Do you feel like your friends have changed completely since they had a baby and did you?

Question

When my friends were pregnant, they were like-I'll still go out. I'll still get together. I'll have fun. I'll stay out late. Now that they have their babies, it is so different. I mean, they won't even stay out past 8 pm. They miss almost every event. What-babies can't go to the beach or a baseball game or the park?? It is ridiculous. I am so sick of it. Did this happen to you? Or do you still sort of live your life? OBVIOUSLY the baby is number one and their needs come first but does that mean sacrificing all of your fun and freedom? Oh, and are husbands incapable of taking care of their own babies? It is like they are morons and can't change diapers and only the mom can!

FYI-We are in our late 20's.

I am pregnant and praying I will still go outdoors when my baby is 6 months old!!! Not keep myself confined in my house like a leper.

Answer 1

I've seen this happen to so many people I know and it's really ridiculous.  I know this is a pretty recent trend -- our parents certainly didn't stop having adult lives because they had kids.  

It's like these women completely give up their identity and now all they can do is think about, talk about, and look at their baby.  Ugh.  Being a mother is important, but your baby doesn't need you *looking* at it and *talking about it* 24 hours a day.  That's actually counter-productive, when your goal is to raise a confident self-sufficient person.  

I think a lot of women just want to feel like they are SO important to their child that they won't be able to survive 4 hours without them.  They sometimes go so far as to actually shut the dads out, acting like how the dad does things (like puts on diapers or feeds the child) isn't the *right* way to do it.  Yikes.  

Then these women turn pretty nasty and clingy when their children get older and want to go away to college and get jobs, etc.  Not pretty.

Don't give in!!  Remember who you are, and the best way you can inspire your children to be healthy adults is to be a great adult!

Answer 2

well its not hard i have 1 my self all they really have 2 do is b with the baby almost every day of the week and weekend and then ask there father if they can witch the baby it not the hard 2 ask some 1... well as 4 me i go 2 skool and work and do wat i have 2 do 4 my son. well im 15 i;ll b 16 next month.... ummm and all i have 2 say is b there 4 ur friend make sure the baby have every thing they need help her.... so plz dont let the baby get between yall friend ship bcuz i knoe im not