Do you feel its better to be friends before you have a relationship or to just dive into it?

Question

i think its crucial

Answer 1

becoming friends should be a first step, and also getting to know each other before you commit to a relationship

Answer 2

umm i'm not sure. i guess it depends on the people involved.

bcuz friends-they already know what your like, when your mad, happy, sad, etc. but a relationship could mess all that up and if u break up it could be awkward/

soo....its whatever

Answer 3

I wouldn't have the guts to ask a girl out either  way.  

Answer 4

it's complicated. on one end if you become too close of friends, you may not wanna ruin the friendship by becoming more than. If you just dive in you may end up getting hurt. I say be friends first but make sure you let your intentions known from the get-go. That way there are no surprises and you will be mentally prepared for what may lie ahead.

Answer 5

dive in!!

Answer 6

it is always a good thing, but i don't think it is a must.  

Answer 7

just dive into it. if you were friends before then you would feel it would be too risky to get into a relationship with them. after all lovers are supposed to come and go, but when your lover is a friend...thats when it gets complicated

Answer 8

be friends. =]

Answer 9

I think there's something to be said for being friends first, but sometimes the attraction's so strong you're just kidding yourselves if you do the "friends" thing

Answer 10

I like to be friends before anything serious.

Answer 11

Just dive into it! and let it be spontaneous... sometimes when you try to be friends with that someone you end up just being friends.... so give it a try and let the pieces fall together... in the relationship you will become best friends !

Answer 12

just dive into it

Answer 13

I completely agree with you. My most successful relationship is with someone whom I was friends with for years before we started dating. We've been together for almost nine years and we're very happy and very much in love.

Answer 14

just to play devil's advocate.

i find it much harder when you become friends first and then elevate it to a more intimate level. esp. if the requests seem 'too kinky' for them !

Answer 15

dive in you don't want to lose a close friend.

plus you can always find things out about each other threw the relationship.

Answer 16

you cant be lovers without being friends!

if i dont like the person enough to be their

friend...why would i give them my love?

does that make sence?