Do you find this rude or am I just over reacting?

Question

A close friend of mine came to visit. We hadn't gotten together in a long time. About a 40 minutes before she left, her phone rang and she answered it. Not a big thing, but when I am visiting with someone I either ignore my phone, or will tell the caller I will return their call later. She stayed on the phone until her husband picked her up and left while still on the phone, throwing a brief goodbye over her shoulder to me. I thought this was very rude. I ignored it, but it is bothering me and in the past when I have mentioned anything that I feel needs mentioning, she has told me that I create drama. How would you handle this?

Answer 1

If your really good friends then you should tell her. If you keep it bottled up, little things will slowly bottle up and you'll explode on her. If she says you creating drama I'd say if you weren't so rude and thought about someone besides yourself, I wouldn't of had to mention anything.

Answer 2

I think that is very rude. I would be upset as well [but] if she is the type of person that will look at you like your dumb because you said something bothered you, I prolly wouldn't mention it because to [her] she is right and you are wrong and you prolly won't be able to get through to her anyway. Usually I say speak what is on your mind but if the person your saying it to doesn't care then don't waste your time.

Answer 3

With the invention of cell phone came the invention of a new kind of rudeness. I think your friends was rude the minute she answered the phone. It is rude to answer the phone when you are at someone's house, in the car with someone else, just visiting with someone and or especially when you are out to dinner with someone. Nothing irritates me more than that. The world was a better place with out cell phones. I mean seriously who really needs to be reachable 24/7? If you absolutely MUST answer the phone when you are with someone else then the conversation should be brief.  

Answer 4

I miss the good old days before cell phones were created. I hate cell phones and I hate call waiting. Nothing offends me more when I am in the middle of a conversation with someone and they click over to their call waiting and never come back or hang up with me to talk to the other person (they can do it once in a while but when it is every time it starts to hurt my feelings). As far as cell phones I am so tired of visiting with people when all they do is talk on their phones or text the entire time. What happened to the days when we could leave our house without a phone, come home and listen to the answering machine? I have a cell phone but I hardly use it and it is mostly for safety. You are NOT over reacting and you NEED to put your friend in her place. If she thinks of you as a friend she will apologize, if not then let her go because you don't need people like that in your life. Oh and as far as "you creating drama".......what is this high school? For heavens sake, this woman needs to grow up!

Enough said!

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Answer 5

Life is to short to get angry over silly stuff. But this was very rude of her. I would say to my friend excuse me but I'm spending time with you so I would like to have your full attention. Your having a conversation with someone else and you expect me to look at you the whole time? Next time do it to her to let her know how it feels. Some people are rude and will never change. Next time address her right then and there and if you "create drama" oh well!