Do you believe that there is one perfect soul mate for you?

Question

that one guy that you are meant to marry?

am i silly to believe that true love and passion exist? many people tell me that, no you just learn to like the guy/girl you marry along the way, but how do you know that he/she is THE ONE?

nowadays there are so many divorces, i have a cousin who started out with a great marriage but now the other spouse is horrible.

Answer 1

Yes I do. I met mine 35 years ago. I just happened up on him and the rest is history. It is hard to tell when it is you soul mate when you love someone and have true passion for them grab the brass ring and hold on for dear life. Don't let the silly little things in life get you down.

Answer 2

first off, dispel the notion of soul-mate..

that a romantic women's term for thinking that there are still knights in white ( or is that polished stainless steel ) armor

women are realty horrible at relationships

they think on the emotional level, not the logical

hence why they seek soul-mates

soul-mates are a convienant excuse for not working at any relationship

all relationships ( friends, marriages ) require work on both parties

they simple just do not just work as is

soul-mates are lazy

they are like potheads

they put little effort in order to gain what is beneficial to them

hence why at first they are easy realtionships

but then when the real work comes about

people flake out

and the accusations fly....

as for the "one"

that too is a croc....

why?

to think that in that in this planet of over 6 billion people only one person is well suited for you is laughable at best, ignorant at worst

anyone is replaceable in nay relationship, when you fail to maintain a relationship ( think soulmates... ), you then realize why people cheat

they are simple looking for something better

they are simple looking for someone who is truly interested in them as a human

they do not need soulmatea

they need a mature life long partner in life

and they are suprising easy to find

but most people are lazy and thus want what they want right now

with instant gratification

without doing the homework

without putting time in the "trenches" so to speak

and then you wonder why we have such a high divorce rates

i no longer attend weddings

after all why bother, there is a 50% chance they will be divorced

Answer 3

I believe I have no idea what God's plans for my life are.

Answer 4

when you have that person in your life you just know there meant for you forever

Answer 5

You wait until you find the right one. Too many people jump the gun because they think they will be alone if they don't. They get married too young and end up in divorce.

Answer 6

i believe in that. I'm not sure where that belief comes from...but I do believe that. I'm a dreamer type person...and one who believes...my entire family..is nothing like me...so like i said...idk where it comes from lol.

i do see the divorces all around me...on tv...family...etc. i kinda don't let that get in the way of my belief though. sometimes i wonder if they really thought ..that person was the one. i never had a real bf...just friends...i wouldn't try things with someone i know i won't ever be with...i guess it takes LOADS of patience...and most people don't have it? IDK...maybe we will never know...

Answer 7

I agree with you, I think there is a one.

Answer 8

I don't think so.  I've been in love three times & each one I thought was my soulmate. Please let my current love be the one. I do feel it with him that I didn't feel with the other two so I can only hope!!!

Answer 9

I believe most people settle with what they can get. If there is a soul mate out there and you meet them normally the timing is off they are not available etc.  I do not believe most people marry their soulmates they just marry mates.  

Answer 10

I have been with my husband for 14 years we've married for 12 years and i knew right from the start we would be married for a long time and trust me we have our knock down drag out fights but we wake up in the morning and we  are still together no matter what life throws our way so yes there is such thing as true love and you will know when it happens to you trust me...

Answer 11

There no such thing as Soul Mate that like saying the tooth Fairy!  Some stupid women made up that term

Answer 12

They're wrong. You don't just pick someone and then learn to like it. The good news is that there is a perfect soul mate for you. The better news is that there are a lot of them. When you find one of them, consider that you've hit the jackpot. As to how you know...

Well, that's the other part. It's pretty rare to just discover the you and they are perfect for each other in every way. People aren't so simple as that. What makes it perfect is that you love each other and you both have enough control of the egos and the ability to communicate and the stead desire to keep making it better. That's perfection - keeping it getting better. Don't look for perfect. Look for the desire to be perfect for you.  

Answer 13

I didn't use to believe in soul mates until I met mine.  You just know when you find that person that even though they are not perfect...they are still perfect to you.  

I knew when I married my ex husband that there were issues from the beginning and I still married him.  I knew he wasn't the one but I was determined to make it work.  Of course it didn't so we divorced.  But the man I'm with now...it's soooo much easier!  There are no doubts in sharing a life with him.

Answer 14

or 2 or three...

Answer 15

I would like to think everyone has a soulmate out there. Mines apparently preoccupied.