Do you blame yourself for not being happier or do you blame others instead ?

Question

Some people do not understand that happiness resides right inside oneself .

Your mind is the boss .

Answer 1

If I said I could be angry any time I want to be, it's all in my mind, what does that actually mean? It means I want to have one emotion all the time and I must be damaged in some way. Just replace happiness and you have your answer. You must be damaged in some way.

Happiness is an emotion. Emotions come and go. Get over it.

Answer 2

Since I don't seem to control anyone...not even ME...I share the blame equally!!!

Answer 3

I blame others because they are controlling my life.

Answer 4

You are correct happiness is a state of mind and is not allways easy to achive.

I have been on anti depressants of 13 years   (Chemical imbalance)and when I Really Try Hard I can feel happy, but it takes a lot of hard work for me.

At times I blame other people, becuase that is easy to do that to re ajust my own thinking.

Answer 5

I blame president Bush!

Answer 6

Yep I do blame my mind.  Well that and work a bit too, if I had insurance I could at least be back on meds to help a bit.

Answer 7

If things are not control by me, I will blame others.

If things that are control by myself. I blame myself.

Answer 8

Exactly! I have the power to be happy everyday.  I cannot let someone hold my happiness in their hand, and let them decide.  I wake up each morning feeling great, ready to start the day, and ready to discover some of life's greatest gifts.  I have a positive, happy attitude because I have spent way too many days on the negative other side.  Choosing happiness is all up to me, and as I do this, I create the wonderful life I deserve.

I understand we all live amongst negative people who try their hardest to bring us down with them.  I have decided when I am around those people, I just repeat to myself, "No one can steal my thunder." And my thunder is my happiness.  

Thanks for reading!

Answer 9

I agree, but often one blames others due to the shame they have of not being happy and seeing other enjoy life to the fullest. Also, people may blame others because they have what they want, looks, brains, the guy/girl etc.

Personally i blame others even tho ik its my fault. Its a bad habit but its often due to jealousy.

Hope this helps.

Answer 10

It depends on the circumstances. But on the whole, only blaming yourself is madness. Foreclosures on houses and poor air quality making you miserable are hardly your fault, especially if you have tried to combat them.

This little "you make your own future" philosophy is designed to make people feel as though they are responsible for everything in order to exhonerate the real guilty.  

Answer 11

i blame my brothers, i've told my mom before, i really do, and it really is their fault, nobody is fully control of their own lives

Answer 12

I know that if i am unhappy, then i am really the only one to blame because nobody else can control how i live my life or react to different situations... but sometimes it just feels good to be able to blame other people. That is definitely something i have to work on and i know that, but i don't think you should judge others to harshly for it because it is natural not to want to take all the responsibility on your own shoulders

Answer 13

i blame myself, i mean why would i blame someone else?

Answer 14

Happiness is a mind state. It arises when causes and conditions are correct. It passes when causes and conditions are not correct The same is true for all other mind states. I control my conditions with my choices. Everything I need is within me.

Answer 15

happiness is a state of mine.  it's useless to blame others, for if you do, you are just fooling yourself and only yourself.  i am unhappy, but it's my own doing.  i am too scared to follow my dreams.  i am too worried about making mistakes.  but it's that fear... that worry... which holds me back.  my sadness is due to my own insecurity.  woe is me and for that reason i have become woe.  :'(    

Answer 16

i blame me i am the one who controls my self

Answer 17

i don´t blame myself.

i just spank myself, remind me not waste my time being unhappy

Answer 18

I Blame you a little.