Do you ever get a bit tired of reading "It's your wedding, do whatever you want" for a response?

Question

I think that's common knowledge and kind of a cop-out answer. Of course you can do what you want, that's not the point. What they're asking is how would you feel if you attended this wedding.

Answer 1

I agree.

Realisticaly, that's often a crappy answer because lord knows very few of us have the resources to 'do what you want" and besides that if that was alogical answer, one wouldn't be here asking questions..

Answer 2

i completely agree i am sick of reading it.i get annoyed of it

Answer 3

If you someone wants a wedding that shows no consideration for anyone else they shouldn't invite anyone. Otherwise they should take guests into consideration. If they are trying to do that by asking a question here, "do whatever you want" is inappropriate. If they are asking a question about taste, such as colors etc. "do whatever you want" is an appropriate attachment to an opinion given. I definitely get sick of reading it though, I agree with the poster who said "it is like saying 'who's going to care but you.'"

Answer 4

Well, it is your day~ isn't it???

Nah, just kidding!

Weed out the bad answers, because

most people here really do try to

help each other!

Answer 5

Perhaps you CAN do what you want, but is it what you want to do the CORRECT or MOST DESIRABLE course of action? It's not just "your" wedding -- both families and all the guests are also stakeholders and their convenience, expectations, and comfort will be taken into account unless "you" have bought into the silly idea that being a bride means wallowing in an orgy of mannerless self indulgence and reckless overspending.  

Answer 6

when i see that i hope the bride asking the question doesnt think that is an accurate answer to her question, because to do whatever she wants is many times to do something that will have consequences for her, sometimes for a lifetime to come,  such as cutting family members out of guest lists,  throwing bridesmaids out of wedding parties, fighting with mothers in law, being cruel, tacky or just completely ignorant of polite behavior,  in those cases someone telling her to do what she wants because it is her day is missing the whole point, it is her day to be the center of attention but it is never ever her day to hurt other people in myriad ways i see asked here constantly.

Answer 7

Yes because it's not really the opinion that the asker is looking for. If they use it as part of their answer it's not a big deal though. I guess ti depends on the question too...like if you ask 'should i use this..or that'...and they give no preference...then yeah it doesn't help. It's almost like saying 'who's going to care but you'

Answer 8

Yes and no. Some women are bridezillas and don't need that advice. Others are just conflicted with too many decisions and it doesn't help at all. But some are pushovers and have become a doormat for their families and need to be told to speak up and do it their way.  

Answer 9

The response is actually common sense, but a lot of people tend to need that reassurance.

The thing is, no matter how you dress it up, the response is always going to have the same fundamental. I don't mind it so much if people add on it, but if they use it as a one-liner, then yes, it is annoying.

Answer 10

Yes, I get very tired of that answer. I know that it is their wedding, but just because it is their day I don't think that gives people the right to do whatever they want - like treating people like c**p or disregarding other people's feelings.  

Answer 11

I agree.  Sometimes it sounds like it's giving the asker 'permission' to do something really lame.

Other times it sounds like the bride is permitted to be rude to others simply to please herself.

Answer 12

I always give my opinions and then as to not offend them, I tell them that everyone is different and they should do whatever they want.

  

Answer 13

Yes. I do.

I also get tired of the questions that say can I ask for money? Or, OMG, my MOH did this! Oh, and my favorite is when people ask everyone's opinion about a rude behavior and then ignore all of the advice and pick the answer that justifies their bad behavior.

Answer 14

I agree, to a point. Sometimes, people are looking for the thumbs-up to break from a tradition, and need that little push of validation. In that case, I don't think it's a cop-out, since it's what the poster is looking for.

However, when the poster is asking for specifics, I think the "do what you want" response is pretty lame.  

Answer 15

Ya it bugs me. I want my wedding to be fun for everyone, not just all about me and my hubby. I wish people would answer with their opinions more and not just "its your wedding."

Ya, it IS my wedding, but its also a party I'm putting on for my guests.