Do you find yourself becoming bitter?

Question

In my experience, it seems a lot of people that are TTC are downright bitter over not having a child.

Is this common?

Answer 1

I think so because so many couples blame themselves for not being able to get pregnant, and (especially on yahoo answers) there are many teens who don't want to get pregnant do and they don't want to be.  It is hard knowing thay others can be and it is easier from them compared to others.  I haven't been ttc for very long, but just bummed that it hasn't happened yet.

Answer 2

When you go through month after month of hoping for the best and getting nothing, it can take a toll on your mental health. And if you're going through fertility treatments, it gets worse, because you are spending time and money and subjecting yourself to all sorts of invasive procedures, and to come away empty-handed after all that fuss is very depressing. I try not to be bitter, and I am happy for those around me who get pregnant, but I am sad for myself.

Answer 3

yes this is common u see ppl with 5or6 kids that cant take care of them and u wonder why would they be so fortunate to have kid after kid and yet im married establish and cant even have 1 it makes me so bitter sometimes i just dont understand.

Answer 4

To be brutally honest I am very envious when my friends become pregnant but not bitter.  Yes I want a child or children more than anything.  Yet even though I may be upset that it is taking me so long to conceive, I do not feel bad that others can.  I just feel sad that it's not me yet.

Answer 5

well i feel frustrated because my husband and i have been together since middle school and grew up together we are so happy together so as we got older. my husband and i both have a strong love for kids and what better then to start a family of your own. we have the dog the house the money but not the kids. we have been trying for about 4 1/2 years to start our family non the less our parents want grand kids so its alot of pressure. as well as depression because all of our friends we grew up with have children except for us we seek medical attn and specialist.  with no success so i can say it has kinda changed me as a person because of the emotional part of not being able to fulfill my dreams of becoming a mother and i have felt to depressed at times me and my husband would argue and we be so upset i felt less of a woman because i was having such a hard time of bearing having a child. but i know my time will come with patients its just really hard. but if you are in the situation is pretty much the only way you can understand someones pain.

good luck to all ttc...

Answer 6

i'm very much so!!! i'm sooo bitter that i come home from work and cry most of the time!! it's soooo frustrating!! just keep praying and hope for the best! baby dust to you and me!

Answer 7

At no point do you give up!

Being a mommy is the greatest gift in the world, and even if it means you have to go through h**l and back to get there, it's worth every step. Science has come a long way, and most people are able to have children one way or another thanks to it.

I know what you mean. I had an unexpected pregnancy when I was very young & I feel so blessed! However, I'm getting married next year and my FH already knows he has infertility problems that we are going to have to face when we start trying. Meanwhile, two people I know are pregnant - one already has 3 kids and is on welfare and cannot support any of the ones she already has & the other is a druggie and has mental issues/bipolar and is sucking off of the state as well. *Sigh*.....isn't it terrible that I'm already sad that I'm probably going to struggle to get pregnant and they just look at a p***s to get pregnant?? Anyway, I wish the best of luck to you and everyone else!! Don't ever give up :)

Answer 8

I'll have to admit it - I DO get extremely jealous over other people who get to be pregnant and have children. My hubby and I have been TTC our first child for 2.5 years, and it has been so hard!!!! I mean, even walking around the mall and seeing all these people with babies makes me so mad and depressed all at the same time. I just get so angry at the fact that I can't see to get pregnant!

So yes, it's probably mean, greedy, and awful, but I just had to be honest!

Answer 9

I have had 5 misscarriages and tried to get pregnant for 3 years. I did fertility testing I went a on strick diet lost weight tried everything and nothing worked Me and my husband accually split up for a few months because one of my misscarriages were so hard, friends all around me were getting pregnant so easily and I hated them for it. After me and my husband split we got back together and decided we needed to wait for a couple of months to try to get pregnant untill we got our personal problems situated 7 weeks later I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant and now have a 6 month old baby girl. Every body told me i needed to just forget about my problems and let it happen but when it comes down to it you can't just forget about one of the best things that a woman could go through! I am now trying to get pregnant again and am going through the same situaltion I can't just let it happen naturually I count the days and watch for ovulation and plan s*x and it is eating me alive. When I know the magic trick is forget about it and let it happen. But I honestly believe that if you truely want and child more then anything you won't be able to stop obsessing, The think bitterness about conceiving is an every true mother flaw...