Do you ever wish so badly that one thing in your life never happened?

Question

How do you think you would be different if that one thing never happened?

When you realize how you would be different do you still wish it never happened?

I wasn't sure what section to put this in...I was thinking about my life

Answer 1

An ex-girlfriend and I stayed friends. Everyone around me told me to just let it go and stop talking to her, but I didn't as I hadn't had a reason to. I met another girl and she (Kat) and I started dating. Well Kat and I got along great and I really cared about her. We dated for about 4 months then I joined the military, while in basic I wasn't able to talk to her. I was discharged from the military for medical reasons and was sent home to Texas instead of my requested place of Arizona. The Ex I had been talking to told me that Kat had been cheating on me. I took her accusation as truth and confronted Kat with it and we ended up breaking up. I knew Kat cared about me and it hurt to think that someone that I knew cared about me could cheat on me.

This also hurt another relationship I was in while I was in trade school. I met another girl (amy) and we started dating. When we left trade school Amy moved back to Houston and I moved back to DFW. The distance made me think she was going to cheat on me the way Kat did, so I treated her like she was going to.

Now 4 years later, my Ex decides to call me to clear the air. She tells me that Kat had never cheated on me and that she only told me that cause Kat and I were getting to serious too quickly. She ruined two relationships I really cared about. Sure I was just as much at fault for believing her and well being stupid.

If I could take anything back, I would go back and not listen to what my Ex has to tell me. I would have trusted what my gut told me was true and the last 4 years of my life wouldn't have been spent worried that some chick was going to cheat on me.

There are other things in my life I'd love to change, but this is the major one that been on my mind lately as I just found out this informatin about a month ago.

Answer 2

Sometimes I wish that I were disciplined enough to finish college.  I majored in Partying 101.  I went two years.  I was able to land great-paying jobs, but I always felt I could be making "more" with a degree.  I'm making just as much as my peers, but I've had to fight for every single dime.  

At this point, I don't thnk that it would make much difference, but I'm going back for the sense of accomplishment.  

Answer 3

I think everyone has some event that they wish had never happened. So many things could be altered completely about who we are and what we have become.

But some of the good in our lives may never have happened either, without the terrible, or embarrassing, or intimidating things to send us in other directions. Many people find that they get pushed into directions they never would have imagined, without some traumatic thing closing off one avenue. For instance, I have a friend who is on her way to Beijing right now. She is a Paralympic archer; and although she might wish to be able-bodied, she is of the attitude that without her disability, she would never have gotten into archery; she would have never gone to Athens and to Beijing to be a world-class Paralympian. She found ways to live with, and even to make something wonderful, with her disability.

The point I would make is not to brood about what might have been. We must all play the cards as they're dealt, and make the best moves we can with what we are given. That is the wisest way to live, because we cannot change what was--only what is now, or yet to come.

Answer 4

I do wish that I had made different choices.  If I had, I wouldn't have married a cheating jack@$$ who abused me physically and mentally for five years.  I would have married my best friend, and had my fairy tale ever after.  I think every experience we go through makes us who we are and makes us stronger.  I know it did in my case.  

Answer 5

Yes, I have in the past wished such things. But then I realised that if they hadn't happened I wouldn't be the woman I am today - stronger than I would have realised if those horrible things hadn't happened.

I think that the way I have reacted to those things makes a big difference. I could play victim and wallow in self-pity, or I could think about what I want to do with the next 40 years or so and learn from my experiences.