Do you ever get the feeling that your wife does not want you anymore?

Question

I do not know what I have done I am not too bad looking

a little over weight perhaps

but 6 months down the line since doing any thing

any other guy would look some where else but I love her

and I am not like that

Answer 1

Go on a romantic dinner date.  Talk about what you remember about when you first met, what she was wearing, what you were thinking.  That will make her remember her feelings when she was that green girl.  Tell her how s**y you think she is.  She is in a funk.  She will get out of it.  Dont pressure her.

Answer 2

I sometimes feel this way towards my husband, but it's only because we both have fallen into a routine that makes us so completely tired that s*x or spending time together gets to be a task that is tiring rather than the pleasure it should be.

It helps to make a date, or when you feel at your best, to woo her all over again.

A routine, after 12 years of marriage, 6 months seems like nothing and it just goes by really fast.  Only now, are you starting to look up and noticing that there's something missing...and that's the spontaneity you might have once had.

It's time to put the spice back in your lives.  It's time that both of you, or maybe just you for now, to take the step to ignite the fire that has smouldered over the years in making plans to live a comfortable life together.  

Light some candles in your bedroom, put on romantic music.  Buy yourself a cologne, buy her flowers.  Come home early and cook dinner for her.  Send the kids to a relative's home for the weekend, and greet your wife early in the morning naked with breakfast in bed, or already set up at the table.

Strip tease for your wife...if she seems uninterested...KEEP GOING until you're on top of her and teasing her too.  Have fun with rediscovering how to turn on your wife and yourself while you're at it.

When your wife is showering join her, and pretend you have busy fingers.

Tell your wife how beautiful she is and cuddle with her.  Hug her when she's cooking, kiss her when she's cleaning.  Help her with work she's doing around the house.  Foreplay is much more than just turning her on, it's a WHOLE DAY'S event, it begins with a kiss in the morning, picking up after yourself around the house, and a sweet caress at night when you need it to go much farther.

She might not want you, because it's the routine that has set in.  Get her out of it.  Help her to explore the possibility of being a rebel against rigidity.  

She needs to fall in love all over again - you did it once, go back to that point and start over.  She loves you, otherwise she wouldn't still be married to you.

Answer 3

Six months is a long time!  Talk to your wife about it.  Find out what the real problem is, then go from there.

Answer 4

u need to talk to her. but u sound lacking in confidence and this could be affecting your relationship. chin up and go speak to your wife as the real answers will come from her and not here.

Answer 5

You poor guy. How long has she been treating you like c**p before you got to this point? I'm sure if you sat down with her, and talked to her, explained that you really want your marriage to work, and she needs to give you some attention (or you wont stick around) then she might change. Sometimes wives get so caught up in thier own lives, they just expect their husbands to put up with it. Little by little, the guy gets put to the lower end of the priorities, and the wife just expects him to sit back and take it. You don't have to. She married you, she wanted to spend her life with you, what you need to do is remind her that you should be her top priority. Remind your wife that marriage is work, and to have a good marriage, you both have to put some effort into it, not just expect things to work themselves out. Your wife needs a wake up call. And you, yes you, need to give it to her.

You need some communication between you two. I would suggest a book, if she's a reader, its called "the proper care adn feeding of husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. Really quite eye opening for wives that have "forgotten" about thier husbands.

And for all the thumbs down I have coming, who cares... what could be more important than your family?I have an extreamly happy marriage (and career) but my husband is always tied for first place, with my daughter. There is nothing more important to me than my marriage and my family. I tend to have a more old school approach to marriage. If you look at your grandparents, they stayed married forever, because those types of values that work.

And for women, love isn't about your looks. If that was the case, most of you guys out there would still be single. We, as women, don't see the flaws when we are in love.

Answer 6

both of you have let it go this long.  Wonder why?  no communication.  you don't know what she's thinking or feeling.  time for help.  get with a counselor and get the conversation started.  good luck

Answer 7

LOL I am married and have been 4 years and my husband smells sometimes but cant wait too have him! I want him all the time!  Try flowers, cook and help clean maybe she feels unattractive to you so tell her shes beautiful and smile at her!  

Answer 8

Do you have kids?  A lot of women get strung out from having to work, take care of the kids, keep the house clean, take care of you, etc, etc, etc.  Even if you don't have kids it can be a lot.  

Also, for women you have to do a little sumthin out of the bedroom to get a little sumthin in the bedroom.  One of the most romantic things you can do is ease her workload by cleaning the house, doing the laundry, sending the kids away to a babysitter or if you can't do that take the kids somewhere and give her 2-4 hrs alone in peace.  Any one of those things should thrill her beyond belief.  

Also, talk to her.  Tell her that you're feeling that she isn't attracted to you anymore.  Try to not make her feel that your accusing her or blaming her for anything.  Women love to talk about feelings, she should be receptive.  But don't ask her when she has 15 other things to do.  Try to find some quiet time.  

I've been married 23 years and we've had our dry spells and we have times where we can't keep our hands off each other.  Really tho, talk to her.  

Answer 9

No cause I'm not a L*****n and I'm not old enough to get married. Lol. Soz mate!

Sorry your being serious..erm well have you been paying attention to her and pampering her, making her feel special and loved? Hows your s*x life if I may ask =D

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Answer 10

Well, I can suggest to talk with her about how you feel. Sure she may be hurt that you feel this way but would she rather you feel this way without telling her or tell her and be honest with her? I think it is valid for you to confront her and let her know how you feel. Good luck!