Do you find it difficult to make friends as you get older?

Question

I'm starting to think that now. There's many people I have met since my move but for some reason I just cant get to consider them as my friends. I think that cos maybe when I was young I was still trying to find myself and just went with the flow. But now that I know who I am and am content with my friends now.

Whats your opinion?

Answer 1

I think it's just that you are care full who you really trust as a friends  -  we all have acquittance's and colleague's, but not all of them id really a friend  -  and the ones we do have is special, the only way to have a friend is to be a friend

Answer 2

yes

Answer 3

As you get old you tend to get more friends cause you are mature enough and understand life much better

Answer 4

I have only a couple of really good friends.  I have been 'stabbed in the back' and 'used' too many times, so I stick to the loyal one's.  Having said that,  I am a very friendly, trusting, outgoing person, which tends to lead me down the wrong path!!!

Answer 5

not at all, i find it difficult pushing people away from me :)

Answer 6

I have many acquaintances  but I have very few friends. The friends that i have made and kept have been for life. My best friend has been around since kindergarten. I have a few school friends and have made a few friends because of my kids.

I think that the older we get the more selective we are.  I prefer a small circle of really good friends.

Answer 7

Ag I do not know, I have made such good friends the last couple of years, like Road runner say I met them through my children, some of them through my hobbies, a lot through my husbands Triathlons and Ironman training, Nay you are from PE too hey? well PE is the friendly city, we really have nice friendly people here, I have heard it is very difficult to make friends in Cape Town, very clicky.

Answer 8

I have always been a loner, never really needing friends. The few female friends I had when I was younger were eaten up with jealousy and despised me secretly anyway. The male friends wanted ‘more from me’. I have kept three male friends (One has passed away, (too young..cancer) but I stood by him till the very bitter heart breaking end) I have three female friends and one I especially love although she is somewhat older than I am. There is nothing that can make my hair literally stand on edge than a person claiming, after meeting me a few times, that I am their best friend. Now that I am older I choose my friends carefully. And I have learned to tell people politely but openly that I do not wish to have any contact with them. I do not mind if the problems of my friends become mine. That is what friends are for. I am prepared to break my back for them when they need me.

I found it easier to choose my friends wisely, as I got older but it has not become more difficult.

Answer 9

Its became easier for me to make friends as i got older , cos i could trace better and use bigger scissors to cut up the cardboard....

Answer 10

when your older you dont need to find acceptance...as you stated you know who you are and what defines you.  

Me personally, i find that as i got older the more "friends" i have the more problems i had, because they're problems became my problems.  by my own definition a friend is someone you can count on, i invite over to the house for a bbq, link up with on the weekend, let borrow the corless drill and know your going to get it back. someone you can get drunk around and be alright.

collegues are people you can talk to but you wouldn't do anything out of the ordinary. maybe get a drink, but you wouldn't get drunk.

so i keep a big network of collegues and a small amount of friends.

easier to deal with people at a distance.

Answer 11

I think that you make real friends when you are older. Feelings are more real.

Answer 12

Yeah it is...the older i get the less i trust people....I guess when u get older u just see more into peoples true colors : )

Answer 13

I agree with Cat, I am personally far too selective when picking out friends, generally most people like me (at least I think they do) but I'm not as trusting or open as most, so I usually maintain a small circle of very close friends.

As RR stated, having children opens many doors to meeting new and interesting people, I have personally met many through my son over the last few years.

Answer 14

The easiest way to make friends when you are older is by having children.

Becoming a parent is a life changing experience and when you go out with your baby everyone makes friends with you, especially people who are already parents as they can relate.