Do you ever just feel ugly now that you had a baby?

Question

I would not change having a baby...I love my little girl to bits..before I was pregnant I was rather skinny around 105 and had what I thought was a pretty nice body..my dad is skinny so I take after him. I had no stretch marks or cellulite. Well I gained 50 pounds with my daughter and the last 8 weeks of my pregnancy I got stretch marks on my hips and lower bell..I have really light ones on the tops of my thighs and light ones on my inner thigh..my baby is three months and I am 130 and the stretch marks are still super bright..I feel soo ugly now..I have a long torso so I always wore belly shirts and I feel like I will have to hide my belly forever..is there any hope do the stretch marks ever get any better..?? any experiences would be great.

Answer 1

oh I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my second child, and today I was trying to find swim suits, it was so horrible because I can't wear those stylish tankinis anymore :-(  So I had to settle with a one piece! its amazing the things we do for children!  

Answer 2

four years later, and my body still does not look the same. I think I need to get a tummy tuck after I have my second child. I know how you feel girl!

Answer 3

use bio oil for the strech marks after a few weeks they will faid and go u can get if from the supermarket about ten  dollars

Answer 4

dont feel ugly. h**l i got stretchmarks and havent had any kids to blame it on lol. stretchmarks will fade. if you want to get back in to shape try exercise and a diet. but dont feel ugly.  

Answer 5

my son is now 7 weeks old.  i actually lost weight throughout my pregnancy and 2 weeks after i had him i had lost 30 pounds. now i am at least 50 pounds lighter than i was before i got pregnant. but that doesnt change things. i feel very ugly a lot of the time.  the skin on my stomach and legs is so flabby right now its horrible. my self esteem is super low. i feel like my husband isnt attracted to me anymore even though he shows me and tells me that he is. its all in my head for the most part i guess. its something every mother goes through. i remember going through this when i had my daughter.  

Answer 6

No I don't. I have four sons and I had my youngest son

three months ago. I lost all the forty one pounds that I had gained from this pregnancy in two weeks. This had never happened to me before- losing all the weight so fast -

and I felt really good about how I looked and I still do but for some reason I don't think I look so good when I see pictures. Like when I look at the Fourth of July pictures we took at the beach and I see myself holding my baby I think I look fat but when I look in the mirror I like what I see. I think I look pretty good for a mother of four maybe it's because I am only twenty eight or it could be that I am only thirty pounds more than I was ten years ago when I was eighteen.

Answer 7

Oh god. I feel your pain.  I have 3 children under 5, and they kicked my butt! lol.  I wouldn't trade them for the world, but jeeeeez.  I feel like I'll never get back to pre-baby.  I lost down between #1 and #2, and again between #2 and #3, but now I feel like there's NO HOPE.  haha.  Good luck girl!!  Just know a lot of us mamas feel the exact same way!

Answer 8

I was overweight my whole life until several years ago when I got up off of my butt and shed the pounds. I had many stretch marks from rapid weight gain from my days of being overweight and I can tell you that I dropped the weight 4 years ago and the stretch marks have faded so that you really have to look to see them. They got a little red while I was pregnant but I am 4 months postpartum and they've gone back to barely noticeable. So it may take a long time, but they WILL fade. One of my friends had a baby 1 year ago and hers are just now starting to fade, but they are rapidly fading.

I know they make you feel unattractive, but try to remember what your body just did...you gave birth to a precious baby girl and your body was made to do that. Without those "battle scars" you would not have your little girl that you love to pieces.  

Answer 9

I feel the same way, I gave birth on july 9th and i gained 50 lbs also, I weighed 120 before. I didn't get stretch marks until the end also. Same places, hips, thighs, and inner thighs. Mine aren't light though I have a few really dark ones and I SWEAR some of them appeared after giving birth. For a little while, while I was healing I hated myself and felt nasty! But you know what! My skin still looks the same but I run. I live in an apartment complex that has tread mills and I take the baby down there and run for about an hour. I started feeling better about myself. I went to the dr and ask for a prescription for Retin A and to me it looks like they are getting lighter. When I get out of the shower I dry and then put it all over! Then I let my skin dry for a little before I put my clothes on. You will be fine, you just have to do an activity that makes yourself feel good! I hope you start to feel better about yourself, at least you know that there is at least one other person out there that feels the same way you do...me!

Answer 10

Sorry to say that the stretch marks never go away no matter what they are like tatoos I say wear them proudly I hated mine at first well I still do but Look what you got in return! A beautiful baby girl. And girl be happy at 130 lol. I am 170 and it aggravates the heck out of me! Your lucky and beautiful. It is people who are vain that are not beautiful to me. Welcome to the mommy club!