Do you believe people when they say their pregnancy was an "accident"?

Question

The kicker........I got pregnant "on the pill" for my first daughter.......however, I was only on the pill for 3 weeks and my instructions were to wait at least one full cycle of pills.....I did not...my fault......no accident there!

Answer 1

I'm young and i have 19 month old daughter...

accidents are accidents no matter how irresponsible you are its an accident... i never wanted a baby... but now i couldn't be happier with my gorgeous baby girl.

i never used condoms never was on the pill because i told my mom that i wasn't having s*x.. which was a lie, so it was an accident and i do recall myself being stupid and irresponsible at the time.

but now i couldn't be happier my baby changed my life around

Answer 2

Yes I do but some of the accidents are not knowing how to use things properly.

Condoms if not put on properly  can break or yes cause a pregancy. My parents have been married for 30 years i was planned and my brother was not and they have only used condoms.  So  yes sometimes you slip one pass but not all the time like it seems to happen to some.  Also i have had a condom break on me but we stopped and still got the morning after pill.

Many people don't know how to take the pill correctly. It needs to be taken about the same time everyday and if you are on antiboitics you need a back up because it lowers the effectiveness.  

So yes accidents happen but those happen not necessiarly from irresponsiblity but lack of knowledge in how to use  things correctly  

Answer 3

How funny....."shoot out of there like a power washer"......LOL.  

I don't have an answer but I just wanted to say thanks for the laugh :-)

********Okay I have to add that the "accident" in most cases would be that he or she "accidentally" used the birth control method incorrectly.  This many people can not ALL be that 1% (or close to it) that got pregnant on birth control.

Answer 4

Mine was.  Gina was barely 3 months old and I was on the pill.  Now, we knew we were fertile but imagine my surprise.  I get what you're saying though.  I'm the most fertile person I know and it only happened once.  h**l, I hear a dirty joke and I'm three months along.

We lost that baby just two days later.  What a roller coaster.  I started off with denial, and conquered upset, sadness, confusion, accpetance and ultimately elation.  Then *poof* just like that it was gone.  So, the emotions hit all over again.  Sometimes I wish I never took the test.  Other times it makes me reflect on what I have.  

I decided it was a girl.  Mr Mozz and I privately celebrate her birthday every June 11th.  No cake or singing, just a quiet conversation and thoughts.

Answer 5

i have had condoms fail lots of times none gave me a baby but just so you know it does happen

my first child came when i was on birthcontrol and antibiotics didnt see that one comming, but sh*t happens and luckly my husband and i were in a position to have a baby we loved my first one so much that i went off an had another, on porpose this time.(lol)

Answer 6

Sure, I believe in accidental pregnancies. And yes, I count forgetting to take a pill, or broken condom as accidental.

What I find absolutely hilarious is when people say it was an accident but they weren't using any birth control at all. One of my friends is currently pregnant. When I found out, I asked her if they had been trying. She said no, so I asked if she forgot to take her pill or what. She then said they weren't using birth control. LOL!!! They obviously weren't NOT TRYING.

Answer 7

Uh Oh.  Zaza's looking for controversy so here we go:

Good for you with your 40 year condom use.

Just because it allegedly worked for you doesn't mean it will work for 40 years with somebody else.

Condoms do break.  The Pill is 99% effective.  There is still a 1% increased risk of getting pregnant while on the Pill.  A woman may forget to take her Pill.

Stuff happens.  That's life.

Who the h**l are you to judge anyone?

Answer 8

I had 4 babies in 5 years.  I didn't use birth control after #1 because it took us over a year to get pregnant with the first and we thought it would take as long with the second, it didn't.  After the 2nd I used birth control but quit because of all the hype about it's dangers (the patch).  Then I had #3, but it wasn't an accident, we wanted a 3rd baby.  But #4 was exactly that, an accident.  We weren't planning on having another baby for at least 2 years, but she came 14 months after her brother.  I was using birth control AND a condom, but I still got pregnant.  I'm not sure what happened.

Answer 9

Ok, first good for you with the whole condom never breaking thing and with the whole self righteous holier than thou attitude. It looks good on you.

To answer your question, yes, it is very possible to have an accidental pregnancy even when you follow proper procedures. First, all means of birth control have some level of failure. It's why the people who manufacture the pill, condoms, etc have to print that RIGHT ON THE LABEL! In addition, some men and women are more fertile/virile than others so just as some people can use no birth control and indeed actively try to get pregnant with no luck, the opposite is also true.

In addition, the dictionary definition of accident is: 1 a: an unforeseen and unplanned event or circumstance b: lack of intention or necessity  2 a: an unfortunate event resulting especially from carelessness or ignorance So actually you just don't know what the word means.

I'm not quite sure why you would be so bitter anyway? Have you really been using condoms for forty years or have you just not been having any s*x?

