Do you forgive after he cheats on you?

Question

I originally had a gut feeling that he was cheating.. I did the wrong thing, I peeked in his email and found all the evidence i needed. I confronted him with it and he couldn't deny the friendship, but denies that anything happened. He reckons that it was more of a friendship than anything else and swears that they never actually had s*x. To me, s*x or no s*x the intent was there, am I right??

Anyway, he wants me to give him another chance, and to be honest, we've got 3 kids. I'd like to give him another go, but it's harder than i thought. Any advice would be appreciated.

Answer 1

In all civilized countries and even in Muslim ones, people are not considered guilty  and punished until they commit the crime. Have you never fancied another man? Actor, pop star?

Just talk over your problems with your husband, forgive, try to look sexier and do not be so ready to abandon your vows and deprive your children  of their father. They have rights too.      

Answer 2

I agree with you the intent was there, but the actual thing is different. I would give him another chance, but stay vigilant, he will probably try again.

Answer 3

You have to decide. Are you going to live in the past and wonder what may or may not have happened or live today. What he does or doesn't do has no affect on you. If you want to stay because of the kids then do it. If you don't think you can then move on. You need to live your best life and be happy. If you don't think he can make you happy then go.  

Answer 4

hey hun it's going to be hard trusting him again but  if you give him a second chance you have to let what happened go  like when yall fight you can't throw that in kay give him  a real second chance if that's what you deep down want

Answer 5

I am in your situation right now.  It is very tough and I definitely feel for you.  I keep imagining them together.  In the end I will have to do what is best for me and my daughter.  In the end you should do what is best for you.

Answer 6

I agree. The intent was there.  The time with this person online should have been spent with YOU and YOUR kids.

HANDLE YOUR BUSINESS  it is only a matter of time before he steps off with the real thing.  

Answer 7

if you really love him, you can get through it.he probally didnt do sexual activity with her because he thought about you. Give him another try.think about the kids.they need a daddy ttoo. And you would go through much more with breaking up.

divorce.court.lawyers.papers.need alot of money.dicide where kids go.get your partner to sign everything.etc etc.

give him another go.

Answer 8

no one said it was easy.