Do you find that SAHM's always complain about being at home?

Question

It seems as though all of the SAHM's that I know always complain about not having adult interaction, not having enough money, always being tired etc. Wasn't it their choice to be at home?

Answer 1

I'm a stay-at-home mom and although I do sometimes "complain" about missing out on adult interaction, I rarely complain about not having money or being tired or anything like that.  Even if I did, don't I have a right to feel frustrated or upset when things get difficult?  Don't I have the right to vent a little?  Everyone complains at some point in their lives.  I could easily ask, "Do you find that working mothers always complain about having to be at work?  Wasn't it their choice to work?"  Everyone I've ever met complains about their job, finances, friends, family situations, etc.  You know what I mean?  Why single out only stay-at-home mom's when EVERYONE complains?

I consider myself very blessed to have the opportunity to stay home with my children.  Everyday isn't sunshine and rainbows though.  Stay-at-home moms have bad days just like everyone else in the world.

Answer 2

I only know one stay at home mom who does this, but it is not her choice to stay home. (She wants to work, her hubby won't let her while he works two jobs.) So, I understand her complaints. I am a stay at home mom, and I don't complain. Of course there are bad days, but everyone has those.

Answer 3

Some people complain no matter what they're doing.  I expect that if these same moms were working they would complain about how much they hate their jobs and wish they could stay home.  Some people just like to complain.

Answer 4

The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.

...No matter which side you are on

Answer 5

walk a mile in our shoes then you will understand

it is very lonely to be stuck at home all day with whining screaming fighting kids.

while our husbands go off to work with other adults and has many interactions with them.

its very depressing specially for families with only one car

yes i chose to  stay home and raise MY SON  but that  didnt mean i had to give up my life and the  ability to have friends of my own aside for the parents of his friends who never talk to me anyway.

Answer 6

Not really. Some choose to do it others have no choice because they can't afford daycare. I fall into both categories. I enjoy staying home most of the time and we couldn't afford day care even if I did work. SAHM work just as hard if not harder then people that go to work all day.  The house doesn't clean itself and the kids don't care for themselves. If I want adult interaction I have the internet and can chat when the kids are sleeping. Money is tight for most people right now with gas prices being the way they are. What really galls most SAHM is when people try to tell us we don't work hard and that doing what we do is easy. It's not easy and it's not always fun, but I do think it is the most regarding job I will ever have.

Answer 7

I used to be a stay at home mom now i work and I wish i could stay at home with my baby. Either way yes it sucks being stuck at home and sometimes it's good to have a change, or a little diversity.

Answer 8

I've also found that everyone else complains about their job, as well. Nothing's perfect and everyone likes to gripe. Why pick on any one particular group of people.

Answer 9

I am no longer a SAHM, but when I was I did complain sometimes and had reasons to. Just like you tire of your co-workers, commute, or anything else you complain about. Sometimes circumstances in life are out of our hands. Yes the easy answer is go out and get a job if you hate it so bad staying at home but the answer is that it is  not that simple, sometimes look at each situation differently. My husband was in the army, so between his low pay, hours and deployments it was not feasible for me to work, all of the money I made would have gone to the babysitter.

Answer 10

Totally our choice.....but that doesn't mean there aren't hard days.  Walk a day in my shoes with me:

Get up at 6 am, fed the baby, get her back to sleep.  7:30 am, my two year old wakes.  Get him up, change him, fix him breakfast, try to eat something myself.  8 am, baby wakes again to eat.  Fed her, entertain my son, clean him up from breakfast, dress him and myself.  Baby goes back to sleep for a while.  Run errands if needed.  11 am baby wakes again to eat and has a poopy diaper that consists of green runny goo coming out the top of her diaper.  Bathe baby and feed her.  Time to make lunch for me and my son.  1 pm, my son goes down for a nap and my daughter needs to eat again (I breast feed by the way).  3 pm, son wakes from nap, time for snack and play time.  Play for a couple hours with both son and daughter.  Feed daughter again, she eats every two hours.  Make supper at 5 pm.  Husband gets home around 6 pm.  Tend to my husband after a hard day at work.  Feed the baby and the feed the family supper.  Husband takes over our two year old and lets me rest for an hour or so.  Two year old gets ready for bed at 8:30 pm.  Time for the baby to eat again.  Kiss my son goodnight and Daddy puts him to bed.  Spend some time together with my husband before the baby needs to eat again.  Last feeding for the baby is around 10:30 or 11 pm, we get her to sleep.  We talk for a couple minutes and then go to sleep.  Wake up the next day and start all over again.