Answer 10

I think when people say "accident" they mean they weren't planned.  I say my son was a surprise.  I couldn't imagine my life without him, but I wasn't planning on getting pregnant.  After I had my daughter the doctor told me not to have any more children.   5 years later I found myself pregnant.  It doesn't matter how it happened, but it wasn't supposed to, so it kind of was an accident.  I'm happy for it now, but it was a little scary worrying about my health for the whole pregnancy.

Answer 11

I have to agree with you there.  Most birth control is 99.9% effective IF USED PROPERLY.  I'd gather to say most if not all "accidental" pregnancies were caused by people that did not use birth control properly.

My daughter was unplanned, a very happy surprise (I am married and she's my third child) - and I take full responsibility - I was on the pill we went away for the night, forgot to bring my pills, and I got pregnant missing only one pill.  

Answer 12

yes and no

no form of birth control is 100% effective, condoms and the pill are only around 99%, and its even possible for a vasectomy or tubal sterilization to fail. so, yes, I do think that it is possible to be safe, but something goes wrong.

however, if you make no attempt to do anything to prevent pregnancy, you can't really call it an accident.  Forgetting to take pills, only using condoms occassionally, using the pullout or rhythm method aren't effective, so if that's how you got pregnant, its not an accident, its irresponsibility.

Only one form of birth control is 100% effective and that's abstinence.  But in all honestly I don't know any married couple that wants to take that road, even if that are done having kids.

In short, accidents do happen, but I think most could have been prevented with a little more care.

Answer 13

I was on birth control (the needle) and I wasn't using condoms. My son wasn't planned but I don't blame it on anybody else. It's my fault for not using a condom as well.

I'm taking full responsibility for my actions and not blaming it on anybody else.

Besides, my son wasn't an accident, just an unexpected surprise! He's my world!

Answer 14

I think its irresponsibility.

Why not use 2 methods of birth control to cover your tracks???

Ur man can use the condom and pull out together, while u are on the pill.

Or if you only use the condom and it breaks, get ur butt to a dr. and get the morning after pill.

Answer 15

I got pregnant on the pill due to medication interfering with the effectiveness of it. At the time, there was no evidence that this medication would cause a problem, however now there is a warning.

Also, even if it is irresponsible, isn't forgetting to take a pill an accident? Are there any responsible accidents?

Answer 16

the first time i fell pregnant i was on the pill and i took the pill  every time at the same time every day. i now have a 2 year old son. when he was 4months old i got the coil. i now have a daughter who is one week old. neither contraceptive worked for me. neither of my kids were planned but we couldnt be happier now.

Answer 17

I don't care to believe what they tell me, but if I were to hear the word "accident", I would get annoyed and say "how the heck is that possible?" When you become sexually active you should practice safe s*x, be responsible because creating a child is easy but parenting one is not. If you take birth control pills make sure they take them properly. If you use condoms be sure there are so defects in them. If you want a child, it's always best to plan them so you can prepare yourself for what you will be responsible for the rest of your life.  

Answer 18

You act like you have never done anything irresponsible in the slightest.  Stop being so judgmental you are not the one who has to raise that child anyway.  If you have a major problem with this then maybe you should focus your energy on something other than other people's problems.

Answer 19

Well on the issue of condoms breaking, its not a rare thing.. Like a few of the ppl said here, your experience may be different from others. I have had condoms break not often but it has happens over time.. Using small condoms or a condom you might be to big for.. Even a women's v****a plays a part into a condom breaking.. A tight v****a with a big p***s can cause a condom to break if you're trying to rush it in.. But that's me. I can only speak bout my experiences. But if your using condoms for over 40 years then it leaves a big question mark out there. You must still be having s*x with different people which might leave your v****a not as tight as someone else.. But you could be having s*x with da same person not sure on that one and that ain't my business.

Far as forgetting to take a pill.. You must be above the average person.. Do you forget to pay a bill?? Do you forget to leave the meat out to cook for dinner?? Do you forget to change your oil in the car?? Sounds like little simple things but their are bigger things people forget to do and forgetting to take a birth control pill isn't different. It does happen..

I'm not for abortion not at all.. My wife cant have kids and would love a kid and people that go out and have s*x and then want to have an abortion, rather than give the baby away, something I don't understand. But things happen in this world, but anything is possible and even though you might agree with the reason or understand why, doesn't mean its not possible..

Answer 20

Even using a condom incorrectly or not taking a pill properly can be considered an 'accident'.   A fully grown adult woman who I work with, married for over 20 years, with adult children and a husband with a (apparently too recent) vasectomy, found herself pregnant last year.  Accident?  Or surprise?  

People make mistakes sometimes.  And, sometimes things go wrong.  

