Do you ever wish your wedding went completely different from how it turned out?

Question

I am getting married in 2 days and am already wishing I had either went for a much smaller wedding or just waited to save up our own money because having your in laws pay for it sucks! LOL. Especially for me and my fiance, he is the middle child of three and his parents have only been willing to pay for our wedding not his siblings. They were pretty mad when they found out. =]

So how would you have done it differently?

Answer 1

My mom,dad and brother were wonderful...they did everything they could to make that day great for me and my husband.  Whatever I wanted I got... and I really do mean that EVERYTHING!  However my bridesmaids were horrible.  You do truly find out who your friends are.  The table covers I ordered and payed over 3,000 dollars for were wrong.  My flowers were wrong and dripping wet because they had no cover at the bottom.  The tuxs were wrong and up until 20min before the wedding I was being bothered with "Well what im I suppose to wear...its wrong. If the groomsmen would have picked it up on the right day (and not the day of the wedding) it wouldnt have become my problem and I wouldnt have had to be stressed out.  Everything that could have gone wrong did....everything. Although in the end I have never seen such a beautiful wedding!!! I got hundreds of compliments saying they had never been at a wedding more beautiful.  (It means a lot when you plan for a year in a half).But I should have flown to Las Vegas....which is were we honeymooned anyways.  All I can say is in the end all the little things that you have been stressing about wont matter...so let them go.  If not everything something will go wrong.  Just be happy you cant re-do that day once its gone.

Congrats.

Answer 2

I wish I spent the money on professional invitations, and had black tie on it.  I had people at a formal wedding showing up jeans and ratty t-shirts.  I also wish I would have bought the dress I wanted.  I had my mom's friend make my dress and even though it was beautiful, it was not the strapless ball gown i always pictured myself in.

Answer 3

I'm getting married in 2 months.  Originally we were just going to elope at a Bed and Breakfast in New England and then come back and have a reception or party like thing for the family. Well, that didn't fly with his family. They all started talking about how they would have to take time off work and fly out there with us, which was NOT the plan.  My family wouldn't be able to go out there and I refused to have a ceremony with his family and not mine, so we started planning a normal wedding. Now the guest list is up to 200=\  I'm not a very..social person, so I'm terrified that it will be full of awkward moments.  2 months to go and I still haven't picked out decorations or a cake.  

I definitely think sometimes that I would have been happier with the original plan or something close to it.

Don't get me wrong, some of it has been kind of fun.  Picking out colors(even though that became stressful after the 5th color scheme change), getting a super pretty dress when I never get a chance to dress up otherwise, and seeing my guy in a tux:)  I'm super excited about that.  

The thing I keep telling myself is this:  There is a big chance that I may look back someday, if I had a small private weding, and wish I had a big traditional one.  Then there's nothing I can do about that, because it's pretty much a one time thing.  I think it would be tacky to renew our vows years from now and have a lavish ceremony.  But the opposite, can work.  Have your big thing now....you'll never have anything else like it.  Next year, or 5 years from now. Renew your vows with your close friends  

Nothing you can do about it now, though:) So look forward to the things you CAN be excited about!

Congrats! Good luck!

Answer 4

Honestly, I'm still in the middle of planning, and I wish we would've eloped.

Answer 5

at this point there's not much more you can do.  Relax and enjoy it.  Remember it doesn't matter how you get there as long as you marry the one you love.  The ultimate outcome will be the same whether you have a big or small wedding.

Congrats!!

Answer 6

Yes I wish the day had been different!

1. I would have wanted the flowers i actually orderd and paid for, and not the ones that showed up at the church.

2. I would have like it if my MOH didnt decide the wedding was too boring and go to the bar.

3. WOuld have been nice if i didnt forget/lose my shoes, and have to run to Walmart in my veil.

4. No drunk photographer would have been great.

5. And maybe no fights between parents would have made it more tolerable.

No wedding is perfect - and generally only the bride will remember the short-commings

BUT when i think about it all - i realize that it was just a day. Like anyother day but i got to wear a dress that costs way too much, and feel like a princess.

Go and have fun at your wedding! You will never forget the day

Answer 7

No, our wedding turned out very beautiful, accept for the fact that I was sick as a dog with a sinus infection/dizzy spells/bronchitis and stomach sick from the pennicilin. Other than that it went just beautifully.  

Answer 8

May be you can help your fiance's siblings by helping pay for their wedding! Also, at this time, another person has said it, but there is really nothing much you change right now. HOWEVER, be absolutely assured that weddings don't go EXACTLY as planed! But you should be happy and live the moment because (hopefully), it only comes once!

In my aunt's wedding, the cake didn't turn up, and 2 junior-bride's-maids were in a fight, so they didnt smile while walking. She was still happy though! Also, my cousin's mother prosponed her 2nd wedding, just so she can help pay for his wedding! You can bet that both the bride and groom were guilt trip, UNTIL their wadding day, and concentrated on happiness with their lives together forever! They also found a way to pay her back =D ENJOY your day and CONGRATULATIONS!

Answer 9

Well, my wedding day was one of the best days of my life. The only thing I wish could have happened was that his mom was still alive so she could have seen her oldest son get married (unfortunately, his mom died 8 weeks before we got married. She had been terminally ill so we knew it was only a matter of time). We had however, lit a candle in memory of her during the ceremony and also had a moment of silence. During our reception we had played the song Memories by Elvis Presley in her memory.

Best wishes for a long and happy life together.

Answer 10

I enjoyed my wedding but between you and I I would have preferred to be able to have my parents partically my husband mom (although I love her dearly) not as involved in our courtship as she was.

My marriage is more important and sacred and beautiful to me than any wedding I could have ever wanted.