WOW.  Do I complain sometimes?  Yeah I do.  But I really love my choice to be a stay at home mom and I wouldn't have it any other way.  You could say the same for working moms, though that is also an unfair blanket statement.

Answer 11

Being a SAHM - I have nothing to complain about.

I think that if this is a choice you make - you should be financially ready, organized and make time for adult interaction and yourself. If your gonna complain - you better do something to change the situation.

Answer 12

You could say the same thing about working moms - yes I work, but I still complain about not having enough time with my son... not having enough money... always being tired.

Really, if you think about it, MOST SAHM's are working.  It's hard raising kids.  They probably do the same amount of work (if not more) I do in a day and I'm a working mom.

Just because some SAHM's sit there and eat bon bons and watch soaps all day while baby naps, doesn't mean they all do.  Give them a little credit.

Answer 13

I'm a SAHM, I don't complain about it.

There are stay at home moms who complain just as there are working moms who complain.

Answer 14

Its not easy being cut off from adult interaction. Its what we think is best for our kids, but that doesn't make me feel any better on days I'm exhausted and just wanting adult conversation. As for money, noone ever thinks they have enough. I'd love to go splurge, but being debt free means more to me than a shopping spree.

Answer 15

Yeah, I would love to be a stay at home mom! You wouldn't hear me complaining!!

Answer 16

I'm a Sahm and my husband is deployed to Iraq for a total of 12 months. I don't complain b/c I LOVE staying home and wouldnt change it for the world. It is my choice to stay home and I can't complain. Yes the lack of adult convo sucks but I also dont have a husband to talk to daily, if I had him home everyday it would be peachy. People always complain about something, if it wasnt this it would be something else. If they complain about not having enough money then the should work, thats just stupid.

Answer 17

It is our choice, but it doesn't make the realities of it go away, and it doesn't discount our feelings towards things that naturally occur when you do decide to stay at home.

EDIT:  I think it is unrealistic to claim that mothers who complain about staying at home were not "cut out for motherhood."  I also think it is a really simplistic view.  Mothers are human beings, and human beings come with all sorts of emotions.  Sometimes those emotions are overwhelming and you can't help but vent a bit.  There is NOTHING wrong with venting a bit, it is way better then holding it in.  

I love my kids, I love staying home with them and I complain every once in awhile about not having consistent adult interaction, about having to deal with fussy, crabby, sassy kids, and at the end of the night I look at them sleeping and i count my lucky stars that i am in a position to be with them and watch them grow, that I have a husband who agrees that sacrificing for the opportunity to raise our children is worth it.

Answer 18

I HATE that c**p! Why would ANY mom not be happy being home with their family!!! Obviously those women were'nt cut out for motherhood. Personally They just sound like spoiled brats throwing a fit because they don't get their way! Kids grow up soooo fast! Why miss out on that to "have a nite out"(all the freaking time), or all the other ridiculous excuses.

Lol...oh, and we CHOOSE to have one car, my husband is at work 10-14 hours a day with that car! I love it, every second of it.

Edit* While I agree with a once in a while complaint, I'm referring to women that do it ALL the time, day in and day out fuss and gripe about it. For ones that have a bad day, and just need a nice candle lit bubble bath thats one thing. For someone going out to the club every week thats ridiculous.