Do you find people can be unaccomodating to new moms?

Question

okay I know the world doesnt revolve around me and my newborn 5 week old baby but 2day I went somewhere with my mom to a cafe at barnes and noble and we bought drinks and I had my baby in a stroller and no1 offered us a seat! some ppl had big tables by themselves with all these books and magazines and didnt even offer it to us! we were lucky to have finally found a table for two but I do find this incredibly rude! I am glad I have a car so I dont have 2 expereince riding the bus this way! have you ever felt this or experienced this/ and people werent totally oblivious, they saw us and looked and didnt. and this might sound extremely paranoid, but I swear to god a woman in middle age saw and was smirking at me! I know she was I'm not making it up. Can you believe that? also the security guard that works there who greets us didnt een bother to open the door for me my mom had to instead when shes a customer and this other customer also helped who was an older woman as well! I just find that irritating too. I mean he was young and WORKED there! and acknowledged our presence so was well aware. sorry if this is ranting but my question is do/did you ever feel this way when you had your newborn? I'm not saying every situation but this one for instance was a good example of how inconsiderate ppl can be to new moms and their new babies! And I still cant get over that womans smirk. If I was a rude person and not a good example for my newborn, I wouldve told her off!

Answer 1

Some people are just rude....you can't always rely on the kindness of

strangers...just sit down...they don't like it, then they can sit with the

rest of their s****. inconsiderate pals lol !

Answer 2

most of the time ppl are very friendly and helpful, but I know what you mean, I was at the DMV yesterday and had my daughter in her stroller. a bunch of ppl were comin in the door and then i was trying to leave. they all piled in while someone held the door, then they just let it shut AND stood in front of it seeing I was trying to go. My retribution was, as no one was nice enough to even try to help with the door, (or just move out of the way) when I turned her stroller around so I could back up and open the door with my body and pull her through, I wasnt careful about it, and bumped one of the ppl standing there with the wheel. he looked at me like I was rude, and I just stared at him, like thanks for the help bozo!

Answer 3

i know! i took my baby, also 5 wks old, to the mall and he started crying and was hungry so i was holding him in one hand and pushing the stroller with the other going around looking for a place to sit down so i could feed my crying baby! there were ppl sitting in the middle of benches and taking up whole table for just theirself so finally i found an obscure chair in borders in the middle of a ton of ppl...talk about all the kind souls out there to help a new mom with a crying baby!!!

Answer 4

People can be hella rude.  They will run into you or your stroller cut you off.  People are so inconsiderate it started for me when I was pregnant.  Just be more voiceterouis  

Answer 5

people are just rude.

my biggest pet peeve is people not holding doors. ive expierenced a few times struggling to open a door to somewhere and struggling with the stroller at the same time, and people just look at you and go to the next door to let themselves in. so annoying.

or being in a crowded area, and people walk right in front of you and the stroller. its like do you really want me to run you over with this thing??

Answer 6

it's not peoples jobs to accommodate you as a new mother, most new mothers have all dealt with the same issues, when i was 2 weeks from popping at a football game, do you think anyone was willing to let me cut in line, just cuz i had two kids on my bladder, i think not. you need to get over THE WORLD IS NICE cuz you got another thing coming!

   special treatment comes from family, not from strangers. you need to get out of fantasy land and start looking at reality, it's a fend for yourself kind of place

Answer 7

You are so right!  I am 37 weeks pregnant and it's hard for me to walk....I'm so large and uncomfortable and everything aches.  People are so inconsiderate.  Nobody offers me a seat, or holds doors, etc.  My friend is also 37 weeks along and works at a gas station.  The fountain drink station broke and there were 3 men standing around "fixing" it, and not a single one would help her carry the heavy bucket or help her mop up the mess.  I couldn't believe it.  Before I got pregnant, I did everything I could to help pregnant women/new moms.  I have given up my seat a few times when I saw a new mom holding her baby/carrier.  I figured it was probably heavy and she needed to sit down.  I always held doors for pregnant women.  I thought it was just common courtesy, but apparently it's not so common.

*edit*  To the people who gave me thumbs down.....I believe in karma.  No, you might not expect "preferential" treatment due to pregnancy, but you might need it if you break your leg or become vision impaired.  It's not a matter of catering to new moms/pregnant women....it's a matter of using courtesy and treating the others the same way you would want to be treated in the same position.  Whatever happened to the golden rule?

Answer 8

Yes I have found this to be extremely true. People are just really self-involved and don't pay attention at all to their surroundings. I remember going shopping with my newborn and people would look at us, skip in front of us to go through the door and I thought oh, awesome, they're going to hold the door. Nope! Just didn't want to wait apparently so they slip ahead then let the door close on us. I always hold the door for pregnant women and women or men with children.

There are still some good people out there though so don't let it discourage you from being able to get out with your daughter. It never ceases to amaze me though how ignorant people can be about the world around them.  

Answer 9

Yes when I was pregnant this lady ran a stop sign at jewel and almost hit me! This other time after my little girl was here, I went grocery shopping with her. I had her in a baby carrier as I was shopping alone and I don't feel safe putting the car seat on top of the cart. Anyhow like everyone was completely rude! I would be trying to reach something carefully and this was 2 weeks after giving birth, and ppl would be almost bumping into me and expecting me to get out of the way! I did however drop a few items and this nice women came up behind me and picked them up for me =) But for the most part ppl are just selfish and rude when they are in a hurry.

Answer 10

Yes, I agree. When I was preggies, people would just bump into me or bump me in the shopping centre. I really got angry. And people are inconsiderate with new moms and their babies. It is asif they dont know what it is like to be a mom. It is hard work, we dont need rude and inconsiderate people in our lives as well.