Do you consider yourself a good mom?

Question

Just curious as to how many of you women consider yourself a good mom why or why not? Have you ever did or said anything to your children that you now regret and if possible if you could go back in time would you wait to have kids or what would you do different?

Answer 1

I'm a great mom. I waited to have my kids (I have two and want to adopt 1-2 more! Just can't get enough!) and then I quit my job as a school teacher just so I could be with them as much as possible. I then decided I wanted to homeschool them and I am so glad I did. I get to be with them every step of the way. My daughter has a few special needs and would not make it in the school system, so having Mommy right by her side encouraging her and loving her really helps. My son, age 11, comes by my side every evening while I am on this computer playing, and scratches my back putting me in heaven telling me how much he loves me.  Of course he wants his back scratched too. LOL! Just having the close bond with them is so special, and getting to spend all day together is awesome! I could not imagine sending them off to school for 6 hours per day. We are all Christians and base our lives on God's word. We use it to guide our lives, so when we do make mistakes, and Dear, we all do, we can easily ask for forgiveness and get a big group cuddle showing how unconditional our love for each other is.

If I could go back in time, I would have wanted about 2 more kids--too many is not good for me because I want to give them all of my attention and I only have two arms and one lap, ya know?! Now I am getting a bit too old to conceive, so perhaps wanting to adopt is God's way of us providing a balanced family for a child who needs a home.

I hope my answers inspire you in some way. I sure love being a mom.  I think that is a big part of what makes a good mother.

Karen :0)

Answer 2

Yes, I believe I am a good mom. I have always put my children's needs first and would step in front of a bus for either one of them. I do the best I can, but I am far from perfect. Of course there are things I would do/say differently in retrospect, but there is no such thing as a "perfect" parent. I apologize if I've made a mistake and I think they appreciate seeing me as an imperfect person, who's willing to say, "I was wrong and I'm sorry." But most importantly, I love my kids unconditionally and they know that. :)

Answer 3

Yes...God has given me a job to do ,and I am doing it.We were not handed manuals...we use our instincts...just like a mother wolf,or bird. It is just there,for most of us. There are the good and the bad,as in anything. In my heart,mind body and soul..I know I am,and have been a great Mom. Mistakes may be made,but we correct them and move on. Learning by our mistakes. After all ...Moms are human too.

Answer 4

I think I'm a good mom. I would die just so my daughter could live.  

Answer 5

I do consider myself to be a good mom. My kids are my number 1 priority. I knew I wanted to be a mom since I was little and I started babysitting at 11. I worked for years in the childcare field before having my own kids, as a nanny and in daycare/preschools. I feel as if I gained a lot of experience before having my own and I feel that helped me be a better parent when I had my own.

Answer 6

I'm not perfect and I have made mistakes but I think i'm a good mom. Would die in a heart beat for my children

Answer 7

I consider myself to be a good mom. Yes I've made mistakes but I'm still learning. I became a mom young (19) but i wouldn't change anything that's happened. I have two beautiful boys and a great husband (well he still needs some work...they don't come perfect right out of the box!!).  

Answer 8

i was 21 and 23 when my kids were born.  in retrospect i was way too young and immature and i could have done a lot better job being a mom if i had waited.  i was too interested in my own life and my own interests.  didn't have enough attention for them.  didn't have the emotional maturity to maintain a stable relationship that was good for them.  oh the tales.  it's very hard to be a good mom.  very hard.

Answer 9

of course im not *perfect* like the *perfect* tv mums, with two children and thet never stop smiling.

but i do my best and my kids are happy and that is all that matters to me.

Answer 10

I have my doubts when it comes to my parenting abilities and yes, there's a MILLION things I wish I had done differently. I don't know if I'm a good Mom, but I know I'm not a bad Mom. I've seen Moms beat their kids, belittle their kids, starve their kids, ignore their kids...I don't do any of that, so I guess I'm doing ok.

If I could go back in time, yes, I would definitely wait. I had my first at 16 and that is hard, being thrown into adulthood like that.

Answer 11

Yes I consider myself a good mom. That being said a good mom is not a perfect mom. I dont believe there is such a thing as a perfect mother. If anyone does not regret something that they've said or they've done with their child, then they are either being dishonest with others or out of touch with themselves and reality.  I think every parent makes mistakes, how you handle them is what matters. The times I've blown it, I've admitted it, told my daughter I was sorry and asked for forgiveness and tried to change it or not do it in the future. The truth is, I think it's healthy for a child to see you make mistakes and blow it in your relationship with them at times because nobody is perfect and if they grow up thinking that they have to be perfect, then you will have a very anxious and insecure child. If they see you blow it, ask for forgiveness, change, and forgive yourself, then they will learn how to do that when they blow it in life. So, in a nutshell, there are many things that I wish I had done differently with my daughter, but the truth is, she is a healthy, well adjusted, little girl, so overall, I think I've been a good mom.  

Answer 12

I think that I am a good mom, because I try to be conscious of what I'm teaching my daugher by the things that I do and say (to her and around her). My daugher is bright, articulate, independent and outgoing... which tells me I'm doing my job well. (Of course, most days, I think that she teaches me more that I teach her, but I'm ok with that...she's a very old soul - me, not so much...)

One thing that I think makes a good parent is the ability to say "I was wrong," or "I should have done that differently"... we expect our kids to 'fess up when they mess up, and we owe them the same. Be suspicious of any parent who says they're perfect. They're not. They're just not paying attention to their s***w ups.

And, like most parents, I would lay down in front of a bus to protect my daughter. That should go without saying.

I have no regrets about the way I've behaved with my daughter: that is part of why I apologize when I do something that I wish I'd done differently -- acknowledging that, and making it right means you don't have to carry around regret forever.

I was in my 30s when I had my daughter. I wouldn't have done it earlier, because I had too much to learn about how to be the kind of person that allows me to be a good parent. I was ready when I had her (as ready as anyone is, I guess).

cheers.