Do you find this pathetic in a parent?? What do you think should of been done?

Question

My best friends, friend cuts herself and brags about it, she tells everyone apparently and it all started over a boy (her cutting) and she still does it ad f she'd be talking to my friend on AIM she would say brb and it her away message on and it will say "cutting.." and well her father found out shestarted cutting and made her stay outside in the pouring rain all day. I thinkthats really being a bad parent, he should of got her help. But it doesn't seem like an emotional thing just because you don't cut yourself and then brag about it. But this is still a mental problem and she needs help, but what do you think her dad should of done? And do you this is just for attention or we really needs help? Cause most cutters do this because of a serious issue not because a guy stopped hanging out with a guy case a girl became obsessed over him.

Answer 1

Well if she is cutting, and bragging about it like saying "Oooh look at me I cut myself, I'm emo!" Or something, she is doing that to get attention. But sometimes cutting can be because she is seriously damaged. Sometimes they don't do it on purpose. Like, when I used to cut myself, I did it because I was so numb I had to feel pain. I only told a couple of people. My best friend, and the counselor. I knew it was wrong and I knew I needed help. And about the father thing. That is VERY wrong. He needs to realize that cutting should not resolve in punishment, but emegency help, and it could be a serious thing. When my parents found out, they took me to Meadows to get help. Not to punish me.

Answer 2

Making your child stand out in the pouring rain is not an appropriate punishment, besides this does not sound like a situation that warrants a punishment.  I would not worry about a "cutter" who brags about it.  A true cutter is typically VERY secretive about it and would certainly not brag.  Cutting seems to be the new thing for teen girls to add a little more drama to their worlds and get some attention.  If I were her father I'd just wait a few years for her to grow-up.

Answer 3

It sounds like she wants attention. She definitely needs help. It sounds like her parents are really messed up ~ maybe that's why she is so messed up herself!

Answer 4

Yes, her dad did the wrong thing. Alot of people cut because they want to feel something, they think pain is better than being numb. But it sounds like this "friend of a friend" is using it for attention also. Either way is not good. This dad needs to get the "friend" to a therapist not into the rain. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

she wants attention. does she have a lot of siblings? cuz sometimes thats the problem if they feel their siblings get more attention than they do. also, her dad should have gotten her help not put her outside all day like a dog.

Answer 6

The reasons behind why your friend cuts and *brags* may not be completely honest - and cutters do brag sometimes.   Contact a counselor at "To Write Love on Her Arms" to discuss this problem and to help you (and possibly your friend) understand and deal with this situation.    Speculating will not go far or help your friend.   TWRLOHA counseling is free.

Answer 7

i would tell your parents and have them call social services.

if you are truly worried about her-get her the help she needs.

She needs attention and help