Do you feel guilty about asking your husband to provide for your child (which is not his biologically)

Question

If you had a child (children) before you were married and eventually do get married to a guy, would you feel guilty about him taking care of a child that is not his, financially. I.e. working to provide for your child because its deadbeat dad won't lift a finger?

Answer 1

I will not feel guilty since he knows my past life before taking a bold step to marry me we are one what ever is my problem is also his.  

Answer 2

My friend does...personally I think that this indicates a weak relationship to begin with.

Answer 3

I have a 3yr old from a previous relationship. I dont like my bf to do things for my son because my son is my son not his and I dont want him to feel obligated to take care of my son. If he does things for my son its without me knowning ex. He'll bring him a toy or something over.  

Answer 4

No, If your husband loves you enough to marry you than he accepts everything about you including your child. I was pregnant with my son when I met my husband. I didn't start dating him until my son was 2. He is now 8 years old and his biological father had nothing to do with him from the time he was 2. He was killed in an accident last year. My son was a little sad but he never really knew him as his dad. My husband has always been daddy to him.  

Answer 5

No, my husband knew I had a child when we started going out. We had our own child after a couple of years so when he proposed he was obviously happy to take on the care of my 1st child. Her father is a useless toad so my husband knew we didnt get any money from him, but the plus side is that we dont see him either.( she has had contact for a few years now though).

The way we see it, we are a family. If my husband was going to point out that 1 of my children was not his responsibility then I'd show him the door. But he's not that kind of person anyway, I wouldn't have married him if he was.

So don't feel guilty, your hubby knew the situation before he put the ring on your finger.  

Answer 6

As the mother i wouldn't feel guity, as the new father i would have the same contempt for the dead beat dad but your husband has chosen to become a part of your whole family, not just you but everything that comes with it and he would know that it's obviously not your fault and will be happy to contribute to the family that he is a part of, i can't see any reason why you should feel guilty.