Do you ever get this way?

Question

in a resturant, you always think that people are staring at you when you eat?

I do all the time, and when its like a buffet thing when you bring the food to the table i always feel like everyone is watching me.

How do I make this stop?

advice?

hellp :)

Answer 1

They are not looking at you as far as you know.

Answer 2

I sometimes feel that way. I just concentrate on the people who I am with and not everyone else.

Answer 3

i've noticed that people who go to restaurant, even when with other people, often dont talk to each other but rather stare at other clients. People like to watch, it makes them feel good about themselves for some reason.

my tip: do like i do, stare back and smile... they'll feel embarassed and look down at their plate! :D

Answer 4

Although I cannot diagnose the problem you are experiencing based on the limited information I have, what you are describing with being fearful of eating in front of others may be a Social Phobia. Among the anxiety disorders, Social Phobias are relatively common and range from general social phobia, which is anxiety and fear elicited in a variety of social situations, to specific social phobias, which typically are fear of public speaking, fear of eating in public, fear of writing in public, and fear of using public urinals. Typically, the underlying fear is of disapproval, and ultimately, of rejection. A person with fear of eating in public may be afraid of embarrassing himself. In your case, many of the situations you describe tend to be where the cost of embarrassment may be greater. You may examine this by asking yourself a series of "What if?" questions. For example, what might happen if I have lunch with a prospective client? The answer may vary depending on your particular fear: some people may be afraid of the other person recognizing their anxiety, other people may be afraid of making some embarrassing mistake such as dropping food on themselves, whereas others may be afraid of an aftereffect such as getting diarrhea from eating. Once you know what the particular fear is, you may then need to look realistically at the odds of that fear occurring. For instance, what are the odds that you would drop food on yourself and the other person will think "What an idiot!"? Since it is a common mistake, most people would empathize, and therefore, the odds of them thinking something bad about you are pretty small. Generally, the treatment for Social Phobia is threefold: 1) Since Social Phobia is an anxiety disorder, you need to learn skills to be able to reduce and manage anxiety better. These skills include relaxation, breathing techniques, and self-talk. 2) You also need to learn how to challenge the irrational thinking such as I described above. 3) You then need to develop a plan of exposing yourself to the situations in a controlled, manageable way while using your anxiety management skills and while challenging the irrational thinking. This process of systematic exposures involves starting with easier situations with which you can be successful and then gradually moving to more difficult situations as your confidence builds. One thing to remember as you consider this approach is that when we challenge ourselves to take risks, the potential benefits outweigh the momentary discomfort.

Best wishes to you!

Answer 5

you must be hot or ur a fat ***, which 1 do u think u are, then thats the reason why they are lookin at u