I've been best friends for 15 years with my girlfriend Meri, she retired and I have 5 years to go yet. She was always a strong, outspoken woman...now she's a mush. I swear I don't even KNOW this person anymore. She lets her adult daughter use and abuse her constantly...it's sickening to sit back and watch. I've gently mentioned this to her and she's almost delusional about it, like it's OK for her daughter to dump her kids on her, threaten and verbally and emotionally abuse her. My friend hates to babysit, she retired to pursue a singing career, and thanks to her selfish daughter, has no time to do this now.
What is wrong with her? Why won't she tell her daughter off? It's like she's scared to death of her, yet she walks on water...I don't understand this at all.
But then I never allowed either one of my children to disrespect me like she has allowed hers to.
I'm taking my friend to a therapist (she thinks it's for me...it's not,) and the therapist is working on her self esteem issues and trying to show her that allowing herself to be used and abused isn't normal. I'm very frustrated and ready to just ditch this friendship for good. I've never seen anyone do a 180 like this in my life.
(I don't speak to her daughter, she hates me for trying to ruin her 'free daycare' ride, and for getting her mother to speak up for herself.)
since she's retired 10 months ago, her blood pressure is sky high and she's had to go on medication for it, her smoking had tripled, she's gained 30 lbs and drinks daily. (I'd drink if I had to watch those brats too....so I don't blame her there.)
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