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Do you have a greater emotional attachment to your first child?

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I know you parents out their love all of your children equally, but do you feel a stronger bond to your first child? Or any of your kids for that matter?

My mom had me when she was was 17 (I'm 15 now) and since she has had my 12 year old brother and my 3 year old sister. My mom has always told me that I was her favorite person on the planet, and she'd rather hang out with me than anyone else.

My aunt also had her daughter at 17, (shes 11) and now she has a 2 year old son too, but she always refers to her daughter as her 'hero'.

Is this the case for you? Do you feel stronger for your oldest child? If so, why is that?

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  1. Find out what your mom says to your brother and sister.  A lot of parents tell all their kids that that kid is the favorite.  It lessens sibling rivalry.


  2. No, I feel equally attached to all of them.

    I hope your mom says that only to you and not with the other kids around.  What a hurtful thing for your siblings, otherwise.  Or perhaps she's like my grandmother, who'd tell each of her three kids that they were her favorite.

  3. I am an only child, and I am not a mother, so I don't fully know, but I would assume so. I think of it as losing your virginity, that is really important the first time, so maybe the same applies to having your first child. Not saying that the others aren't important, but I can see how that would make sense.  

  4. Nope and never did. Though I love all my children the same amount, I bond the best with my 4yr son, who is actually my 3rd child. We have very similar personalities and he's like a mini male version of myself. We both have a lot of energy, love to talk and make people laugh. My oldest and youngest are much more mellow like my husband and my 2nd is a good mix of both.

    Best Wishes =]

  5. no! u do not each child is special 2 u in their own way. their both your kids and you love them equally.

    x

  6. I am not a mother, but I am the oldest of four girls. I would say that a parent may feel a stronger bond to their first child because it is the one that the parent first experienced all the joys of a baby with; with second children, parents have more experience and are better prepared for what to expect. But that's my opinion =]

  7. I think they feel that way because having children at such a young age is such a life changing event. My sister had her first daughter young and they have that kind of relationship.

  8. That is not the case for me....I had my first daughter when I was 18, her father was a deadbeat, and continues to be. My second child, (Im now married) I feel I have a stronger emotional bond with him...as he was created out of love, and not just a fling. I mean dont get me wrong, I love my daughter with all of my heart....but Im just not as close with her as I am my son.  I think alot of that has to do with the resentment I feel for her father.

    However, none of the resentment is taken out on my daughter, I treat her just as equally as I do my son.

  9. no my parents have it to me the youngest child...they wont flippen let me doing anything it drives me crazy.

  10. I love all of my kids!

    But I will always have a very special place for my 17 year old son.

    We were soooo close when he was entering his pre-teen/teenage years. Now I understand and respect that he's older and is trying to test out his wings :)

    17 year old son

    15 year old daughter

    7 year old daughter

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