Do you get judged before people get to know you?

Question

People always say to me, (mainly dog walkers) before we start talking, they are often a bit wary, because I have green and black crazy hair, wear a lot of black/neon clothes and just not 'normal' really. (People often think I'm depressive, mean and hate all living things) Then they realise how passionate I am about dogs etc and then say they were wrong about how I am. It's just really nice to hear them say that :) Of course some people will avoid me, but when they do I still smile and say hello. I don't bite. :)

Have you ever been wrongly judged by the way you look?

Answer 1

All the time. Most of the time with me its based on my race. For the simple fact that I'm a black woman people tend to assume that I'm mean, bitter, and hateful (confrontational) until they get to know me and realize that I'm the exact opposite. But this is usually after they've assumed that I'll roll my neck and snap my fingers saying "I know you didn't!". I constantly have to prove myself to people before they even get a chance to know me.  

Answer 2

We'll people look at me as that I'm fat when I am all muscle. They do not know what is coming. I know a billion people that dress like you. They are the nicest people you will ever meet.

"What the bloody h**l???!?!?"

lol lol lol lol

Answer 3

All the time. I'm part latino, part white and I get the nasty treatment all the time because most of my friends are latino, white people look at me like "what's that white kid doing with all these hispanics," and latinos themselves, especially in customer service, will give my friends the nice treatment and either blatantly ignore me or be extremely rude to me.

Also, because of my voice and percieved sexual orientation I also get treated bad. Just because I may not be straight doesn't mean I'm going to hit on every straight guy I see and just because I look at someone doesn't mean I'm checking him out. I'm the quiet, introverted type (as a result of all this bullsh*t), so people also percieve me as strange, quiet, weird, and "something wrong with him".

Really I'm one of the nicest, most open minded people you may come across, very spiritual, can be a bit ditzy but overall I'm a good person. I'm proud of my latino heritage just as much as I am of my european heritage (if not more proud of having latin blood). I'm the kind of friend you'd go to for advice or if you need a shoulder or helping hand. I have my flaws but don't we all? = ) Smile.

(I'd be your friend, by the way, I love different people who are  individual). = )  

Answer 4

Try being 6'6 and going anywhere. If I look the slightest bit scruffy everyone thinks I'm going to rob them. If I'm clean cut and well dressed they all expect me to lift heavy things (200# +) and reach for the top of store shelves. (Like they couldn't hop or something. )

The worst part is corners. I've made it a practice to take blind corners as wide as I can. If I don't people are always running into my lower chest, looking up and screaming. (Like I'm going to hurt 'em or something.

Then there's  trying to get around some one. You walk  behind them and in a soft spoken voice say something like 'Pardon me' or something mean and evil like 'Excuse me please,ma'am' and they jump out of their skin, their eyes get wide and they start getting ready to scream or mace or both.

So yes, I get judged quickly and harshly. I'm thinking it's mostly because people have to look out for their azz. And when someone is out of their comfort zone they try not to have anything to do with the thing or person that makes them uncomfortable.  

Answer 5

yes, people think I'm uppity just because I dress nice. It's  just not true. I love wrestling and playing flag football and when people look at me they say I don't look like that type of girl that would play football or watch wrestling.

Answer 6

YES!  

I'm an EXTREMELY feminine looking girl. No one can believe that a girl like me would play XBOX, PS2, Gamecube, or any other game system!

I have a boyish personality, but look like a girly girl.

They always say, "Man, I had no idea you would be this cool! I've always thought you would be a preppy little b*tch!"

Looks can be deceiving! =]

Answer 7

No, I have not

Answer 8

Yep. I'm a bit reserved when I first meet someone. I've been called stuck-up, snob, B*, etc. None of which are true. I consider myself to be very friendly and approachable. I just don't trust people very quickly.

We ♡ you Sophie!  

Answer 9

Yes...I'm actually shy at first, and people take that as SNOBBISH. I'm far from a snob...just quiet if I don't know people well.

♥ you and your crazy hair :)

Answer 10

yes, I get judged all the time by the way I look.  By family members and people who know me and by people who do not know me.  I do not mind people I do not know judging me.   It is when I have family members judging me that really makes me angry.  It is too bad that they think they got you figured out.  Then they change the view they have about you after talking with you.  The worst being judged wrong that I have experienced comes from my Uncle.  My Uncle is my father figure the only male figure in  my life.  That is what makes him wrongly judging me all that harmful.  I have long straight hair and a beard.  I have a extremely invasive case of psoriasis on my face and scalp.  My hair and beard help cover up most of that part of the psoriasis.  Even after years of telling him why I keep my look the way I do.  He insists on telling me that I have made whatever statement with the look I need and cut the frigging hair and beard.  All I can say to him is you do not frigging get it there is no statement to be made.  Just frigging listen to me.  It drives me nuts and makes wish for death at times.  To be judged so badly from a love one cuts deep.

Answer 11

Today's world is all about appearance so obviously people are going to judge you by the way you look. You shouldn't take any notice as they don't t really know you.I think it's wrong that people are judged like this because people may get hurt and be avoided because of the way they look or dress when really they are really kind and fun. I don't think appearance should be priority when talking to people.