Do you have a story about divorce that you wouldn't mind sharing with me? ?

Question

I am feeling so alone and maybe it would help me understand the process of many different things going on and what to look for and how to protect my self and children and how not to get cheated because he is the one with the good job. Thank you for your answers

Answer 1

Sad story.

Fell in love, got married, and found out she was more like a sister than a wife. Tried things for 5 years - and in the end decided we`d be better off going our separate ways.

Thankfully, no cheating, no kids, no fighting was involved - so in that respect i`ll probably not be able to help.

It`s c**p, you didn`t choose for this to happen - but the gritty reality is that this does happen.

Make the best of it, and don`t despair.

While the first couple of months might be difficult, and painful - eventually you`ll bounce back.

If there is/was fighting involved -the best revenge you can take is to live happy and succeed.

I`m not sure if this is helpful, but if you want to talk, send me an email through my profile. ( i guess i could say i`m safe, as i guess you are in the USA. I`m not - i`m in The Netherlands)

Answer 2

I was married for 2 1/2 years, I considered my self a good husband cooled, cleaned, worked, took care of my son and spend all my free time with them. But apparently I took her and her love for me for granted and dorve her expections of me way to high, so she met a real jerk at work fell for him and before she could cheat she called it quits. WOW it was really hard to let her go and embrace the fact that a month after we separated she was dating. I tried to keep things friendly and cave in to all her desires thinking that was the best thing, but it turned out to be a huge mistke. Now out of good will Igive her 80% of my income, she won;t sign the divorce cause we agreed I would only give her 30% of my income. I have moved on, but she still drives me crazy and makes me loose it every time she calls me to fight like if we where still married. We have somehow managed to be some what friends, we go aout to dinner sometimes and take our 3 y/o out together as a family.

I personally I'm a mess, I afraid of dating, the divorce is sucking my life and all my money. All this made me realize that I'm really bad at dating I always get cheated on. But don't worry it is really hard in the beginning, but it gets easier with time. If he acts likea an angry jerk it is jsut cause he hasn't moved on and will probably take him a lot of years to move on, cause he realized he lost the best thing in his life even if he does not show it or admit it.

Good Luck with everything and I hope things work out ok for you.  

Answer 3

Don't sign away any of your joint assets.

Get a good lawyer.

Go to a Parents Without Partners meeting to meet men who have children.  It's where I met my second husband.

Answer 4

I can only tell you from the viewpoint of a child (I was 7 when they seperated).  My mom was our sole caretaker, my dad was in the Army and gone most of the time before they seperated.  My mom just left one day to California when we lived in NY.  My dad got out of the army and had custody of us.  After she got to CA she kept in touch with us.  Though as you can imagine it was really hard for a 5, 7 and 8 year old to handle.  We visited her for two summers and then she moved back to NY.  My dad kept custody of us and we saw my mom on weekends and holidays.  A lot of the time she would back out on us at the last minute, you know while we waiting at the window with bags packed, with some excuse about work.  This probably sounds bitter, but I'm over it all.  She knows she made some major mistakes and we have a good relationship now.  I think of my step-mother (got with my dad a couple years after the seperation) as the mother who raised me and my real mom as the fun mom, since we got to do a lot of interesting things with her.  My parents didn't legally get divorced until my step-mom and dad got married, I'd say 4 or 5 years after the seperation.

Answer 5

my divorce was finalized last month after all the bs...

1. we've been separated for 10 years...

2.we have three children together and 2 live with me 1 lives with him...

3.he thought he was a player and fooled around on me when were together for the 1st 5 years..

4.took me three attempts to get the divorce to go through cause he refused to sign the papers...

5.ended up doing the divorce on my own with no lawyer...

6.he tried to get me to give him money just so he would sign the papers...(didn't get a cent off me)..

7.i made sure all his girls that he had dated in that past 10 years know that we were finally divorced..

8.they all thought it was i that refused to get the divorce..  lol

9.his now current gf thinks we have been divorced for years waiting to get that one alone to tell her the truth..

10.child support has said that he needn't pay for his children cause he cares for 1 while i have 2two..

and finally getting on with my life and now have a great partner that i've been seeing since march...but i have known for 13 years..

just remember that there is always a way to get through everything no matter how hard it seems at the moment...

just make sure when you go get the divorce have as much info on how much income you each recieve..

Answer 6

Mistake #1: I believed him when he said he wanted it to be a "friendly divorce". We verbally agreed that I would pay for the lawyer, who wrote the papers up, we both went into his office and signed them.  He said he would pay me back for half of it.  He also said he would pay me for half of our debt.  I got the house (which had no equity).

He didn't pay me any of it and ended up trying to s***w me over on other things.

Best advice: Talk to a lawyer.  Make sure you get a good one and make sure everything you want is in writing.

Answer 7

Married 18 years, several affairs on his behalf and then one day he said we should be divorce / I was never more happy then sad.  We agree that we would do the divorce our self so as to save money, we had a house which we need to sold.  The house sold, and my husband forgot all the promise he made to take care of me.  I had to hire a lawyer, and it was a year of court before we settle and the divorce was finalize    Please get a lawyer and put everything in writing because where is money is involved people will change........the nicest will become the meanest....protect yourself   lawyer.