Do you blame the woman for starting an affair or the married man?

Question

I blame the woman, as a woman should know better, woman to woman. If the married man pursues the woman, it is the man's fault, but if a woman pursues the married man, she is a sl..t, which is much worse. I think the married man will blame the slu..ty woman for destroying his married, therefore. .

Answer 1

You have to see in two angles.

first, if a woman starting an affair

and if a man starting an affair

with married man and woman

first we take a woman.  she is married and running a family with her husband who married her.  if the same woman begins an affair with another man, it is purely fault on the side of woman.  she not only having to start an illegal affair with another man and spoiling the smooth life of another man and also spoiling her family. This will bring sad and sorrow to both family for a pleasure of small hours.  The life gone to dark to both.  This is because of a woman.  if the man is having good qualities, he might reject at the initial stage, but who will deny an opportunity is the matter.  yes, there are persons who did not want to spoil their families.

at the same time, if a married man starting an illegal affair with a woman, the above said effect will come to both families.  A nice woman will advice or reject and if she fell in the nett, the sad and sorrows are the result.

Both should realise their family, the children, the children's future, the respect in the society etc.,  if not realised the end will be worst.

but, when comparing the man and woman, the affected party is woman than man.  if the approval given by a woman only, the man enters into the scene, so woman is more responsible for good and bad, because she is most affected than man.  The man can escape and he may say some reasons which will be approved by the society, but woman's reasons are not acceptable by the society.

i blame the woman only.  if she is careful and thinking of pros and cons, she will not think and enter into illegal affairs.  The man is weak in s*x and falling with attraction will be natural and therefore, i blame the woman only.  This is my opinion.

Answer 2

BS!! Blame the woman...*shakes head* How typical of you. I blame both of them, woman to woman, she should know better, I agree. But the marriage must mean nothing to  the man if he feels the need to be intimate with another female, knowing his wife would be devastatingly hurt. Always remember...it takes two to tango...!!!

Answer 3

You're seriously not very intelligent, are you?  If the guy, who's actually IN the committed relatonship, chooses to sleep around with a woman, it's the woman who's more to blame?  Take it from a guy... we know what we're doing when unzip our pants.  It's alway the person who does the cheating who committed the greater offense.  Just because a woman enjoys s*x and your man apparently enjoys giving it to her, doesn't mean she's a s**t... it means your man wanted a piece of what she was offering and apparently doesn't care that much about you.  LOL Think it through, please...

Answer 4

The married man is to blame in the first place.The reason being he knows he is married but still goes into starting an affair with another woman.

Answer 5

No, the man! A ho is gonna be a ho, but he's the one who made the commitment, not the other woman. He's the one who is supposed to say "Honey, there is something wrong with our relationship and I wanna work it out," instead of going, "I gotta problem, lemme go make it better by cheating" (which never makes it better)

Answer 6

Well i blame the husband first off he is your husband he shouldn't be cheating on you. But it is the woman's fault to if she knows he is married i hate sl*ts that go after married men. My husband cheated on me with his sk*nk of an ex wife and she knows that we are married and her excuse is that she was married to him first well i told her she wasn't married to him anymore i was so back off! They both are sh*theads for doing what they did. I blame them both they both now better they are not stupid well maybe they are i guess.

Answer 7

NOBODY IS RIGHT IN THE SITUATION, THEREFORE, BOTH THE MAN AND WOMAN INVOLVED IN THE AFFAIR ARE WRONG. HOWEVER, IF YOU WANT TO PLACE THE BLAME, THAT LIES DIRECTLY IN ON THE MARRIED INDIVIDUAL. IF A MAN CHEATS ON HIS WIFE, HE IS THE ONE CHEATING; NOT THE OTHER WOMAN. SHE HAS ABSOLUTELY NO OBLIGATION TO THE WIFE WHATSOEVER. HOW CAN ONE EXPECT MORE FROM A STRANGER THAN YOU DO THE PERSON WHO VOWED TO LOVE, CHERISH, AND RESPECT YOU TIL DEATH DO YOU PART. DON'T GET ME WRONG, MORALLY THE OTHER WOMAN OR MAN IS JUST AS WRONG BUT YOU CAN'T BLAME THEM FOR NOT RESPECTING A MARRIAGE THAT THEY HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO.

I HATE SEEING WOMEN MAD AT THE OTHER WOMAN. NEWSFLASH: YOUR HUSBANDS CHEATING ON YOU...NOT HER! HOW CAN YOU EXPECT MORE FROM A WOMAN THEN THE MAN WHO IS ACTUALLY MARRIED TO YOU?  

Answer 8

I blame the man because he is the one who has a commitment to another person.  Even if the woman initiates, he is the one with the commitment and he is the one who should tell her to back off.  She is not obligated to his wife, even though she is wrong, she has no obligation to her.  The husband does.  He said the vows.

Answer 9

Actually, i would blame the wife and the husband not the "mistress".

Let's face it, if a man is cheating on his wife, then there are problems in the marriage that is causing the man to look elsewhere for what he is not getting at home.  Most people are mistaken and think that married men cheat because they want s*x.  This is not true, married men usually cheat because their wives are acting in such a manner that it makes them crave affection and attention from other women.

