Do you ever feel ugly? I'm going through this thing where I feel ugly.?

Question

I'm overworked and I could use some advice on how to feel better about myself. Sometimes I have episodes beyond my control but I don't think it will get like that this time. Depression sucks.

Answer 1

For years, I didn't know that I had a reason to feel sad, ugly, depressed and wanting to die. But I did. I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder in 1997. Hospitalized after a severe episode of fluctuating between depression and mania. I had hit bottom.

Since then, even after learning about depression and it's complexities, taking medication, being professionally treated, I still have the "ugly" thing happen to me sometimes. It's really difficult to give someone advice on how to feel better when each of us is different and each of us may react differently to the same nurturing.

Saying that, I'm wondering how comfortable you would be with this ritual that helps me. It is simple, but you have to be very comfortable and relaxed before beginning. When you're alone, look into a mirror closely, and really look at what you see. Look into your eyes carefully, stare at your eyes for a moment.... absorb all the feelings you have. Look at your face, back to your eyes, back to your face.... smile at yourself. Do your eyes change? Does your face change? Do you feel anything good? Do you think to yourself, "hey, I look just fine" - (I do).

The most important thing to remember is this: no matter what anyone else says, does, or tries to have you believe, YOU are always the one with the clout to make the decision about yourself. I hope some of this has helped you, DH. Best to you always.

Answer 2

Depression does suck...horribly!

I feel ugly when i get stressed, or when i am in a bad mood. Or like now, when my life is going downhill and i am depressed.

I have heard beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and chances are not EVERYONE is going to think you are ugly. And i am guessing you aren't. I call myself ugly alot. It sure doesn't help self esteem. But then my friends will say that i am pretty, and that i have confidence they wish they had, I have NO confidence, but maybe it seems like it. When i see a pretty girl walk into a room, i am immediatly jealous, in a good way. I guess what i am trying to say is, Its life. I kinda look at it like this....no one looks like me, no one is exactly like me, so i am unique. It helps.

I'm sorry your depressed. It truly sucks. =)

SOrry if i wasnt much help.

~~Taylor

Answer 3

ugh. i have the same problem. i feel like c**p. im OBSESSED with how i look and my weight even though im basically bones. im always trying to make myself look better. i hide behind piercings. im insecure. i know how you feel. im not sure what advice to give, but just know your not alone. idk really. ive tried cutting. its just a waste of time.

everyone has their problems. i just really get my mind off myself and try to think about other people and how hard they have it.

email me if you ever want to talk.

Answer 4

yes i know how you feel...but its not all the time. i just try to be more positive now but i frikkin hate it when people try to lecture you AND say that

Answer 5

yeah, my self perception fluctuates all the time... i wish it were more consistent in a positive way... i guess the key is comforting, and uplifting self talk.

Answer 6

completely agree with elemental jazz.. depression is really bad for your overall physical, and mental health so try to relax or do some positive alone time.. i.e. meditation, or reading uplifting books... maybe try to get away from the environment that you're in now.. i sometimes get depressed when i've been feeling caged within the same environement for long periods of time, so maybe try travelling to somewhere nice.. it might help..

Answer 7

I feel ugly sometimes, but I just always tell myself to have a positive attitude and just be the best that I can be.  I know the depression state but talk to a friend or eat some sweets.  It might or might not work....works on me though.  If you are religious at all, just know that God loves you and he put you on the earth for a reason.(Might sound cheesy but deal with it!)  Everyone feels ugly at times but you just have to get over it and keep a smile on your face