Do you feel guilty when you have s*x dreams that don't involve your spouse?

Question

I don't have s*x dreams. I do have lots of make out dreams and I feel so guilty about them. I feel like I'm living a lie and being an rotten, unfaithful husband. Should I tell her?

Answer 1

yes and no I dont tell

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with it.  Though since they are not about her i would not tell her.

Mine usually involve my wife, and several other women at the same time.  Or my wife with another woman.  I tell her about them, it's safe though because they all have her in it.  She usually asks if i had a good time, i usually respond not as good of a time as she was having.

Answer 3

You cannot control what you dream about so dont feel guilty :)

Answer 4

No I don't feel guilty but I also don't have a spouse, lets say I did have one, then no I'd never feel guilty period.

Answer 5

It's not a DREAM if it's s*x with your spouse. Enjoy them. Nothing wrong with being a dream s***k.

Answer 6

I don't feel guilty at all. I don't choose to have those dreams, they just happen. I also don't tell my husband the details.  

Answer 7

I'm the same as y2-y1.  My husband and I are very open about these things, and we just laugh about it.

Answer 8

don't tell her it would just make her feel bad.and i don't feel guilty I once dreamed about billy idol .lol they are just dreams dude.

Answer 9

dreams are just dreams, your subconscious way of dealing with everyday stress, don't feel guilty or rotten.

Answer 10

I agree - dont' feel guilty. You can't control your dreams and they are JUST that - dreams. They mean nothing. Don't tell her unless you know she can handle it as a joke, otherwise you will unnecessarily hurt her feelings. Trust me - she has probably had a few dreams of her own.....its just normal.  

Answer 11

There's no point in telling her. It would just hurt her feelings. You can't control your dreams or your subconscious.  It's not that you are CHOOSING these dreams, they are just happening.  Maybe you have some sort of unresovled issues from the past that your subconscious is trying to work out.  I wouldn't worry about it at all.

Answer 12

I really don't feel guilty. I'm entitled to my imagination, which feeds my subconscious. I always have a lot going on in my brain anyway, and I try to appropriately compartmentalize my feelings so I have some sanity. He doesn't actually get less of me. Thoughts aren't always actions in waiting. Vivid dreams can trick the mind, though.  

Answer 13

  Women have s*x dreams also but not reported to their husbands. Women keep secrets. Life goes on. Can you ?

  By the way, would you not enjoy s*x dreams instead of dreaming of driving a loaded 18 wheeler interstate very often ?

Answer 14

why does your avatar look like one of those hidden witness screens. lol

Answer 15

  What's wrong with that,I'm a wife and I have had wet dreams,if you know what I mean.I bet your wife has dreams also.It is nothing you have control of unless you don,t sleep.You are not being unfaithful unless you do it while awake.Relax and sleep tight and enjoy,you are only human.

Answer 16

I don't feel guilty about it - usually I tell my husband and we have a laugh over it.  He has told me about some he had and I just joked and said great - let her wash your underwear!

I think it's perfectly normal.

Answer 17

No. I'm not consciously choosing to dream about someone else. It's not real. I can't control it.

No, I wouldn't purposely tell him something that may hurt his ego.