Do you belive in the old fashioned way of life?

Question

man brings home the bacon and the wife takes care of the family, loves, supports and follows?

Answer 1

No I don't, you wish for us to go back to a time when woman were no more than doormats and had no voice withstand the beatings and the heartaches with no right to any help, the only thing I would turn back time for is the simpler way we lived,  

Answer 2

something ,the level of respect ,parents now days don't demand respect, kids are out of control , mothers are out of the house working ,which is good ,babies having babies,yeah some old fashion ways are good and some not.

Answer 3

yeah, that doesn't sound bad...

Answer 4

I believe that the age of chivalry is sort of dead , but I wish it were back in full swing and as far as the old fasioned way of life you are talking about is further dead than the age of chivalry is . I would love for it to be around in some ways , but our society and the inflation of today makes it impossible for the husband to provide everything for his family . Most homes today have two working parents to make ends meet and we as humans do whatever is neccessary to sustain our families with a comfortable living .

Answer 5

It's the way I was raised and I do prefer it because of the kids however, I'm an old domestic by heart....in this day and age it's a luxury that few couples can afford.

I had to go to work full time whenthe ex walked out and left me with 3 outta four kids to care for....so I've been on both sides of the fence. Working full time & being a single parent (had absolutely no input from the ex except for a minimal amount of child support) is difficult but we all got thru it.

Now I have 4 wonderful adult kids and a new life with a new husband that my kids call 'awesome' so it did work out for me...and I've retired from my career (commercial baker) because I can (he's got that 6 figure income) , we live modestly, no more babies to support, and after being single for so long he loves coming home to a happy adoring wife, a spotless home, and a hot home cooked meal......

Answer 6

i dont

Answer 7

Yes. I don't like the working world. I'd rather be a mother at home taking care of the homefront. It's not easy street by any means. I'm well-educated. I consider myself to be a kind of feminist. (key part being feminine)  I don't think men are better than women. I think we are equal partners in this world. We need each other.

Answer 8

Its ok if thats what ur into.

Answer 9

If that works for the couple I see nothing wrong with it.  I don't think we could  do it though either emotionally (I need interaction) or financially.

Answer 10

Yes. That's what my husband & I are doing. It is hard though. We often don't have enough money for anything besides bills. I think it is good for the family as long as the children are too small for school. As they get older, I personally think it's best for the family to have 2 incomes, just to be able to provide better for the family.

Answer 11

I absolutely do.  And to those of you who consistently say "we have to have two incomes to survive", that is not true.  If one puts one mind to something it can be done.  One just needs to live within their means and stop trying to keep up with the Jones'.

Answer 12

yes i most certainly do!!

for the wife to take care of the family is EXACTLY what God intended the wife to do!!

She must also love , support and follow, yes.

She has a HUGE responsibility, and must take this job VERY seriously.

Answer 13

I do enjoy that lifestyle, with the exception of "following."  I feel both parents need to have an equal say as to what goes on in the household, especially with the children.  Both parents are adults, and neither should have more say than the other.

I want to stay home with my children, however, we cannot afford a one income household.  To enable me to stay home with my children and have income, I run a small, in home day care where I just watch a few kids in addition to my own.  It enables me to raise my children and have income as well. :)

Answer 14

Yes I do, but in the States it can't be done, unless you are bringing home a 6 figure bacon. You can in other country's like the Philippines where I live and I am from the States, Calif. And I love it here and the people. What is here is what I remembered I had when I live in the States a long time ago. Not going to say my age, where you waiting for that, Not.  

Answer 15

Old fashioned?

Traditional is relative, in reality many tribal societies rely on the man to generate security, teach boys, cook, hunt and maintain diplomacy.

Women have been known to maintain social aspects, teach girls, cook, hunt (yes tribla women often hunt for smaller game) and maintain diplomacy...

Really there is little difference between what a man does and what a woman does. If a woman can "bring home the bacon" better than a man, then why not? If a man cooks better than a woman then why not?

"Traditional" is often a word used by people who dont like other cultures.

BTW -> raised by a father that worked at home, while my mum worked. Father was a better cook.

My wife cleans, I cook... we both manage money, and social aspects.

I believe in traditional way... just not the same one as you think of.

Answer 16

Yes, It's nice like that, although it depends if the man makes enough money at work...  

Answer 17

yeah, because the women seem to strain themselves by working/house duties/kids, only because of this reason. I am not against women having to want their own career. But I do agree with the kids being well manered and all that in the passed.

Answer 18

That's what we do, and our marriage has been wonderful, family is totally happy.

I have two degrees, had a great career before the first child, then became a SAHM.

Answer 19

No.  I prefer to work and take care of my family.  It keeps me skinny:)  My husband could never run our household the way that I do, he would admit that.  I like to bring home the bacon AND cook it!

Answer 20

I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to be able to stay home with my daughter but unfortunately that is not an option in our house :(  Some people are just not able to have one income...also depends on where you live.

As for the rest of that statement...women still take care of the family, love and support their hubbies...wth is up with "follows" do you think women are sheep? I got news, there are a lot of women out there who do far more than "follow" their hubbies lead.

Answer 21

Hmm.  Sounds like the wife's job is a bit much.  I mean, all the man has to do is bring home bacon, while wifey's gotta add "love, support and follow" to the initial job of family care.  

Anyway, I was raised to hold that womanly position.  I can cook, clean, and even educate the children; plus I know lots of ways to make extra money from home.  If a guy's definition of success in life means having a nice house with home cooked meals and some young ones, and I loved and was loved in return by this guy, I could certainly do it.  But would a guy consider a woman to be successful in such a lifestyle?  Would he feel she was a worthwhile person?

I am also capable of taking care of myself by myself, which is what I do right now.  Is a guy capable?  Can he feed himself and keep himself clean and neatly clothed while staying within his budget like I can?  I would want to know that he could before I would fill the job of old-fashioned wife for him, because I would want him to understand the worth of such an employee.

I figured I would present an itemized list to any chap who wanted me to fill this position for him to help him know what my salary should be:

Short order cook

Nutritionist

Occasional catering

Food delivery

Maid service

Laundry

Interior decorator

Nanny

Counselor (love, support, follow)

I think a man who wants this sort of division of labor should understand his worth as the head of such a venture too.  After all, he is employing someone who might not find a better paying job with benefits elsewhere.  He should also take his job seriously by making sure his employee is healthy physically and mentally--just like most companies do today.  And he should check his prospective's resume too--he needs to know she is going to do her job and be worth her pay and position.

I think it would be nice if he loved and supported too. :)

Answer 22

Seemed to work back then. Less divorce, better mannered kids.  

Answer 23

I think that would be great but today most families need 2 incomes....

Answer 24

If that works for you, and your wife agrees, go for it.

A SAHM is a good thing, I believe the benefits reaped by the kids is enormous, if you can swing it financially.

As far as the woman "follows"... that's another one depending on if the woman feels the same way. There's no cut-n-dry formula that anyone should feel they *have* to fall into.  

Answer 25

yeah that way of life isnt bad....i dont see why BOTH parents need to work....it leaves the kids isolated.

Answer 26

what do you mean by believe? if you are asking whether people SHOULD live this way, then it should be an individual choice, person to person / family to family.

however if you are asking people's personal opinions, i quite like the idea myself. i quite enjoy being at home and looking after my baby and husband. i prefer it to working as i'm not particularly career orientated. however, in our particular financial climate, it's not entirely possible for us to do that right now & i have to work part time.