It might just be a matter of semantics - what you see as 'unplanned' pregnancy or pregnancy due to not following instructions, others see as an 'accident'  

Answer 21

I don't know.......I am like you, I would think the same thing when all my cousin's girlfriends got pregnant by "accident" I didn't buy, it cause like you I never had an "accident" and my kids were planned down to the month they were born....but I recently had an "accident" of my own...the condom slipped off and stayed inside of me......I was freaked out, even being married for 8yrs I was not ready for a 3rd baby at this moment...but luckily I have time to plan baby #3 for the future...

Answer 22

people aren't perfect. i completely believe in "accidental" pregnancies. it doesn't mean that they are saying they had an immaculate conception! i have a friend who got pregnant 3 times while on birth control and using condoms (she was married).

and in my birth class there were 4 couples, only ours was a planned pregnancy. the rest were not. an accident is just that... unplanned.

Answer 23

Well, you seem to have made up your mind before asking the question.  However, our third child was a "surprise."  We don't like to say he was an accident.  

We were using a condom, and a spermicide, as we hadn't been able to afford a permanent solution to our fertility, and her doctor thought we should wait a little longer before getting tubes tied or snipped or whatever.  The condom broke.  I don't know how often it happens, but it did, and apparently the spermicide didn't manage to kill off all the sperm, because we know exactly the day she conceived our third child.  

Now make no mistake.  As it turns out, he's a great kid, and we've never regretted having him, but we were taking what we thought were more than adequate measures to prevent pregnancy.  

Answer 24

I don't believe them either. I started dating my husband at 15 years old. I took birth control and we used a condom EVERY time until we tried for our son. Then we used a condom every time til we tried for the baby we are expecting now. Not 1 time in our 15 year relationship has a condom broke. I think people need a lesson on how to properly put one on before they start having s*x and maybe there wont be SO many ACCIDENTS.

Answer 25

Nope. All of us became and stayed parents by our own choices. Even if the pregnancy was an "accident" there were still choices.  We all had the option to not have s*x. We all had the option of abortion and adoption. We all have had the ability to make our children wards of the state. Therefore we all chose to be parents. There is no intelligent reason for people whining about being pregnant or using excuses. It makes me sick to watch people complain that they dont want one of the parents in their child's life as well. How can you have s*x with someone and then decide they are a bad person and shouldn't be allowed near a child? Shouldn't you determine that before the s*x? Now don't get me wrong I can understand in the cases of parents who have shown themselves to be unfit. But many pregnant women on this site are already trying to figure out how to exclude the father. The baby isnt even born yet and neither parent has had any chance to show themselves to be unfit. If you knew the person was on drugs or a criminal why would you choose a relationship with that person?

OK rant over.

Answer 26

They do break, especially if they have been in the heat. It's true.

Also, sometimes vasectomies or tubal ligations are not completely effective. This is why my boyfriend has a little brother. He has an older brother because the pill is not 100% effective either.

Answer 27

If a condom actually broke, then yes it is an accident. Because you didn't have one break on you, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Now, if the condom slipped off well then no its no accident cause obviously the guy didn't put it on right.

As for forgetting the pill, who are you to judge? Both my pregnancies were unexpected. I wasn't being irresponsible when i forgot to take my pill. The last few years have been really tough and have gone through more stress in the last 3 years then i have in my whole life.

I never once referred to either of my pregnancies as accidents, they were unexpected but very much wanted.  

Answer 28

I agree with you, if your not using contraception or are using it incorrectly then it's not an accident.

I do believe, however, that "accidents" can occur with correctly used contraceptions. They say birth control pills are 99% effective if used correctly; the other 1% had an "accident".

Answer 29

I have a hard time believe people when they say they got pregnant on the pill.  The pill is 99.9% effective.  If it is taken properly you have no chance of getting pregnant.  There is a lot of people who don't understand what taking it properly means, they need to read they manual that comes with it.  taking it every day at the same time, if you take any type of medication it effects it also.  So by accident someone could of forgot one of those things, but they weren't using their birth control properly therefore they don't really have an excuse!  I don't know how offen that condoms break but it is probably the same situation.

Answer 30

Are you bitter about something and that's why you posted this?  Is it happening to you right now?  Did you have someone tell you that they were pregnant and it was an accident and you don't believe them because in 40 years it never once happened to you?

Nothing is 100% effective. (Pills or Condoms)

Answer 31

I got pregnant with my birth control I had been taking for 3 years EVERYDAY, and I got pregnant, my doctor gave me a different kind of birth control and I got pregnant again one month after my first was born. These were accidents, birth control does not work for me, So I am getting an IUD put in because I do not want another child right now and I don't want to take a chance. I do understand that some teenagers may use this as an excuse, but why would a grown adult make up a lie about it. Why not just say I'm pregnant. I  did not want a child at the time I got pregnant, but I had one and all is great now. Birth control isn't 100% effective as you will read on the boxes when you get them. So OBVIOUSLY there are people that get pregnant while using it or it would say 100% effective wouldn't it?