Do you get along with your Mother-in-Law?

Question

I am just wondering if other people have problems with their mother-in-law? Or if the relationship is good?

Answer 1

hmmm... i wish we got along well. i have always tried to get a good relationship with my MIL. but, what to do.... she prefers not to. always trying to "teach me" as though i dont know how to manage life & her son... but infact, i can see that she is a big zero in domestic matters.

we dont stay together... but she hurts me emotionally over the phone (calls almost everyday). but, now i rarely talk with her... talks only for the SAKE of talking... keeps a distance however i can. according to his family, i am to b given 2nd preference to his family. his family comes first.

the usual story goes on.... blah... blah... blah... the sad part is, my hubby is a "moma's boy"... always ready to b brain-washed by his family...

i wonder, why do they even get their son married if they didnt want to love his wife? why cant their sons just live like a bachlor, happily with his mother?

the goverment should bring a rule that the in-laws will b fined heavily if they try to interfere in their children's family life, unnecessarily.

Answer 2

She has her days...someday she likes me other days she will call me up and ***** at me for no reason.  I think she is bi-polar.

Answer 3

I get along with her fine. There are some things we can do together. There are other things that we don't have in common, but if they are really important to the other, we are open and courteous about it.  

Answer 4

I get along fine with my second mother in law, shes a wonderful person and I respect her and adore her

my first mother in law..she HATED ME!! Even to the point that she told me I wasnt allowed to marry her son (Oh I wish I had listened to her lol)

I dont know why she didnt like me, I was always nice to her, even when she would sniff and say to my ex "why do you bring that woman here, not even the dog likes her"...coincidentally..the d**n dog loved me lol

Answer 5

I've never really spend more than a few hours at a time around her...except over nite once but its not a big deal.  Shes really needy of my husband (he's her only boy..has a daughter too, just the 2 kids) and has been divorced for 10+ years and nosy and jealous that her ex has moved on...shes is still not over that yet and keeps drama going.  Thats irritating and shes hard on herslef and lot.  But we get a long fine.

Answer 6

I dont think  i will get along well with my future mother in law.

Answer 7

yes we get along pretty good been married to her oldest son for 24 yrs she didnt care for me to start with i was number 2 wife but after she seen i wasnt going anywhere and loved her son and respected himshe finally came around we talk about ever other day  

Answer 8

well my first one was a nightmare i married her only son she did everything in her power to separate us it finally worked and i let him go my present one i barely see shes an rn who works double shifts 6 days a week but when shes around shes a wonderful person  

Answer 9

Relationship was good, when she was alive. She is deceased now.  It was one sided though.  I had to tolerate her and to accept her for who she was....

Answer 10

Let's put it this way, while I DO get along with my Mother in Law, as I choose to Honor her as I would my own mother....this doesn't negate the fact that:

No one cooks better than her.

No one is as wise as her.

Only SHE knows how to raise kids properly.

No one is good enough for her precious son.

Answer 11

my mil is a very nice person, but she and i just have diffrent priorities in life. i try very hard to make my husband understand that our daughter, our relationship and our home come first and she tries very hard to make him forget that. i figure in another 15 or 20 years when she accepts he has gotten married and has responsibilities of his own well get along great. but i do appreciate her and the fact that she loves our daughter more than anything and i respect her if i need her she is there no questions asked.

Answer 12

I started getting along with her after she croaked.

Answer 13

We have our good days when we laugh and talk on the phone and then their are times I want to slap her to another state. I try to keep it civil but we are sooo different yet sooo alike. Sigh. I'm getting stressed think about it. I'm done.

Answer 14

well i used too, i confined in her, she also told me one time that i was like daughter she never had, everything was going  good till one day i told her how i discipline my child, and the way i explain to her it came out wrong. and she told her son my husband and he has been mad at me for some while now, not to mention she does coke, and told her son that she was having nightmares about it.... but since then it has been a wake up call to me not to every trust her again. and she always asking me for favors, but she did me wrong.

Answer 15

Yes I have a totally cool mother in law.  She is a bit very old fashion and extremely closed minded as my wife. Other than that she cool!  She has never interfere or bud in with our marriage relationship. She is NOT, bi-polar, complainer, nagging or negative.  She is perfectly normal and some what a very professional woman. So my mother in law is slightly professional.  Thank God! My marriage relationship could of been alot worse like some folks that go thru totally h**l on earth with the beautiful in-laws.  

