Let me ask this, do you believe you have to love a family member who mistreated you your whole life and is an abuser "just because he/she is your father/mother/aunt/brother/etc..."?
I recently had a heated discussion with an aunt of mine. My grandfather, who had a rough childhood, has always been (and always will be) an abusive person. He's mistreated my mother, my aunts, my mom's brother, and even verbally abuses my grandmother, and has mistreated me for most of my life (thirteen years I had to live with him). Now that he's getting old (and deteriorating), over this past few years he's always trying to talk to me or wanting to hear from me, but I can't stand his racist and coldhearted ways. I can safely say I truly hate him and have no love for him.
But yet my mother and aunt get offended because "he's still their father" and "he's still my grandfather". I truly don't believe in "blood-ties", because I'm not close to either side of my family and I really don't love him (whether he loves me or not).
And anyways, if I really don't like a family member, why do people feel so-called "blood" should stop me from disliking (or even hating) a family member? If I don't like someone, I don't. Its simple really. What's your opinion?
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