Do you ever wonder if you left your spouse if it would solve alot of your problems especially if they tend to?

Question

spend more money than you and you have different goals in life. I would like to invest in the future my husband would rather live for today's satisfaction. Who is right the saver or the spender? The I have to have name brand or let's get the generic brand who's right who's wrong

Answer 1

its all preferance.. i like to save but like to spurge every now and again  

Answer 2

Make a budget together that allows for savings, 401K, insurance, etc. and an allowance for extra spending.

Answer 3

I think that's kind of a nice balance, but you need to come together on more things.  My parents were a lot like you two sound like, and it worked out well.  Sometimes Mom would be able to convince Dad to save up for something, and vice versa.  I think you'll be alright as long as you both give a little now and then.

Answer 4

don't leave for such a reason just make a solid compromise--limit the spender's money--an allowence so that money is there for a rainy day and we all have rainy days and some seem to get stroms.  

Answer 5

no right or wrong...just difference of opinions...u have to find a balance.

Answer 6

thats funny you ask that... i was talking to my boyfriend about if we left each other would it solve alot of our problems.. we didnt come up with answer so i guess it was a yes. But know one wants to leave the other one.. says they both love each other. i guess when the time is right there will be a break up.

just to answer your question there should be no whos right or whos wrong it should be talk out until you both argee on something.

Answer 7

Two kids and one on the way...Don't even think about leaving.  Your husband needs a quick lesson in responsibility for sure, but your children deserve a father.

Money is always an issue in a marriage. You may want to start doing the bills together and making investment choices as well.  If he doesn't want to play, demand it, quietly and firmly.

Set some objectives together and decide what you are going to do together to achieve them.

If he still wants to act like a child, talk to his mother or Father, or your Pastor, or who ever else has any leverage on his respect.

Where your kids are involved you need to engage him, no matter how arduous it is.

Answer 8

Neither one of you is right or wrong. Of course I've wondered that and the answer is that, while I may solve some problems, I'd create worse ones.So, you need to ask yourself, "Will things get better in one aspect, but worse in another?". In that case, you're only trading one set of problems for another. Try talking, at least a little bit, to see if there's not some sort of compromise that you two can agree to.  

Answer 9

If you leave your spouse over financial decisions and life goals, you could probably find someone with similar goals and financial views, but as soon as you did you would find out they had a completely different view from you on something else.

Every marriage takes a lot of work to learn to make decisions together.  Don't give up.  Figure out how to come together.

I would suggest taking a money management course with him if he will agree to do that.  My wife and I took a course by Dave Ramsey, a radio host that does a money show. It was a good course, really in-depth, and it was pretty cheap.  If you're interested I'll send you the info.