Answer 16

We get along fine, but she's not by best friend.

Answer 17

We have a great relationship now, but before it was not good I felt really bad but I had to put her in her place a few times and that is what ended up making us have a great relationship..

Answer 18

I love my mother-in-law she has done so much for me and I will be grateful forever.

Answer 19

Ours is great! We chat and hang out, shop and just enjoy each other, more like friends than a MIL. She treats me like I'm her family.

Now, my FIL on the other hand... That is the complete opposite! I've been with my husband for 8 years, will be married for 7 of them in December... have had two kids with my husband and STILL... I'm not good enough or even part of "his" family. So, I no longer try... The way I see it, if he wants to treat me like I'm the scum of the earth after everything I've done... Then why should I try to make a relationship with the man...

Answer 20

My Mother-in-Law passed away years ago, but when she was alive she didn't like me married to her daughter. She felt I was a bum and worthless. I will never buy her daughter a house and nice car, no nice jewelry and the list goes on and on.

Her Mother was a perfectionist and wanted her daughters to marry rich men, but instead they married guy's that were half baked including me.

h**l I didn't own acar when I got married and all the money I had was $300.00 to my name.

Well in my case I finally bought a house and got Service Connected at 100% and went to College and finished and graduated. In fact when her Mother was on her death bed they told her Al graduated from College and she had a smile. I never went to see her. I refused to see a woman that hated me so much.

Then the remarkable happened read my story and you will understand sometimes God lets people have one last word in before they go to heaven>http://www.castleofspirits.com/stories02...

Answer 21

Unfortunately I never got the chance to meet my Mother in Law, but I hear she was a wonderful woman and she certainly raised a wonderful son.

Answer 22

I get a long with mine.  She is unbeleivable.  She respects her kids and their families yet can speak her mind to us.  And she gets it back.  I've got a great relationship with her.

Answer 23

I don't have one. She died when he was 6. My father in law on the other hand, is just as bad as your "average mother in law".. A know it all, who doesn't know a darn thing.  And can't fix, call or go anywhere without his son. He's got two single adults living with him, but he doesn't trust them to make a phone call, or take him anyplace or fix anything so he calls MY Husband. And if the doctor tells him he has high cholestrol, than EVERYBODY Has High Cholestrol. He will call up and lecture everybody about what to eat. I guess I can go on and on, but he is VERY Annoying.  

Answer 24

I can tolerate her for about 3 days.

Answer 25

been married twice got along well with the mother inlaws but the father in laws couldnt seem to find a common ground with either of them

Answer 26

We're not crazy close or anything but we're very civil, always are talking and joking around and my mom and her have gotten kind of close. She definitely has some things about her personality that I do not like, but I try not to let that interfere with my overall opinion of her. She helped raise the man I am with and for that I am forever grateful. ;]

Answer 27

My MOL now is deceased, but my MOL from my previous marriage.... whew! She is somethign else! I could tolerate her for all of 5 min! She thinks she is better than everyone else and does not think its wrong to tell you! No matter what we did our lifestyle did not meet her approval and she had a opinion for EVERYTHING! Geez, so dont miss the ex in laws! But my ex did have a step mom that i loved to death! We hung out all the time adn still email each other!

Answer 28

Yes, I did. She was a wonderful person. She was my friend, my exercise partner, my neighbor, my mom. She and I had a great relationship. I moved in with her & my FIL when I was 18 while my husband (then fiance) was out of state at college. They let me stay there rent-free, they GAVE me a car, and they let my husband and I build a house on their property. If it weren't for her, I'd be soooo much worse off right now.

She died of cancer 2 years ago. There is not a day that goes by that I do not wish she were still here. I wish everyone could have a relationship with their MIL like I had.

Answer 29

I get along with her but sister in law is a whole different story.

Answer 30

I am not with my husband anymore, but I had a GREAT relationship with my mother in law, she's a real sweetheart... and I still have a great relationship with her.

However, never had a great relationship with my father-in-law from h**l and  SUPER glad I don't have to deal with him anymore! Less I see of him, the better!!!

Answer 31

i think the relationship between mother in low and son in low like mother and son but man or woman must know wher does going wrong.