Do you have a bad bridesmaid story? What did she do?

Question

Did you talk to her about it and did your issue get resolved, or did it only wind up getting worse?

Answer 1

My maid of honor backed out on me 4 months before my wedding. She said she "couldn't afford it" which would usually be fine but her soon to be fiance makes about $100k per year. She had the gall to give ME attitude about it when I had chosen to keep my mouth shut and just say Ok...

I had lost a baby earlier this year and she made the comment "you're adding to my stress level by being upset"

I replied with "I'm adding to your stress level? You just backed out of my wedding 4 months before its to happen, I've lost a baby, moved, changed jobs, and planned a wedding for the last year."

Her answer..."what stress? you lost a baby."

nice huh?  

Answer 2

- Begged me to be a bridesmaid, then dissapared. Dur to her financial status, I paid for most of her expenses. Refused to retun the RSVP back and I had to hunt her down for it. 2 days before te wedding she said that her son will not be coming, but her boyfriend that just got out of jail will be in attendance instead.

Top that

Answer 3

My sister was supposed to be my matron of honor and my best friend my maid of honor. That ticked off my sister so she stepped down as she didn't want to be a "co-maid of anything".

She then decided that she wasn't going to be riding in the limo in between the church and the reception because driving around all day in a limo is "trashy" and didn't think her husband would appreciate her riding in a limo with other men. (???OK???)

When it came time to order the dresses, she was 2 weeks late in ordering hers. The order was held up by HER.  I found out later that she never physically went into the bridal shop to get measured and has ordered a dress HALF the size of what she will need. Dresses have just come and and she has not picked hers up yet.

We have not made it to the wedding, so it'll be interesting to see if she gets the correct dress in the correct size. The limo has been worked out and she has agreed to ride in it with us in between the church and reception since that's when we'll be taking pictures.

I told her since she couldn't be bothered to get measured and order her dress like everyone else, if she doesn't have that dress, she won't be able to walk down the aisle with everyone else. I mean, what can I do? She's my sister, I thought about "kicking her out" but knew that would only cause more problems in the long run.

Things have calmed down quite a bit since the beginning but again, she has not picked up her dress and we have 8 weeks til the big day!!!

My own sister, Sheesh.

Answer 4

One of my bridesmaids was obsessed with herself. The whole day of getting ready, my maid of honor was right by my side with whatever I needed. The one bridesmaid was worried about herself and how she would look. After the ceremony we all came inside and she started going on about how nervous she was and hoped no one could tell, asking me (the friggin' bride) how she looked and if I thought anyone was staring at her.

She was "me me me" the whole weekend of my wedding. That was a year ago and I have only spoken to her once since.

Answer 5

I am having the same issue....my Maid of Honor has refused to email me back or return any phone calls in the past 2 months to me.  I dont understand whats going on with her either....If I dont hear from her by Christmas I am just gonna give up and take it as a lost friend.  There is nothing more I can do.

Answer 6

Not one of my own BM but a BM I was in ym BFFs wedding with... She is very bitter that she is not married yet (dating the same guy for 6 years, 2 kids, no ring - he has some issues but that's besides the point). Anyways, said BM started out fine. Then, she randomly began calling the bride and saying, "I'm prgenant!" and getting the bride all aggitated about being due on the week of the wedding, etc, and it was always a "joke". The bride requested that she please stop doing that because it wasn't funny and a few occassions I got a call from the bride on the verge of tears because the BM in question was continuing the stunt over and over and it was stressing the bride out. THEN the BM actually DID get pregnant - and no one believed her at first lol (The Boy Who Cried Wolf comes to mind...) And then it was ALL about HER and the pregnancy and she constantly complained about everything out loud because "I can't do this, I am pregnant!" IO honestly believe she just wanted attention. Anyways her baby is due next week and the wedding went off without a hitch because we were able to re-order her dress in a larger size (thank goodness!). That was about the worst... The bride did talk to her openly about all the complaining but the girl just went on and on so eventually the bride just started ignoring her.

