Do you find it amusing, troubling, or sad that so many people can be so unrealistic?

Question

So many people ask questions based on expectations they have of others.

It’s as if they believe everyone else in the world was raised with the same values; has the same morality and personal rules that they do; like each and every other person is as "perfect," in the same ways, as they believe they, themselves, are. They seem to believe (not hope) that other people don’t lie, or cheat, or steal, or even make mistakes.

So many are so incredulous when someone "cheats"; or fails to fulfill an "obligation" (real or assumed); or reneges on a vow; that the other person isn't who/ what they thought hey were; or that think they should be able to do something and limit another person from doing the same.

These people can look in a mirror and not be honest with themselves; they justify and rationalize their own foibles and failings; they blame others for many of their problems, refusing to take responsibility for their lives, the choices they make and the subsequent consequences. This is evidenced by the number of "What 'SHOULD' I do" questions, as if taking the moral advice of a stranger alleviates them of any accountability for their personal decisions.

I find it amazing that some people never realize that life is hard; it isn’t fair; it can hurt; that people can be jerks (along with so many other wonderfully descriptive adjectives); that they aren’t really all that “special” in the eyes of everyone; and that they always believe they deserve better treatment than they get.

Answer 1

HAHAHA, i find it amusing..indefinately but hatred for those ignorant people would make me lash out so i'd find i lash out on myself when i displace self ignorance.

that's my anwser, might not be good but i find it amusing and your question i found amusement in reading so i thank you.

Answer 2

blah blah blah. life is hard.

don't lie and cheat and treat your spouse in any way that you don't want to be treated. it has more to do with commonsense than with how you are raised.

you cheat, you get dumped. are you really so shocked?

who cares that some people don't have commonsense? dude, it is actually spelled like that. if they don't have it, they deserve whatever horrible treatment they have coming to them to make them learn. hey, the stove is hot. don't sit on it in a thong.

Answer 3

Wise words. Took me a long time to figure out that it is no one elses job but my own to make me happy. Who am i to expect someone else to pander to my needs?  

Answer 4

i think you had some good points

Answer 5

I think that you might be reading many of the questions too literally.  More often than not, people already know the answer to the question they're asking... particularly in the M&D forum.  They are seeking validation of what they're already aware of and perhaps a little support.  As for your last paragraph, I believe that what you are describing is human nature.  We all want to hold out faith and hope that our lives will go well.  When they don't, it's naturally disappointing.  To not have faith/hope is to become cynical.  

Answer 6

Rant much?