Do you believe physically hitting your child is a good way of punishment? If not, what do you think is?

Question

Do you believe physically hitting your child is a good way of punishment? If not, what do you think is?

I think talking it out is a good way. I would hate to put a child in pain. Also, if you talk it out, they will actually understand. If you hit them, they will start crying and totally block out what you are saying.

And can you believe some schools allow PADDLING of students? (spanking with a paddle)?

Answer 1

Um, no, but hitting and a smack on the bum are completely different.  You just have to be careful not to step across the line to child abuse.  

Sometimes, when a little child can't reason, like a 2 year old can't, you CAN'T talk it out, it's impossible.  If you talk, they won't necessarily care or understand.

But paddling, that's out of line.  I believe striking with an object like a paddle, belt, wooden spoon, etc...is abuse.  I'd take my child outta that school in a heartbeat.  

Hope I could help.  Bye!  xxxxx

Answer 2

Yes - We use an open handed spanking to the child's rear end.

Your second point is untrue, we use quite a bit of talking before and after a spanking is given. If our girls blocked the talking out, then how would they no not to do the "misdeed" again?

Lastly you don't have to put your child in a school that allows that, however we should respect the rights of other parents who believe that is the way to go.

Answer 3

I found that with my 9 and 10 year old the best punishment is to make them pick their own. but make sure that it fits the crime.

Answer 4

Well I have a 10 year old brother (he's 5 years younger than me) He did some little swearing when he was younger and people laughed and thought it was funny. Now he is out of control and worst now and hits. Physical punishment is the only thing that works for him.  

Answer 5

Personally, I see my role as a parent as a teacher for my children, not as someone there to mete out punishments.  

know that my children desire to make safe, polite, healthy choices in their lives.  I also know that they  might make mistakes while learning how to control themselves & learning how to make the right choices.  

They, know that I know both of these things, too.

So, when they make mistakes, we help them to make amends & then to learn how to make better choices.  Or, we realize that they are not yet ready to learn that particular thing and the parents take responsibility for that choice until the kids are ready to learn it.  

I don't see the need for punishment in any of that.  

Answer 6

I do not believe spanking a child is a good form of discipline, but a swat on the bottom is not necessarily going to cause emotional damage to every child either. Sometimes you cannot talk it out with a young child, but there are so very many different options that can be more effective.  

Many parents do not take the time to educate themselves and simply follow what they know (i.e., my mom spanked me and I'm okay). I think the best advice is to really get to know your child and look for the most effective way to discipline him or her. There isn't a one size fits all here.

Answer 7

No, it's not.

Grounding them, taking away their ipods...

Outlaw Spanking!!!!!

Answer 8

sometimes kids need a little swat on the bottom cause when they see other kids not listneing when being talked to they arent either.

Answer 9

Q 1: No.

Q 2: Yes, they will do that.

Q 3: Yep, that is sad but true!

Answer 10

No, it really isn't the best or most effective punishment.  I understand that sometimes young children can get so out of control that you may need to give them a little swat- but that should always be a last resort and never done out of anger.  And I TOTALLY don't agree with hitting with objects like a paddle, belt, etc.  I think there are usually much better ways to discipline than hitting.  "Talking it out" can work much better than a lot of people think.  You just have to teach your child right from wrong from the very beginning.  You also have to build a good relationship with them.  Believe me, my parents always spent a lot of time with me (something a lot of parents these days don't do) and we had a great relationship, so I always wanted to please them.  I remember times where I actually decided not to do something because I knew my parents would be disappointed in me (NOT because I feared I'd get hit).

Answer 11

hitting does no good i was spanked as a child and that made me not want to hit my girls,

because it did no good i was spanked everything i did some thing wrong but i still did it so it does not work,

i take things away from my kids ground them talk to them about what they did wrong and it works i don't have to punish mine very often take away the 15 year OlDs PS3 and that is the end of the world  

Answer 12

what my mom did was threten to hit me like raise he hand and stuff and i got scared s**+tless but u have to act like u will hit them  

Answer 13

Hitting does NO good... as a child i was spanked and as I got older i knew that if i did something wrong mom would just spank me, it would hurt for a little bit and then that's it i could go on with the rest of my day, it never made me think i shouldn't do that or i'll get a spankin if anything i would think i'll only get a spanky and the pain will go away in minutes... Now that i have my almost 3yr. old son i think that in order to punish him i will take away things he enjoys playing with, tv time, more chores, ground him... now those are things he will miss & hopefully that allows him to say i don't like being punished. & of course talk to them & let them know what they did wrong, because sometime they really don't know what they did wrong because after all they are kids & in their eyes what they did might not seem wrong.