Answer 7

Yes!!!  My Maid-Of-Honor, who is also my sister and best friend, decided to get knocked up, after I had already set the wedding date.  Her due date was supposed to be a 1 1/2 weeks after my wedding, so we thought we'd be okay.  She bought a maternity bridesmaid dress, had it altered, and everything.  She went into labor the day before my wedding, and had my nephew the night before, so needless to say, she didn't make it to my wedding.  However, I love and adore my nephew more than I can say, and I wouldn't have changed a thing!  One of my favorite wedding pictures is the one taken the night of my wedding.  My husband and I went to the hospital after the reception,still in our attire, and surprised my sister, who was upset that she didn't get to see me on my wedding day.  I have a wonderful picture of me holding my nephew for the 1st time.

Answer 8

My sis in law decided to drop out of the wedding party because she didn't like the dress.  She wanted a WHITE, yes white, Gone with the Wind style and everyone else voted on a very classy elegant dress.  She got in a tiff and called ONE week before the wedding.  Actually she didn't even call, she had her mom do the dirty work.  

I had to call one of my friends on the spur of the moment and explain what happened.  She was a good friend and I should have asked her first but I wanted to smooth things with his family.  But my friend was in pharmacy school and had no money so I had to pay for her dress and a rush fitting.  Then because I did that, I felt I should pay for all the dresses.  Sis in law cost me $6,000!    

Answer 9

The biggest problem I had with my bridesmaids who happened to be my sisters was that I had the gall to demand that they where hose and a slip under their dresses for the wedding!  This was nice event, not a try and get laid event!!  

Answer 10

My brother's fiancee is one of my bridesmaids. Whenever I talk about my wedding (even if it's just telling people what colors I'm using), she always has to chime in about hers. She can't just wait for her turn & let me have my day ! Oh & this is also the same girl who told me that I will be a bridesmaid in her weddning unless I get pregnant (she knows we are going to start trying to start a family right after our wedding) as she said that she "can't deal" with a preg. bridesmaid & taht it will also ruin the "look" she is going for. I guess I have a horrible bridesmaid/bridezilla combo on my hands !

Answer 11

My problem is with my MOH.  She is stressin me big time.. just some of the things so far..

1) Insisting that only she gets to see my dress before the wedding.. she doesn't even want my daughters or my mom to see it.

2) She wants me to tell the guests that they cannot wear the colors of the wedding.

3) We wanted a sweetheart table for my fiance and myself but she has complained about someone at every table we had her sitting at so we ended up putting her and the best man at our table.

4) She complains to everyone that I'm doing everything myself, but when I call to invite her to help she's too busy.

The list goes on and on... why oh why didn't I elope???

Answer 12

My bridesmaids were all great!  However, my niece was supposed to be my flowergirl.  Due to my sister, I had to "unask" my niece to be the flowergirl...what a nightmare!

First, she wouldn't agree on the style of dress that I picked out.  She kept insisting on a princess type dress that was all poofy because she thought her daughter would look so cute.  She wouldn't listen to the fact that it wasn't a fancy wedding and my niece would look out of place. Then she suggests that she let her husband choose the dress...um, no!

Then she refused to pay over $100 for the dress (although she made the comment that she would've paid over $200 if I'd asked her to be a bridesmaid...which I didn't b/c I didn't think she could afford 2 dresses).  I made a deal with the bridal store to give her a discount and found an adorable dress for $75.  When I call her to tell her, she told me that she couldn't afford to pay for the dress before the deadline to order.  So she suggests that she just go shopping and find a dress for about $20 (without me even seeing it).  I told her that was unacceptable and I would find a different flower girl.  Besides, I figured if she couldn't afford $75 for a dress, how is she going to afford the airfare to get herself and her daughter to the wedding.  

Answer 13

One bridesmaid was completely self-centered.  The week of my wedding, she didn't want to drive 30 minutes to my house to make the wedding programs, favors etc.  She asked if I would take all those things to my fiances home in another city so it would be more convenient for HER.

Then when it came time to choose the dresses she refused to have her dress altered.  I wanted the girls to wear tea-length and she called me up to argue about it.  I gave in to that request but the fact she was adamant bugged me.

On my wedding day when I picked up my dress, the store clerk didn't want to hand over my gown because she insisted that I pay for her bridesmaid dress.  I didn't pay for any of the other girls dresses (only the shipping costs of the dresses).  So this was very very irritating on the day of my wedding.