further. What if the person hides his/her true intentions/motives behind the illusion. "I don't care people call me stupid as long as I can benefit. As long as I can hide it". Anyone in power is not that incompetent to ignore apparent improvement. There is always intention behind.

Answer 2

In the male/female relationship things are not always that easy.  There is no longer a typical woman, and making things "simpler" for men isn't the easy task you make it to be. And wouldn't she be happier if she did?  Well, If I made your bed, did your laundry, cooked your meals and cleaned your space, it would make things easier for you, but if I also have a career outside of your space, and I am paying my own way in the world, I don't have the time or energy to make things simpler for you. IF on the other hand, I am sitting on the couch all day, drinking wine and eating bon bons while you slave away at the office to pay for my wine, I had better get up off the couch and make your life easier in some way. I still may not be happier, but it would make my life easier and simpler if you were not complaining about my bon bons all the time because I did nothing to deserve them.

Answer 3

Yes, I do believe that some organizations benefit from being "broken".

And yes, I think that there are a few things women could do to make things simpler for her man, and yes she would be happier if she did. Example: stop nagging him - he isn't a child and you don't have the right to make him do anything. Stop resenting the toilet seat being left up - how often do you leave it up for him? Don't expect him to read your mind - tell him outright what you would like or expect (trust me, this one will make both of you happier). Don't treat him like he's one of your girlfriends; if you vent he will want to fix it and that isn't what you want him to do.

Answer 4

You mean like GM keeping building gas guzzling 6 liters V8 and investing zilch in making their engines more fuel efficient while you can buy 500 ps Mercs that go around the world on the gallon, because the us has an interest in high oil consumption backing the greenback ?

You might have a point there.

Answer 5

well a passive aggressive person will deliberately make life difficult while pretending that they are not, women tend to have passive aggressive leanings, in my experience. Passive aggressive people are not happy people.

Answer 6

I think this works both ways.  Men get frustrated at women for making things more complicated than they need to be, and women get frustrated at men for not seeing the whole picture.

Different is fine.  Accepting and living with those differences is better.

(Also, Less-than-Perfect had a great answer too)

Answer 7

We all have our faults and perception does differ, as you already know from the radical feminists. They think men are the problem, men think women are the problem. What if there is no problem just different ideals that people have to learn to deal with.

At the same time; I seriously have never had any major problems with my boyfriend in 2 years. Because we understand our biological makeup is different. We have to accommodate both; it is an equal partnership with respect, love and harmony. It really all does come down to ethics.

Answer 8

I understand your analogy, but I cannot support your position.

From your history of posting, I think you are reluctant to accept the nature of women and that we are quite different from men, which often causes conflict in relationships.  Your post suggests that a woman could behave more like a man if they chose to, and you further suggest that she would be better off (happier) doing so.      

Wrong on both counts, my friend.

You cannot change other people, you can only change yourself.  

Acceptance of differences leads to harmony much quicker than trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

We may know that it is complex, but our brain function is a driving force in the degree of complexity.  It's not like we sit around sipping coffee discussing ways that we can make our men's lives unecessarily complicated and painful.   It just IS. Acceptance of that fact may help you in yoru future dealings with women.

ETA:  Thanks, glad to be of help.

Answer 9

The status Quo is a very powerful thing, people look for all kinds of reasons to maintain it