This can be attributed to the man not telling his wife what is wrong, or the woman just not caring to understand men in general.  Whatever the case may be the result is the same, the man ends up looking for a woman that will make himself feel good about himself.   So in that aspect it is the wife that is to blame.

On the other hand, the man should either keep trying to tell his wife what is wrong.  And if unsuccessful he should realize that it is time to end the marriage.  Unfotunately most men for some reason don't end it, before looking for something else. So he is to blame.

You can't really blame it on the other woman quite simply, if the man was being treated right at home she would have no chance with the married man.  And if the man had enough morals, there is nothing this other woman could do to get him to have an affair with her.

Answer 10

it really depends on the situation, women defiantly have an advantage over men as we are s***s. But if a man loves his wife he should know better so it is just as much his fault as hers.

Answer 11

The MAN is the one who took the marriage vows. The woman might be guilty of bad judgement for being with a married man, but the man is the one betraying his wife.  

Answer 12

Both!

You can blame the guy for being a douche, and the woman for being a home wrecker at the same time.

Its everyones fault really.

Answer 13

this really is a load of BS you obviously have never been cheated on otherwise you would not come out with such drivel. We have all got minds of our own and are responsible for our own actions, also one of the first words we learn as a child is no, which seems to be forgotten in situations like this. I honestly think you do not know what you are talking about.

Answer 14

Uh...the one who initiated the cheating, obviously.

Answer 15

They're both to blame and perhaps a small percentage on the spouses at home for doing whatever to cause their spouse to want to cheat.

Nobody is 100% innocent here and it takes everyone to have a good square dance.

Answer 16

You know, married women can cheat with single men too.  It does go both ways.  As for who's to blame, it all depends on the situation; it's not set in stone.  Did the married person deceive the other into thinking they weren't married?  And what if they're both married?  Is only one at fault there?  You can't just say someone's to blame if such-and-such is what happened.  That's why we have a judicial system, as saying who's to blame for something is a case-by-case thing.

Answer 17

I blame the guy...why? because I fell in love with a married man too...and I admit I flirt with him (well im not the only one) but we just ended up to be friends. Im so disappointed but I admire him more because I believe he really loves his family...

Answer 18

If you want to cast blame....both of them plus the wife.  There are always 3 people in an affair. If a guy is happy at home he wont  "stray"

Answer 19

NOT both equally.

Blame the cheating hubby much more than the woman: 90 to 10.

Is the woman guilty of not caring about somebody else's wife? Yes, still guilty but much less than the hubby, who did not care about his OWN wife.

Answer 20

They're both at fault.

The only possible exception would be where she didn't know he was married.

However because he is the one with a spouse I believe he is the one committing a graver wrong.

Harriet

Answer 21

Both are commiting adultry...a little more of the person who is married, whether that person is man or woman....they are comitting adultry AND breaking the vows they made to their spouse and to God.

Answer 22

The person to blame is the wife at home. If she was doing her job (making sure her husband is happy) he wouldn't persue another woman. And if another woman  tried to persue him, he wouldn't acknowledge her attemps!

Answer 23

definately both. it doesn't matter who "started it" that is kind of immature to use as an excuse. both people are responsible for their actions

Answer 24

while the other woman is a certain ***** for her seductions or falling into his trap of seduction.  it takes two.   the married man and the sl*t will of course blame the wife.  

Answer 25

its actually the fault of the husband for cheating,he destroyed the marriage, he made the choice to do it.other women really don't care they are seeking the kind of life the wife has.

Answer 26

It matters not who is to blame as far as the person in your marriage and the person who is not is concerned. He's the one who is accountable to you. She is not.

Answer 27

My thinking on this is that if the man is married, it doesn't matter if a woman comes and wants him, he knows his responsibility and therefore should reject the offer.

My ex-husband had an affair, and I never blamed the girl.  In fact, I kinda made friends with her and realised that she is just like me.  So no, I don't blame her.  She might have fallen in love with him, but it was his responsibility to say "No".

Answer 28

fault is of both of them.  

but y u guys r like blaming woman only.  if he is with him ask him y he is havng another affair when he is married? i know every married man will blame that another woman in his life to destroy his marrieage but they dont have guts to accept that feeling that they were bored in their marriage so thay wanted to have smthng new.  its not that that woman has destroyed this persons marriage but also that man has detroyed her whole life.  think on that dude and b4 callilng sm1 these bad words know how come that woman is in that relationship than use these words.

Answer 29

Both parties are to blame for getting married... marriage is too permanent- so if you are gonna have affairs, just don't get married - if you expect the other do have affairs, then don't get married...

Answer 30

You blame the person that was suppose to be loyal to you.  If my hubby every cheated, I'd be mad at the woman, but I would fault him cause his loyalty should be to me.  She has no loyalties to me - she's just doing her (can't knock her for that)!

Answer 31

depends.

women get really naggy and bother the man, and the men are full of there self and think tehy dont have to do anything.

so i guess both  :(