Do you find this offensive(sorry kinda long)?

Question

I can't help but feel a little offended when I'm reading or hearing something where people are talking about weight and body issues. Namely the ones where someone is going on about haw horrible it these days that everyone wants to be "skinny" and will do just about anything to get there.

Now, of course i do not condone any unhealthy diet or exercise habits, and have every sympathy for anyone who has ever been through that. But these people go around with something I'm assuming is a "tough love" attitude saying things like: "natural is beautiful", "embrace the body God gave you" and such. Which is fine, the part that really ticks me off is after they have given all of this wise advice, they then have the nerve to declare that "thin people are shapeless and ugly anyway, why would you want to look like that?"

Ok. I see what the point of saying something like that is, but what about the people who are naturally thin? Who do not make an effort of any kind and are simply "embracing their god given shapes"? Why are we not as beautiful an anyone else? I try not to be offended over simple things, but sometimes the double standards just really get under my skin. How much c**p would i get if i went somewhere and started saying how disgusting and ugly overweight people are?

Guess my question is does anyone else feel the same way, or am i just being over sensitive?

Answer 1

I'm a people watcher and I find it fascinating do observe people of all circumstances.  I have found beauty in all shapes, sizes, and colors of people.  I've also observed some that are downright repulsive and it had nothing to do with their size.  It had to do with demeanor, attitude, and disposition.

The best advice I can offer is to love yourself for who you are.

Answer 2

First of all, i don't think they are addressing people who are naturally thin. They 're talking about those that are trying to be  and become anorexic in the process. They're trying to tell young girls they don't have to be skinny like the models on t.v/ actresses to be pretty.

All they saying is to love yourself the way you are.

For the info if you are naturally thin than you shouldn't let that bother you.

Answer 3

I'm not offended by it (because I don't let myself get offended by much!), but, yes, I have noticed what you mean from some people. They are no better than those who make fun of overweight people. And they don't seem to realize that by saying such things, they are clearly showing that they are not nearly as happy with themselves as they pretend to be.

Answer 4

I agree!  My sister is naturally thin, and a lot of people will call her frail or assume she's so small because she doesn't eat or something, when the girl eats like a horse!  She gets offended by people talking about "real women's" bodies, like she's not a real woman.  I hadn't thought about it until she was in her late teens and started talking about it to me.  The problem is that most people who aren't naturally thin assume that anyone who is has starved themselves.  If you're all about positive body image, then, yes, that should include all bodies!

Answer 5

People who generalize like that are just being petty, immature, or just doing a little sour grape dance.  Make sure you don't chime in with the negative comments and people should get the hint. You should try and get past this the best you can because you will hear weight comments the rest of your life.  We can thank society for that when the focus should be on health, not size.  Chin up, sista!

Answer 6

You're very right. :)

Answer 7

Well, your name is bones so I guess it doesn't bother you too much.  Sounds like you are just a rebel without a cause right now and I would not let being thin bother me.  I hear way more negative comments about the overweight then I have ever heard about thin.  The world just needs more understanding and ignore the negative comments.  Yes, it sounds like you are being over-sensitive to it.

Answer 8

I wouldn't be too sensitive. In today's society you always have to look a certain way- I say as long as you like who you are and what you look like then it doesn't matter what anyone says.

Answer 9

I feel the exact same way. People at my school do things like that, sometimes they play and say things like, "Girl, you so skinny, you need to eat some McDonald's or something". Sometimes they can be all "don't worry about what people think" and they go around and tell themselves that they need to lose weight, stop eating, etc. I don't hate people that hate their bodies, I just hate it when they beat themselves up like that. I admit I used to be the same way, but I kinda grew out of it because I really dropped the feeling of "people are staring at me because I'm fat, ugly, etc.