Do you forgive easily or do you need time?!?

Question

If you forgive easily: Does it mean that you have a great heart or that you take everything easy and don't care? You just tell the person, that you have forgive him - without even to think about what happened or what does the forgiveness mean for that person?!??

If you need time: Why do you need time? I thought "Nobody is perfect". So why you can't forgive easily? Nobody is an angel, we're all humans and that means that we all make mistakes. How would you feel if you ask someones forgiveness and he tells you that he needs time?!?

Answer 1

Yes Al7amdolellah I forgive and forget easily and fast.

And whenever I feel that I still have some "bad" feelings towards anyone, I pray to Allah and ask him to: "Allahomma la tag3al fee koloubena 3'ellan lellatheena 2amano" that ayah means that I'm asking Allah not to let any hard feelings or hatings at my heart for any Muslim. Because there is a hadeeth that says that if someone has a very small amount of hating for anyone else, he won't get to the Jannah.

So, I always try to forget and forgive easily and quickly before I might die and it's too late:))

May Allah purify our hearts from any bad feelings for any Muslim and make us all loving brothers and sisters and accept us in his mercy and send us all to his great Jenan, ameen.

Answer 2

personally, i 4give easily and it kinds backfires

cause the person keeps making the same mistake, but i guess

i m just odd 2 4give them all the time ......

i would recommend that if its a big mistake then take ur time cause the mistake could have really hurt u

but if its sumthing small, have a big heart and 4give the person....;)

Answer 3

Normally i forive very very easily quick and easily like example me an my brother we fighting the other day an like after we went to sleep an we woke up i acted like nothing happend it was like my mind reseted. an i totally forgot about everything.

i dont really hold "grudges" like i dont hold in things that people did to make me mad

Answer 4

look habebty, when am angry with someone i can't even look into his/her eyes, i hate this.

so i need some times to forgive and return pure towards this person again.

Answer 5

i really forgive so fast so my heart is relaxed but my friends tell me it's not a good thing

Answer 6

my best friend told me FORGIVE because oneday you may also need that FORGIVENESS for sth wrong you did so FORGIVE

TRULY:

i forgive but i cant be the same loving person again

i love and give once and from all my heart but cant do it twice

:)

Answer 7

i just need time

Answer 8

I Forgive so easliy

but when a person really hurt me that i can't forget it for him/her i don't forgive easily

and i can't be like what i used to be with her/him

Answer 9

I forgive very easily if the lesson was learned or the apology is genuine. Why let BS run and dictate your life. Life is short so enjoy all the joys and give hate plenty of space!!!

Answer 10

Overall, I do forgive easily.  I wouldn't say it is because I have a big heart.  I do care.  It depends on what the person did and how big of a situation it is.  If it was something that was done just once and it wasn't such a big thing, then I will forgive.  However, if it is something that is done over and over then I will not forgive so easily and I will need time.  And I will not forgive easily if I am so nice to somebody and they are not grateful and/or do something so bad to me.  If someone killed your mother, or someone close to you lied to you and stole all your money, or you try to do everything for them and they are ungrateful and tell you that you don't do anything for them, will it be easy to forgive them?

I am the kind of person who likes to make peace with people.  Overall, I don't see the purpose of holding grudges because I know people who do and they are not happy at all and always talking about what "so-so" said or what "so-so" did.

Answer 11

You're very emotional, just like me! (it doesn't work these days honey... too bad)

Siiiigh... If i really love this person, i'd say "i need time" although i forgive him just once he says "hi, i'm sorry". If this person deserves to be forgiven then forgive him, if not then tell him NO i don't forgive you and walk away.

For a person (3abet) as i am, i forgave my ex fiance although he caused me horrible pain and almost cursed and left me for a b**ch.. when he came saying sorry, i pretended to be very angry and sad but within me i forgave him once he said sorry. he gave me the lesson of my life, which is not to be that (3abeta) kind of persons again. and we broke-up forever cause he made the same mistake and cheated on me again and that's when i said "I HATE you" and i really meant it.

But if someone told me "i need time to forgive you" then i would know that i made a big mistake that caused the other person pain and he/she needs time to feel good about me again, i have to respect and accept that cause it's something i deserve.

Causing pain to someone isn't an easy.

Edit:

In this case ba2a ... forgivness is a greaaaat thing. don't forget it's one of Allah's names!

Glad i helped ;)

Answer 12

when i feel that the person who did me wrong doesnt have bad intentions , that it was an error in judgment , i forgive them and tell them to take care of what they say or do in future .

if i feel they have bad intentions , i dont forget or forgive them.

i dont punish them.

i just avoid them and dont trust them in future .

Answer 13

7abity it depends on what they did and how much I am hurt over it. Sometimes we need extra help to enable us to clear our hearts or it can eat away at us and cause us greater pain. The best way to help us to forgive someone is to forgive for the sake of God and know what ever it is -Allah swt will give justice, peace and relief of the heart.

Answer 14

I dont know forgive.....neither I want to learn, so I dont want be hurt.